I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Do you ever feel "silly" or "weird" when you're in the moment?
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i have been nervouse the first time thing
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
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I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Feb 7, 1:58 pm
Yes, sometimes we do, but if we're not laughing somewhere in the middle of sex from something that we didn't do well, or goofed up, then we feel we're not doing something right. It's all about the fun, let go and enjoy yourselves, and by all means, laugh at yourselves whenever possible.
Feb 7, 2:17 pm
Here is a story for you. I've always liked candle wax. I use slowly make layers over my hands and on my skin. Well when William and I first tried using it in sex. It had taken me MONTHS to get up the nerve to ask tell him about this idea. I was tied at the time and I'd never had anyone actually pour wax on me. To say I was nervous is an understatement and he hadn't quite gotten the ties down. Well after the first few little drops he tickled my foot at the wrong time and my foot slipped the hold and found the jewels causing him to spill hot wax ALL over me in one swoop with me still mostly tied....... It HURT ... But now is really funny to look on.
What I'm saying here is we all get nervous and I know I get shy about things I want. Mostly I think it comes from ourselves and being worried that we'll say something that is outside our partners 'freak' zone. There's that fine line of what one person says is 'kinky' and what another says is 'okay you're nuts' so people fear it. Causing you to feel 'silly and weird' as you put it
What I'm saying here is we all get nervous and I know I get shy about things I want. Mostly I think it comes from ourselves and being worried that we'll say something that is outside our partners 'freak' zone. There's that fine line of what one person says is 'kinky' and what another says is 'okay you're nuts' so people fear it. Causing you to feel 'silly and weird' as you put it
Feb 7, 4:20 pm
My most dreaded/favorite is when, during a scene, someone swings something at me and I instinctively dodge. There's usually a small bit of laughter, but he gets his in the end.
Sometimes I'll be in a scene and we'll both be laughing. If you cant have fun with it - what's the point in doing it?
If you're new... take your time, it'll come.
Sometimes I'll be in a scene and we'll both be laughing. If you cant have fun with it - what's the point in doing it?
If you're new... take your time, it'll come.
Feb 7, 8:24 pm
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Totally agree! I'm very inhibited as well, but I'm slowly gaining the confidence to not take things so seriously, let go and just have fun.
Originally posted by
BuckeyeGal04
I have that inhibition as well. It's slowly going away. I think it's important to have both of you realize that you're having fun, and laughter actually is a good thing!
Feb 8, 12:38 am
Serena Shirley
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I can probably agree with this statement. I'm a natural giggler. When "Daddy" says "good girl" I giggle with delight. It's it's own giggle though, because I only giggle like that when I'm feeling self-satisfied for being especially naughty or "good" in a naughty way.
Originally posted by
Roz W
I'm told giggling is much more common among people having kinky sex than those who aren't would imagine.
Feb 8, 4:18 pm
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In some of the fantasy books I have read, there are HOT stories which should get him comfortable and maybe, just maybe he will change his mind and get him into the moment!!!
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
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I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Feb 15, 11:05 pm
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Not common
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
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I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Feb 19, 2:51 am
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Yes sometimes. My boyfriend does when we roleplay. He is fine with the sex part, but not so much with the dirty talk.
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
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I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Mar 1, 3:49 pm
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I spend a lot of time in my head, so yeah, occasionally. But I feel silly every so often doing vanilla stuff. Sex is really silly!
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
...
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
Mar 2, 9:44 pm
When I first started out with some over-the-phone play and face-to-face stuff. Sometimes a great way to do this is to get into character by starting early, before you even get into the bedroom. Send each other messages online, through texts, etc. Work through foreplay before you even touch.
Mar 4, 7:54 pm
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It's okay to giggle, so it's not a problem really. I've found it gets a lot less 'weird' with practise and especially with communication. have a chat beforehand and giggle about stuff. it won't make anything less awesome
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough
...
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being rough with me. Do you ever feel like this? Private voting, just in case.
May 7, 5:07 am
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