BDSM when Pregnant?

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BDSM when Pregnant?

SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
My partner and I had just dipped our toes into the BDSM lifestyle when we found out we were pregnant. We're no where near anything serious, mostly just spanking, nip clamps, light bondage, etc.

I was wondering what your opinions are on whether to continue it during pregnancy. I love what we were doing and was getting amazing orgasms but I don't want to harm my baby in any way.

Thanks!
03/23/2012
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Ghost Ghost
I honestly wouldn't do any activity that places you in bent/restricted positions, and especially no rope harnesses or anything around the abdominal area. I would also stay away from any activity that causes you duress or pain, as those activities release many hormones and other chemicals into your bloodstream (including stress hormones) which can affect the child in higher doses.
03/24/2012
GONE! GONE!
I would think anything that wasn't particularly painful would be okay (Like, wrist cuffs, blindfolds, et cetera.).
03/24/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I don't know how interested you are, but decorative rope bondage (just some light stuff) can be really interesting while preggers. It can make for some great pics too!
04/04/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
I agree on the rope bondage. I def wouldn't do much getting "throw around" while pregnant though just to be on the safe side.
04/04/2012
dks210 dks210
Keep the more violent aspects in the closet until after you have the baby, and stick with the lighter stuff. Just be gentle (as difficult as that may be with BDSM).
04/04/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I have had 5 high risk pregnancies, (I lost two of them) the first of which I didn't know was high risk until I went into preterm labor more than 3 months before my baby's due date.

We went a LOT more gentle during pregnancy. Nipple stim, especially extreme nipple stim in the 2nd and 3rd trimester can cause uterine contractions, so I'd put the clamps away until you are finished breastfeeding the baby and completely involuted. (Breasts have stopped producing fluid, it can take several month after the child weans.)

I know the orgasms are unbelievable while pregnant! Your uterus is huge and it is intimately involved in both sexual response and orgasm. Orgasm is absolutely fine as long as you remain low risk. At one point in all my pregnancies we were supposed to go "no sex" to prevent me from having contractions. We still had some sex, but he always pulled out (as semen causes contractions, and I was having them too early) and we had much gentler sex until after I was totally healed after the births.

Sex and orgasm are all great and good for you during pregnancy, but some BDSM activities, from nipple clamps to being bound (as you are more susceptible to blood clots during pregnancy, and even light bondage can cause blood vessel issues when you are pregnant) to impact play should usually be put on hold until well after the baby is born.

Sorry to be the bringer of bad news, but I've been there. We play hard, but with pregnancy we had to find more gentle ways to make love. It all turned out great, though. Our kids are all older and we can play as hard as we love to now.

Have a good time, but take it easy.
04/04/2012
SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I have had 5 high risk pregnancies, (I lost two of them) the first of which I didn't know was high risk until I went into preterm labor more than 3 months before my baby's due date.

We went a LOT more gentle during pregnancy. Nipple ...
Thank you so much for that info!!! =)
04/04/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
I would go for sensory play, bondage (fairly non restrictive), and roleplaying. Less trauma, more psychological aspects. Just to be safe. Plus it is only 8 months.
08/10/2012
Midnightsun327 Midnightsun327
While I was pregnant, I worked WITH my doctor to figure out a way to keep BDSM safe during pregnancy (I had a wonderful kink-friendly doctor). When I became a childbirth professional myself, I decided to mostly cater to the community.
It IS possibly to keep kink alive within a relationship involving a pregnancy, you just have to be careful and communicate well.
I would suggest searching the SexIs articles here on Eden to find more info.
08/10/2012
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