I give hubby oral nearly every single time. It's not to help with his erection, but just because it's his favorite form of forplay. He does my favorite things all the time so he should get hes favorite too.
Oral sex has the word "sex" in it, therefor it IS sex....
For My Man and I PIV is not really the main event. We even have sex without EVER having (intercourse) PIV in that session. Oral sex and toys are our main event, most of the time. PIV just fills in sometimes.
So, we don't ever make love without oral sex. Once in a while, with a real quickie, we may skip a BJ because we're in a hurry, but I always get some oral. He gets oral most of the time, unless we're in a hurry.
I just wanted to stress than ANY kind of sex is "sex." Don't assume that intercourse or PIV are the main event for everyone.