Anyone else hate 50 shades of grey?

Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's porn, so I don't really strongly oppose it. I wish people didn't take it as seriously as they do, since there's better researched BDSM novels out there. As long as most people don't take it as a serious example of BDSM, it's fine.
07/14/2012
Contributor: LLmama LLmama
I enjoyed reading the book series! I'm on the 2nd one and although poorly written, it's just a fun read. I don't think the book is all about BDSM, I'm starting to get more of a ' how somebody can change for someone they love ' type of thing from it. I'm not into BDSM, but I don't think it gives it a bad name, nor a good one. The book has given me many ideas of things I do want to try, that I had never heard of like the silver balls. I've found new ways to spice up my own marriage.

Quite honestly, if people find reading as a hobby and do it for fun, and you enjoy a little erotic/romance/wtf because it's what you like to read, then awesome! I like it! I'm more so getting sick of everyone bashing it for negative reflections on the BDSM lifestyle
07/14/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
I posted this in the other '50' thread, but it probably makes sense to add it here as well. Katrina Lumsden is my new favorite reviewer.
07/20/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
I just find it painful to read and the relationship between the two main characters sends up so many red flags for me.
07/21/2012
Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
never read it because i've heard bad thing about it
07/22/2012
Contributor: Phantom2291 Phantom2291
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
Thank you. Agreed
08/04/2012
Contributor: CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
This explains my feelings.
08/04/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I've found it to be unsettling and full of nonconsensual scenarios. I'm sad that it's shaping so many people's views of BDSM. This video expresses a lot of my feelings about it quite well: link
08/05/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
I'm pretty put off by the entire thing. It doesn't sit well with me at all for several reasons. I don't think it portrays women or BDSM in a very fair or positive light at all. I get that maybe BDSM is truly like that for some people (the way 50 shades make it sound), but the majority are not. Most women actually do have a backbone. I agree, it doesn't put BDSM in a very healthy light. I really don't think it's well-written, but I suppose that's the writer in my being a critc. I just think it's something any horny person (even a teen!) could've constructed in very little time. Not unique, not a turn on. It's silly. It's not even realistic!
08/05/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by CoffeeCup
This explains my feelings.
I wish I had one of these flyers when I was in the bookstore the other day.
08/05/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
It is a love hate relationship with me, lol.
08/05/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
I've never read the series, and if I ever do it will only be for laughs. I just keep hearing how poorly written it is. I just want to scream to all the people I know who are reading it that there is much better FREE smut out there, and all they have to do is look for it.
08/05/2012
Contributor: Midnightsun327 Midnightsun327
It is obvious the books were not very well researched. She looked for the information she wanted and that was all. The books seem to have a very romanticized view of BDSM, and the whole "cured through the power of love" aspect is horrible, in my opinion, and gives the view that we, as a community, are all deviants who need to be cured.
There is no regard for health, either, and i often found myself wondering how she never got a UTI.
Most dominants I know, who care for their submissives and who respect their position as dominants, don't actively set out to attempt to *force* them to safe word. That isn't how things go.
And, in the last book, the last chapter, they describe flogging a pregnant belly. That is soooo not cool.
08/05/2012
Contributor: itismedi itismedi
I have never read the book/series. I did pick it up in the store and randomly flip and read two pages. It drove me nuts. WAY too poorly written for my standards. I realize it is not written by a professional writer, but she is a published writer which means she had an editor and a publisher. . .

Since I did not read them, I can only go off comments from various sources as to my other problems with the books. I am a (mostly) bedroom submissive (I am total in the bedroom and I would say halfish out) and we are into BDSM. I have a problem with the way he cut her off from friends and family (this should never happen, even in a contracted relationship), she starts out fearing him (no one should fear their master. This is the person they should trust most in life), the "sex" scenes are repetative. I understand that there are only so many toys and that things do get repeated, for example when we find something we really like we will repeat it, expand upon it, etc for quite awhile. However, she wrote a book and in a fantasy the sky is the limit. Why would she be so lather, rinse, repeat? Anyway, that is just my two cents (which will get you nothing! LOL).
08/16/2012
Contributor: smlove smlove
it's good in that it gets vanillas talking about kink, but the light in which it presents kink is not the best or very accurate. you win some, you lose some. hopefully after reading this, people will stay interested, but look for better written and more accurately portrayed kinky books.
08/20/2012
Contributor: mdnght mdnght
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
I hate it SO much, and you've pretty much hit the main reasons there in your post.
08/20/2012
Contributor: Badmew Badmew
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
I think that one major problem is how poorly written the book is, however I think that it would not have become "mainstream" if it did not portray BDSM the way that it does, as people not in the kink lifestyle might not be able to handle it. There are definitely other things available for people who really would like to get into the lifestyle.
08/21/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
I finally started to read the series, as everyone kept trying to talk to me about it.

So far, I've read the first one. There are parts of it that actually made me smile... there were certain conversations between Ana and Christian that reminded me of things that my partner has said to me. But, all in all... I am not impressed.

I think that I may have liked it more if it was written in a more mature manner. The writing style is just horribly juvenile! I was also expecting it to be a hell of a lot kinkier, what with all the talk that surrounds the series. Oh well. I'll read the second and third books to see what happens, but the writing sucks.
08/22/2012
Contributor: Vaginas Vaginas
to me, from what I've heard, it sounds like a 'twilight' for adults. I mean even the covers are similar. and they seem to be written equally poor.
08/22/2012
Contributor: xxombie xxombie
I have only recently started to delve into the world of bdsm with my husband (NOT because of those books though!!) Even considering this, I don't feel an inclination to pick these books up. Maybe inspiration to write something BETTER than what everyone is chalking it up to be anyways. I think I'll label these books as a "Pass."
08/22/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
I can't understand how anyone would pay for something so terribly written. If you want fanfiction, there's tons of it for free right here on the internet! I might be snooty but for me no book is 'fun' enough to power me through such bad quality writing when there are books that are fun AND well written that I could be reading instead :0
08/22/2012
Contributor: sumie sumie
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Originally posted by Vaginas
to me, from what I've heard, it sounds like a 'twilight' for adults. I mean even the covers are similar. and they seem to be written equally poor.
Well, it technically is a Twilight fanfiction. It was originally called Master of the Universe with Bella as Ana and Edward as Christian.
08/22/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
I refuse to read something that started as a twilight fan fiction.
08/29/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
it's on my to read list- so I'm not sure what I think of it yet
08/30/2012
Contributor: NorthBayLady NorthBayLady
I haven't read it, but everyone keeps making a big deal about it. People find it really good, I don't see what he big deal is. Everyone made a big deal about Twilight. I was the first movie and never watched the rest. I just don't see the big deal about getting worked up about something that may or may not be a flop. What is it all about?
11/08/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
It's a shitty book that pushes negative stereotypes about BDSM to people who don't know better. Not a fan.
11/13/2012
Contributor: KinkyKatiya KinkyKatiya
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I personally do not like the book. I do not think it shines a positive light on a BDSM lifestyle. I think it is great some people are willing to explore sexually because of the book, but I think the characters do not show a healthy happy relationship ... more
I started to read it and i didnt necessarily like it. it was to light for me
11/15/2012
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
I hate that people think its so great. Its just an average book.
11/15/2012