It's a deal breaker for me. I tried compromising and even living without it for the sake of my husband and I gave it my all for four years. It was torture for me, I was being denied all of the things I considered pleasurable, and it wasn't fair to either of us. As it turns out, sometimes you just can't change a leopard's spots and my spots are all sorts of kinky.
Well, that and he was a giant butthead. That didn't help either