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Seems to be happening more and more for me lately, although sometimes I think shes just getting my attention.
i would be hurt for sure. anger isn't a productive response to this but feel what you feel. it's your actions on the emotions that are important. i would certainly discuss it with my partner, voice my concerns, my insecurities due to the issue (it would make ME feel totally insecure if he turned me down for sex and then went to watch porn) and see what becomes of it.
to give better advice i'd need more details though. is your partner turning you down and then going to watch porn? or just watching porn more frequently than you are having sex?