If you've never used Elastomer, check out the link and read up on it. Basically, it's soft, squishy, and you can use water or silicone based lubes with it. It's porous, but I don't think you'll want to share the Spider with anyone. But, if you're going to be spending time with your lady after or during, make sure you clean yourself up first with soap. You're in the shower anyway!
The outside is your basic abstract vulva/vagina shape. It's realistic looking enough to stimulate your eyes, but you'll probably never see an actual vagina shaped like this.
The inside is amazing. They actually modeled it to feel like the real thing. There's an A-spot and a G-spot, and all the bumps and numbs you'll find in there. They even threw in a Cervical Os, if you know what that is.
For the sake of completeness, here's a side-by-side comparison of how long the sleeve is. The Spider is on the left and a Fleshlight is on right. As you can see, the Spider is a little shorter than the FL, but really...I'm not 9" long, so it doesn't bother me at all.
Again, Spider is on the left and FL is on the right. The Spider's design is definitely more abstract, while the FL is very realistic (Stoya? Is that you?)
Honestly, as long as I can see myself going into and out of this, the visual stimulation works for me!
As you can see, the Spider is totally adjustable! You're probably going to want to pick up a pair of handles though - they're going to be VERY useful, especially during that standing there twitching and shaking part at the end.
The Spider is pretty much designed for shower use, hence the suction cup on the back. If you've ever used a Fleshlight, you know about the suction control on the back. Whenever I use a Fleshlight, I make sure that suction is all the way off, i.e. no suction at all. The Spider is set up the same way. Instead of a knob on the back, the bottom is vented so no suction can form in the sleeve.
The best part about using this in the shower is...
...EASY clean up! When you're done with the shaking and twitching (am I the only one who does that?), pull the sleeve out and detach the 2" suction cup from the shower wall or tub. Rinse them both out with the shower head (did you leave the shower running the whole time? There goes your water bill). The handles are also convenient here to give you something to drain/dry the cup and sleeve on.
Here is the Spider package next to a Pirates Fleshlight tin. As you can see, it's a little taller. The Spider's tube is cardboard, while the Fleshlight's is metal.
I LOVE this toy! Seriously, I've never been able to really enjoy shower sex. I've always worried about hurting myself or my partner. I don't have to worry now! I did invest in some anti-slip pads for the tub, but that's just being safe with silicone lube in the shower.
The material does stretch after a week straight of using it, but your results my vary. The material does get a bit tacky too, but I'm not worrying too much about it. Also, I noticed some kind of strange residue build up inside the cup. I'm guessing it's a mix of lube and treatment on the elastomer, but I'm not 100% on that. Either way, it wipes right out.
I'd give this 4.5 out of 5, but will round up to a 5. Seriously, this is BETTER than the Fleshlight. It's easier to use, clean, and maneuver.