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Buyer's Guide То Harnesses

How to choose a harness and strap-on that's right for you

There are three general types of harnesses - thong-style, two-strap and panty-style - and each one has its ups and downs. Additional considerations you should take into account are the material, the security and stability of the fit, the size of the O-ring (that's the piece that secures the dildo to the harness and sets the parameters for the width of the dong you can use) and most importantly, which strap-on to choose.

Harness Styles

Thong-style

Thong-style

One-strap (thong-style): this type of harness is built just like a G-string, i.e. a single strap runs between the legs. This is a surprisingly stable design, and you want a harness that will support a dildo without sliding around; a strap-on that stays in place looks more realistic and that will authenticity enhance your role playing even more. Many women also enjoy the friction that a strap running down the middle brings and will even wear them on every-day occasions. Some one-strap harnesses we recommend are the Eden silicone strap on kit and Eden strap on play vibrating silicone dildo and harness.

Thong-style

Two-strap

Two-strap

One-strap (thong-style): this type of harness is built just like a G-string, i.e. a single strap runs between the legs. This is a surprisingly stable design, and you want a harness that will support a dildo without sliding around; a strap-on that stays in place looks more realistic and that will authenticity enhance your role playing even more. Many women also enjoy the friction that a strap running down the middle brings and will even wear them on every-day occasions. Some one-strap harnesses we recommend are the Eden silicone strap on kit and the Dong with universal harness.

Two-strap

Harness Materials

Leather

As far as durability, quality and comfort are concerned, you can’t beat leather; Its reputation in all acts B&D and S&M is well deserved, and the cost is generally proportional. That’s because besides looking absolutely sexy, it also achieves a harness’s two main objectives: it’s comfortable and secure (as long as the fit is right.) In addition, it also molds to the shape of the wearer over time and has an organic feel. One easily surmountable obstacle leather products present is that they have to be hand washed, preferably with commercial toy cleaner or anti-bacterial soap. But big deal, right? We recommend the Diva corset harness.

Fabric and nylon webbing

Fabric harnesses usually feature nylon webbing straps with front and back pieces made from velvet, polyester and other materials.

Fabric harnesses are usually less expensive than leather ones but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be less secure. A well fitting harness of any material will stay in place and won’t slide around. Fabric’s largest advantage is probably that it’s washable, and that makes it hygienically superior. So if you find one you like, go for it. We would recommend the Soft touch harness.

Sizing

Two factors you should take into account when choosing a harness with the best fit for you are your waist size and whether you prefer to wear it lower or higher on your hips. A comfortable harness is crucial to your enjoyment and sexual satisfaction, and not all harnesses will fit you the way you like. Leather harnesses are generally adjustable to smaller waists sizes (up to 40-44") than those of other materials, and other harnesses can measure all the way up to 68". The Plus size beginner harness, for example, adjusts up to 72". In addition, your local tailor will be able to permanently customize many harnesses to your particular size.

Size XXS XS XS S S M M L L XL XL
0 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20
waist (in.) 23.5 24.5 25.5 26.5 27.5 28.5 30 31.5 33 35 37
hip (in.) 34 35 36 37 38 39 40.5 42 43.5 45.5 47.5

If you have a preference for how high or low to wear a harness make sure you get one with an adjustable crotch strap as well. Different harness fits allow different uses of leverage, and that preference varies from person to person, but the most important thing is to have a secure fit.