he may have a porn problem. he may have a whiskey-dick problem. he may have a confidence problem. i wouldn't jump to any conclusions. have you been together for a long time or short time? does he have trouble falling to sleep? have either of you gained weight lately? when you do have sex, how does he do? is it short. does he try to get you? is he selfish? does he ever get limp before he comes? if so, that can really mess with a man's confidence...and might rather jerk off than suffer the humiliation of not being able to perform. and it might have absolutely nothing to do with you or with porn. then again, he might have a porn problem. maybe you could put some porn on and jump him durring. no shame in that. transfer his desire back to where it's supposed to be. if porn gets him into sex mode, and you have sex with him once he's in that mode, he will probably begin to associate that mode with you. whether he has a porn problem or a confidence problem, i think this course of action would help either. maybe watch some porn while he's in the other room and have him catch you rubbing one out yourself. maybe he doesn't know how sexual a person you can be and you need to show him. and maybe he's just a douche with a porn problem and not worth the effort. so, is he a good guy, worth the effort?...or a douche who would not be that hard to replace? just some thoughts.