I like the idea of spanking and dirty talk and such, but I don't think I would actually like being tied up and zapped or have nipple clamps on. I think I'm going to leave the stuff that requires equipment to the videos.
Some of it, but not all! We've actually gotten some of our best ideas from porn, or at least seen real examples of how they work in real life. For examples: pegging and bdsm. But there's other stuff that we (or at least I) have enjoyed watching, but would never want to actually try.
The kinkier porn that I watch, some of the stuff I would do, some of the stuff I wouldn't do. But it's fun to imagine, in any case. My partner and I dig each other's tastes in porn, and I have yet to weird him out.
I actually didn't watch porn back when I was dating... I watched the occasional risque movie but not all out porn... My male friends know I watch porn - not specifically what kind but they give no shits.
one of them however, does know. We often have long and involved conversations about sex and porn and any other topic under the sun because we have no judgements toward each other. He finds the whole pegging idea a bit strange but not disgusted or anything.
We've both kind of have this 'live and let live - whatever floats yo boat'(within reason of not harming other people) philosophy.
I have an "open book" policy with my wife on the porn I watch. She's always welcome to watch anything of mine. She HAS sometimes been a little creeped out (or maybe "overwhelmed" would be more accurate) by some of the things I like. Oddly, it's not the femdom or other bdsm stuff that she finds hard to take - it's mainstream hardcore porn. She finds the explicit sex, especially the focus on the genitals, very unappealing.