Ever had your bdsm lifestyle discovered?

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Ever had your bdsm lifestyle discovered?

pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
Anyone ever found your whip stash or bdsm gear, was it embarrassing, how did you deal with it?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
biancajames , NightKat , TwistedTruth , SomeGirl , SaMiKaY , Sir , Princess-Kayla ♥ , CoffeeCup , garylangworthy420 , Mwar , SubmissiveFeminist , Strider , xcapricax
13  (32%)
No
mlgrant , Ghost , McTavishes , MaryExy , Jon S , ColorMeCute , Iron Man , (k)InkyIvy , geliebt , LavenderSkies , Taylor , 131231e43 , hyacinthgirl , KyotoAngel , dhig , moments-in-time , dks210 , pokefan15 , humblepie , eroticmutt , sapphyre.wings , phoenixfire , Gdom , HisLittleFiend , hall5885 , hhh , Cowgirl-Cutie
27  (68%)
Total votes: 40
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12/11/2011
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McTavishes McTavishes
Heh heh...no, but I've had close calls. One time I had just taken my gag out and was going to put it away when I got distracted and put it on my desk and forgot about it. So I open my door, my mom comes in and bugs me about something, and leans over to see what I'm doing on the computer. Somehow she didn't notice the gag that was about 6 inches below her.
12/12/2011
biancajames biancajames
More like I've run into people I know from vanilla life in the scene. We'll both tend to smile and nod, though. I know my landlord has probably accidentally seen my toys, but I don't really give a shit- they can't evict me for it!
12/12/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
So far it hasn't happened, though my roommate has glanced over while I was putting away my rope. I don't know if she caught on, she just didn't ask any questions, so i didn't mention the issue.
12/12/2011
NightKat NightKat
All of my roommates eventually found out, but I feel like it was for the better. They text or Facebook me all the time saying "Don't tell anyone, but I was wondering if you could tell me about ____". I'm always glad to help!
12/12/2011
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I'm a little shy about my sexual preferences, but I'm not ashamed of it. If/when someone asks about it or sees one of our props, I just kinda shrug it off and remind them that everyone has different turn-ons.
12/12/2011
TwistedTruth TwistedTruth
Quote:
Originally posted by pleasurehunter
Anyone ever found your whip stash or bdsm gear, was it embarrassing, how did you deal with it?
I was moving to a town, my parents were boxing my room. I tried to warn them, but they found the strap on I owned while I was "playing" with my boyfriend at the time...
It wasn't embarrassing to me, really... I did try to warn them. Not my fault they didn't listen.
Now the joke, in my ENTIRE family (extended included) is that I have the biggest cock in the family. I just tell them they're jealous.
12/12/2011
bunnygrl bunnygrl
My roommates know, but they're more adventurous than me I think . Though some of my stuff is still stored in boxes at my mother's house, I'm a little worried she might find that one box before she sends them over X_X I'm going to have to warn her.... lol
12/17/2011
geliebt geliebt
So far, no. Though... my mom and stepdad are pretty obviously kinky too, which is totally weird to know, but I'm sure if they found out it wouldn't be an issue XD
12/17/2011
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
It's come up with my roommates. They know I have a sub and have some vague idea of what we do. They know that I have blindfolds and a ball gag because I offered them a spare blindfold. Unless they're deaf, they know that my beau and I engage in spankings and rough stuff.
12/17/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by pleasurehunter
Anyone ever found your whip stash or bdsm gear, was it embarrassing, how did you deal with it?
Fortunately no.
12/18/2011
SomeGirl SomeGirl
My parents have seen my extensive toy collection and my latex clothing and my "questionable" books. It never really came up in conversation. Though my mom loves to poke fun of me for my female sexuality books that revolve around stripping.
12/19/2011
Taylor Taylor
Hasn't happened yet. Hopefully it won't. Although I am getting a roomate soon, so that might make it a little bit more tricky to keep things a secret.
12/19/2011
131231e43 131231e43
Discovered? No. But I did come out to someone once.
01/20/2012
SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
Yes. It has happened to me. A friend was staying over so we could work on a project for school. I was taking a shower and she asked if she could borrow something (pjs or something like that). I told her where to look and I guess she misheard because when I came back in the room, she had this astonished look on her face. She had found my satin ties, gag, whip, plugs, etc. I apologized and she actually said she had been curious about things like that, so we spent the night introducing her to light BDSM. It was definitely an interesting experience!

And as for the school project, it was supposed to be about different situations affect human interaction. We forgot about it until we were in class the next day and somehow made our presentation about the D/s lifestyle is different than that of a "normal" relationship. We got an A, though our entire class was left open mouthed at the end. Including the teacher!
01/20/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by pleasurehunter
Anyone ever found your whip stash or bdsm gear, was it embarrassing, how did you deal with it?
Never had that problem (thankfully) but I don't think it would be much of an issue if such a discovery occurred.
Anyone that would be potentially snooping around to find such items already knows about my interests in BDSM.
01/20/2012
Sir Sir
No one "finds" anything of mine, I keep it out in the open. I do not care about who sees it, honestly, if they do not like it, they do not have to look at it or be around me.
01/20/2012
dhig dhig
nope, no one has found out.
01/20/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Kinda... I had to tell my mom about it, because she kept telling people that I would get mysterious bruises then act all nervous when I told her how I got them.
01/22/2012
moments-in-time moments-in-time
While moving out of my apartment with my dad's assistance, he was about to help clear out a top shelf in the bedroom closet when I averted his attention elsewhere. I had packed the bulk of my toys, but realized that the three-foot dowel with multiple eyelets(spreader bar) was resting on that shelf...and while there are some "pervertables" that are more easily explained, I don't believe that one falls in such a category...
01/24/2012
CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
My mom found my femdom erotica. All she really said was, "At least you're a top!"

I've never been sure what to make of that.
01/25/2012
dks210 dks210
Quote:
Originally posted by SaMiKaY
Yes. It has happened to me. A friend was staying over so we could work on a project for school. I was taking a shower and she asked if she could borrow something (pjs or something like that). I told her where to look and I guess she misheard because ...
Hahaha that's fantastic!
02/20/2012
Roz W Roz W
My good friends know (at least in the kink-positive, "we like toys" sense), and I am pretty sure those are the only people who'd be close enough to my personal living space at the moment to "accidentally" find anything.
02/26/2012
garylangworthy420 garylangworthy420
it always gets real awkward in any situations where my shirt has to come off and everyone can see my marks
03/07/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by pleasurehunter
Anyone ever found your whip stash or bdsm gear, was it embarrassing, how did you deal with it?
Nope, never had that happen to me
03/10/2012
Gdom Gdom
No, but the reaction would be absolutely priceless.
01/11/2013
HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Nah. One time, one of His friends saw a box of condoms and freaked out... I'd laugh hard if they saw the toys!

One of my friends, I didn't know he was such a kinkster, I was at his house chatting, and he just had this whip laying around the room, and I was like, 'You're into this?' and he began talking about dungeons. It was awesome.
01/11/2013
novanilla novanilla
I don't really care so I tell people and have even shown them things.
01/13/2013
xcapricax xcapricax
It wasnt really discovered I more of threw it out there lol
01/15/2013
Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
I haven't yet and there are some I know I could never tell. Those people are immediate family unfortunately. Some people just don't understand how BDSM can really be. Instead they see it as abuse or something shameful. It's annoying really. I'd love to be completely open at all times but society just isn't ready yet.
01/16/2013
Total posts: 30
Unique posters: 30