Suggestions for initiating light BDSM in the bedroom?

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Suggestions for initiating light BDSM in the bedroom?

AriaRN AriaRN
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Any suggestions on how to initiate some light bdsm in the bedroom?
06/28/2012
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Beck Beck
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Originally posted by AriaRN
Any suggestions on how to initiate some light bdsm in the bedroom?
Buy something cheap and simple like link

Start with the blind fold and whip. Don't whip right away, but tease with the tassels by dragging on their skin. See how it goes and you can bring out the cuffs and tethers next.
06/28/2012
Roz W Roz W
restraints. velcro is pretty low-risk, y'know?
06/28/2012
AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by Beck
Buy something cheap and simple like link

Start with the blind fold and whip. Don't whip right away, but tease with the tassels by dragging on their skin. See how it goes and you can bring out the cuffs and tethers next. ...
Any suggestions for encouraging your man to want to try this?
06/30/2012
AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by Roz W
restraints. velcro is pretty low-risk, y'know?
I tried restraining my man and he wasn't really into it? And he didn't seem too interested in restraining me. Any suggestions?
06/30/2012
Roz W Roz W
Ask him?
06/30/2012
Ashley B Ashley B
Ugh, I'm having the same question with my current partner. He's so vanilla. :\
07/01/2012
LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
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Originally posted by AriaRN
Any suggestions for encouraging your man to want to try this?
right there with you
07/01/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by AriaRN
Any suggestions on how to initiate some light bdsm in the bedroom?
start with some ropes
07/01/2012
Taylor Taylor
Are you more interested in the acts themselves (being tied up, flogging, etc.)? Or are you looking for a more mental aspect to it?

You'll definitely want to talk to him about it. Here is an article that addresses this same issue. You might get some tips from there.

If you do get him to try it with you, you'll want to be very encouraging about it, even if it wasn't exactly what you were hoping for. If you are negative about the things he did wrong, he probably won't try it again. If you approach it like "I loved how you pinned my hands down last night, maybe we can try tying them together with a scarf sometime" he might be more receptive. Also don't hide your enthusiasm if you do try it. If he sees how turned on you become when he ties you up, he might get more into it himself.

Also, trying something that he wants to try, might help push him along to try out what you want to do. I know my partner wasn't very interested on using toys when we first got together, but I sort of bartered with him and told him "If you use toys on me, I'm going to give to an unbelievable blowjob" and it worked. Now we both love doing both those things, but initially we didn't. With compromise though, we both got to be happier in the bedroom
07/01/2012
g- g-
My husbands was the one who started us on the path. He came home with a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, blindfold and a tickler and we became hooked. If I had to do it over I would have gone with padded velcro restraints, the cuffs were pretty cheap and uncomfortable, they broke after less than a month.

If he/she is really hesitant I'd start with just the blindfold and a BJ, warm them up to the idea.
07/01/2012
Scarlette Starr Scarlette Starr
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Originally posted by Beck
Buy something cheap and simple like link

Start with the blind fold and whip. Don't whip right away, but tease with the tassels by dragging on their skin. See how it goes and you can bring out the cuffs and tethers next. ...
Trying this kit soon
07/02/2012
AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by g-
My husbands was the one who started us on the path. He came home with a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, blindfold and a tickler and we became hooked. If I had to do it over I would have gone with padded velcro restraints, the cuffs were pretty cheap and ...
A blindfold sounds like a good start!
07/02/2012
AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by Taylor
Are you more interested in the acts themselves (being tied up, flogging, etc.)? Or are you looking for a more mental aspect to it?

You'll definitely want to talk to him about it. Here is an article that addresses this same issue. You ...
Thanks for the article! I like the idea of being tied up more than anything. I might try and bribe him with a BJ, I'm sure he would enjoy that.
07/02/2012
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