If you are in a relationship- do you let other people top you/do you top other people?

HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Do you find it acceptable to let other people (perhaps really close friends) top you or to top other people while in a long-term relationship? No penetration, but just do scenes?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes. It's all in good fun.
6  (17%)
No, never.
13  (36%)
Only if my partner was OK with it
16  (44%)
Only if my partner joined in on it.
1  (3%)
Other
Total votes: 36
Poll is closed
03/06/2013
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Toy Fiend Toy Fiend
I would only do it if my partner was comfortable with the situation.
03/06/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Do you find it acceptable to let other people (perhaps really close friends) top you or to top other people while in a long-term relationship? No penetration, but just do scenes?
Didn't even know what this meant until reading your post. Lol. I was thinking something totally different.

But no, not something either of us are interested in doing.
03/06/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I had a body writing session with a pro Domme, which he attended. I wouldn't rule out it happening again but it was more of a once off.
03/06/2013
Alyona Alyona
Only if my partner was OK with it
03/06/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Do you find it acceptable to let other people (perhaps really close friends) top you or to top other people while in a long-term relationship? No penetration, but just do scenes?
I wouldn't.
03/06/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Doesn't appeal to me, so nope.
03/07/2013
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Only if my partner is okay with it, which he isn't.
03/07/2013
Gdom Gdom
Nope, I'm pretty much cool with the whole monogamy thing.
03/07/2013
froggygal91 froggygal91
I'd prefer not to
03/07/2013
Roz W Roz W
Pretty much everyone I've ever played with identifies as polyamourous. In practice, this has meant having one more serious partner and a less-serious "play partner." I'm cool with having more than one person who I'm In A Relationship with. But good friends? That either needs to have explicit boundaries (for example, non-sexual play only where everybody stays clothed) or, if it's something that is going to happen over and over...I tend to define that as a type of relationship, in which case everybody involved needs to agree on what that means.
03/10/2013
RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I have someone I play kinky with when I go back to my hometown, but we avoid doing sexual things now that I'm in a committed relationship. This kink buddy is very, very good at hair pulling and choking. <3
03/11/2013
lolisadist lolisadist
If everyone is open to it then sure why not
03/11/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
My Master allows me to play with other people while we're apart (we're in a LDR,) but I'm not interested in playing with anyone else without him there. When we're together, we love playing with all sorts of different people, though.
03/11/2013
higs higs
I don't mind, but I prefer to be on top!
03/23/2013
Sir Sir
I'm not currently in a relationship or being officially served. I am quite content by being served by those in my community who find me worthy of their service, and I play with multiple people.

I am currently building a play partner relationship (I almost typed "relationWHIP" HA!) with two individuals, and one other person who I learn with. However, when I am in a relationship, I prefer to only play with that individual and learn with them. I am incredibly monogamous, even play with others does not interest me once I am in a committed relationship.
03/24/2013
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Occasionally, Ma'am has made exceptions to allow me to be Topped by someone, usually for a special reason or because someone was teaching Her a new skill and using me to demonstrate. She has Topped others, usually close friends, and Wwe have had play sessions where She Topped me and another bottom at the same time which is fun too. No sex is ever involved with other people. Wwe are sexually monogamous but will selectively play with others if the energy and situation is right.
04/30/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Do you find it acceptable to let other people (perhaps really close friends) top you or to top other people while in a long-term relationship? No penetration, but just do scenes?
I'm open/poly, and I know the people I'm seeing currently play with others and they know I do as well, so it doesn't really matter much to me As long as it's safe, sane and consensual!
05/05/2013
LoneOokami LoneOokami
I might allow another sub into play to top but only if my lover was ok with it
06/18/2013
Hipposterous Hipposterous
My boyfriend isn't very dominant sexually, and although we have kink play, sometimes I need pain play which he isn't comfortable doing to me. So we've agreed when that time comes that I need pain play we will find someone to top me.
06/19/2013
lalalalove lalalalove
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Do you find it acceptable to let other people (perhaps really close friends) top you or to top other people while in a long-term relationship? No penetration, but just do scenes?
Nope.
07/25/2013
Collogue Collogue
i would love to, but haven't had the opportunity
08/10/2013
LAndJ LAndJ
I'm close with my friends, but not the involve them in sex close.
08/10/2013
TransMarc TransMarc
I misunderstood the question. I thought it was about making scenes to each others, being angry and all, but for fun.
Now that I understood I would say yes, I'd like to do that, but never did.
08/11/2013
Total posts: 24
Unique posters: 24