Dealing with a Sub/Sub or Dom/Dom Relationship

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Dealing with a Sub/Sub or Dom/Dom Relationship

MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
My boyfriend and I are in a unique situation where we both prefer being submissive. My boyfriend is bisexual and has developed a preference (or expectation from other women) for being more dominant with women and more submissive with men. I, on the other hand, am the exact opposite: I prefer being more dominant with women and more submissive with men. So, thankfully, our interests intersect enough that it's not a huge issue. Even though we both "prefer" being submissive, my boyfriend is "used" to being dominant around women, so we don't have an issue. When I do decide to be a bit more dominant for him, it's more of a "treat" than a "need."

I'm curious, however, if anyone here is in a BDSM relationship where they happen to be with a person who has the same preference as they do? Have you ever broken up because the other person just wasn't submissive/dominant enough? If you are in that situation and decided to rough it out, what have you done to deal with it?
11/06/2011
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Originally posted by MidnightStorm
My boyfriend and I are in a unique situation where we both prefer being submissive. My boyfriend is bisexual and has developed a preference (or expectation from other women) for being more dominant with women and more submissive with men. I, on the ...
I honestly don't know what I would do in that situation. That's pretty tough. My boyfriend is dominant and I strongly prefer being submissive. But I'm seeing a girl on the side, with whom I switch. I think it would be a dealbreaker for my boyfriend if I wanted to top him, since that seems to make him really uncomfortable, and it would be a dealbreaker for me if someone wanted me to be dominant all the time, since I'm more of a submissive.

But I think your question assumes that there is a monogamous relationship in place, which is not the case for all kinksters out there. And if you have a great relationship with someone and you can get the sexual needs that they're not willing/able to meet for you met elsewhere, then it can work out really well for everyone involved.
11/06/2011
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