Are you open about being kinky?

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Are you open about being kinky?

SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Are you open about it or do you keep it a dirty little secret?
03/11/2012
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Sir Sir
Extremely open.
03/11/2012
bsgs bsgs
open with my wife, other people, not so much
03/11/2012
clp clp
I refuse to have partners that aren't, or won't at least try. This requires me to advocate (whether on a personal or more academic vein).
03/11/2012
Roz W Roz W
Among friends who are also open...which tends to be how I find partners also.

I also feel like some self-identified kinky people might have a limited definition of "kinky" (like, that kinky means that you're active in your BDSM community, or super into D/s). I don't necessarily look for people who label themselves as "kinky" so much as people who have positive, open attitudes toward sex, seem nonjudgemental, and who like to try new things.

I think there are a *lot* of people out there who wouldn't necessarily identify outwardly as "kinky" but who are to some degree. And that's cool.
03/11/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Are you open about it or do you keep it a dirty little secret?
What do you mean? Bringing it up to shock family or friends at dinner or at in normal social settings? No. I think it's inappropriate to bring up my sex life in regular social settings. I'm old enough that I don't feel the need to "educate" people all around me to try to legitimize what I do. I don't honestly care what people think, and I'm too old to want to shock people.

In a different setting, I won't lie. But, I feel no need to share my kinks with people who don't ask and honestly would do me or them no good to know about it.

With my partner? Of course. He's who I have sex with. I'm always open with him.

I'm secure enough in my sexual choices that I don't need to shout it from the rooftops. I'm not a 19 year old who feels like she just invented kink and needs to share it with the world, or shock everyone with her "wild" lifestyle. I have no desire to shock people just for the sake of shocking them. I don't understand the need to do that. One can be "honest" and discreet at the same time.

Sometimes, in many settings, the less said the better.
03/11/2012
Oliver Gray Oliver Gray
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Are you open about it or do you keep it a dirty little secret?
So open
03/11/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
The people that need to know do, mostly just my boyfriend, mother, and a few close friends. Once my mother is a little more...accepting of the fact (she doesn't mind but it creeps her out a lot) I do plan on being much more open about it.
03/11/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
There are a handful of people who know, but for most people it's not something that I'm super open about.
03/11/2012
Dnice Dnice
A little bit.
03/11/2012
Kitka Kitka
Mostly open, I keep it from certain people who I know wouldn't get it.
03/11/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
I'm pretty open for the most part but keep the really taboo stuff to myself.
03/11/2012
cheesewizz cheesewizz
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Are you open about it or do you keep it a dirty little secret?
depends on the person im talking to
03/13/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Only with my partner. Family or friends don't need to know about my sex life. Nor do I need to know about theirs.
03/18/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Only with friends I am very very close to, and only my partner knows me completely
03/18/2012
BloodHound BloodHound
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Are you open about it or do you keep it a dirty little secret?
I'm only open with a very select number of vanilla friends. Within the kink community I'm very open and proud of it.
04/06/2012
Boyqueen Boyqueen
I'm open to a few friends here and there, mostly because they always suspected and were there when I first started getting more into it.
07/07/2012
gypsymama gypsymama
Very open!!
07/07/2012
ScarletFox ScarletFox
Quite open, even some of my coworkers know.
07/07/2012
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