Calling him, "sir."

Supervixen Supervixen
This might sound kind of cheesy, but after months of trying to find a name to call my partner in the bedroom, I've finally found, "sir," and I love it. In our day to day life, I have a couple of nicknames for him that I call him affectionately, and he for me. But as we deepen our bond through BDSM, as his sub, there's a wealth of things he can call me that turn me on, and as odd as it might sound to some, are so affectionate, because I'm the only one he calls such things' they make me feel special to him. Those names include, pet, my slut (it's true, I'm a total slut for him!), slave, my bad/good girl, little whore, and even the more traditionally sweet names like dearest, my darling, and baby.

But for ages, I never knew what to call him! Daddy was out of the question thanks to an ex, and I never liked that much, anyway. Master seemed to be too much, too. Finally, I started slowly incorporating "sir" into our banter, and after sending him some photos of myself in my lingerie to him and asking him, "how do you like this look, sir?" he responded with a big approval of the photos and said, "and I love it when you call me sir." I felt all kinds of warm and fuzzy to have finally found a good title for him!

Besides enjoying the intimacy of special names for each other, I like calling names out when I climax--yeah, yeah, it might seem cheesy to some people, or like an invention from porn, but for me, it personalizes the act, and is a huge turn on for us both. I've never met a man who doesn't like to hear his name on the lips of a woman as she is overwhelmed with orgasmic bliss. Well, now that I know that he likes "sir," as we approach our reunion in the coming weeks after months apart, I am so thrilled to call him that as he pushes me over the edge of bliss.

How did you guys find your terms of endearment for your SO? Doesn't have to be BDSM related, but did you try different things out, see how it sounded/felt, or did it just come out of your mouth naturally?
12/30/2012
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novanilla novanilla
I always called my current partner the basic names you hear all the time. We really like sweetheart and use it the most. Just a few days ago I was talking to him and I just thought "tiger! that's it!"

I know some people use this as a basic name too, but I thought it would be good for him because sometimes when we're starting to get in the mood, he growls at me, and I also have a habit of making cat sounds when I want something so it stuck with the cat theme I had going on! He's also just really built, so a big tiger seemed appropriate and masculine. I can't believe I'm saying that as a queer individual but sexuality is fluid!
12/30/2012
Mwar Mwar
We're still delving into our bdsm side, so I don't know how far we'll go. I call him Master, but only once in a while.
12/30/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
'Ma'am' has always been very natural for me and as an address to a female Dominant, it just fits. When speaking to Her, i call Her 'Ma'am'. When speaking about Her, She is my Mistress, which took a little longer to settle on. She didn't like 'Lady'. 'Domme', even with the effeminate spelling, was too ambiguous in speech and i much prefer female-specific terms. Mistress was the eventual conclusion. i am Her girl which just fits so perfectly. These labels and the way they are used have an incredible amount of power. There is no greater compliment, for example, than for my Mistress to call me 'good girl'.
Congratulations on finding what works for Yyou.
12/30/2012
Septimus Septimus
I keep trying, but every time I call him "Sir", he reminds me that he hasn't been knighted yet...
12/30/2012
butts butts
We don't really have names like that for each other, we prefer using our normal names.
12/30/2012
MissMori MissMori
"Sir" was natural to me, since we started off as play partners and very quickly found out that we both wanted more than that. The first couple of times we played together, I addressed Him as such, and now it's my usual form of address. "Master" and "Lord" get used, too, but that's just been since forming a full-time D/s relationship.
I get called everything from "My love" to "dirty little slut" depending on the situation.
I love that there's a whole range of options out there, and I love hearing that you found one that "clicked"
12/30/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I found - while in D/s - that the name came for what felt natural: sort of a "first name that comes to mind". There was former-Master (just plain Master) and there was one online relationship where he really was a Sir to me, as we were both (professionally and psychologically) doctor and secretary.

I've yet to find any sort of special name for C. He's no Dom (doesn't want to be), but he's made up for it in other ways. He doesn't have any names for me, either. Maybe someday, something will come to me to call him.
12/30/2012
higs higs
She likes to use 'master', sir feels too formal for us
12/31/2012
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