Do you ever feel "silly" or "weird" when you're in the moment?

shorejen9 shorejen9
Sure but I'm not feeling that as much. Just have fun and remember he wants YOU and that's all that matters.
01/10/2013
HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
No, not in the moment. It isn't like my normal non-bedroom personality and that took some getting used to, but sex is sex... it's always a bit awkward, a bit silly... which means there is no reason for me to feel that way! I like what I love, my Honey likes it too, and that's what matters.
01/11/2013
Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
I do quite often...it's just my nature I guess.
01/25/2013
bog bog
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Originally posted by Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being ... More
I like silly. Weird, too.
01/25/2013
bratcat bratcat
Sometimes i feel a little silly talking dirty to my partner or when being sub or dom, getting shy about what i want done/to do, but sometimes giggles help ease this and it's totally normal and okay.
01/25/2013
higs higs
Mainly when I try to roleplay, making her do stuff for me or asking her silly, rhetorical questions. But that's the fun in it I suppose
01/25/2013
novanilla novanilla
Yeah, sometimes things people say sound weird.
01/28/2013
kkybf kkybf
sometimes
01/28/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being ... More
sometimes. but, if you keep at it, he will become more confortable with his limits...and, seeing how much you like it will help him with that. and, perhaps talking dirty is not his thing, but he may find other things that do fit into his groove a little better. keep talking about things, and it will be all good.
01/29/2013
CountryPrincess CountryPrincess
My man always wants me to initiate things and I'm HORRIBLE at it cause I get embarrassed and feel awkward, no idea why I just do lol
01/31/2013
playsalot playsalot
Once in a while I feel silly when I am doing something I wouldn't have seen myself doing last year.
01/31/2013
Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
Yes, sometimes
02/01/2013
apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being ... More
no I get into it
02/01/2013
fizzygato fizzygato
No, I never feel awkward or silly in the moment.

For me it's the opposite and like exercise--- it's getting started that's hardest, then once I'm started everything else is easy
02/04/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Amelia Stone
Here is a story for you. I've always liked candle wax. I use slowly make layers over my hands and on my skin. Well when William and I first tried using it in sex. It had taken me MONTHS to get up the nerve to ask tell him about this idea. I was ... More
I totally agree about worrying about going outside the "freak zone".

I also think sex is pretty hilarious, especially if you're not totally into the moment. I just don't switch off & get into it like many people. I get into it, but my mind is still at warp speed & commenting on things. I talk, I laugh, I'm just so happy to be there, doing that with whomever, that I forget to censor myself. It's like I want to cram as much as I can into the experience, that I have sex ADD...ohhh, let's try it this way...Okay, let me stand on my head...wait, grab the vibrator!

But with BDSM, in which which I have no experience, I think I might inadvertently hurt my partner's feelings precisely because I don't get turned on by it & am likely to be more amused than freaked out. Some people just aren't going to be able to get into it & their discomfort or awkwardness may be a sign of it not being for them. That said, I'd try it a few times before declaring it a bust.
02/04/2013
glitterfieldstudy glitterfieldstudy
I very recently started subbing for my partner, after being a dom for all of my sexual life. Last week, we wanted to try a role play scenario where they were a security guard and I was a shoplifter. We'd never done distinct role play together before.

I think I'd said something like "I'm not giving you a hard time", and they said "Yes you are, you're annoying as hell" but said it in a way that sounded really weird, like the last few words sounded like a microsoft text-to-speech program. We laughed really loudly for a few minutes, but it in no way retracted from the experience. We kept going, stumbled around a bit a few other times, had little goofs, but in the end I really, really enjoyed subbing, and had no issue getting into it.

I used to think of kink as a sort of theater, where you had to be in character 100% of the time. Maybe that's an attitude I acquired from BDSM porn I've watched. I think BDSM is allowed to be silly, and people don't give it that credit enough of the time.
02/04/2013
MightyFine MightyFine
Not at all.
02/04/2013
xcapricax xcapricax
I feel silly when it gets romantic. Its just weird for me.
02/04/2013
joiedejouets joiedejouets
I'm always giggling during sexytimes. I can't help it.
02/04/2013
anon195 anon195
I never do when roleplaying or talking dirty, so it bothers me when the other person doesn't take it seriously.
02/07/2013
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I get self-conscious when I feel like he's laughing at me
05/21/2013
tami tami
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I want to get into some light BDSM with my boyfriend and maybe further than that. My biggest problem is getting him interested and in the moment. He's admitted to sometimes feeling a little silly and/or weird when he's talking dirty or being ... More
yes I think everyone has at some point in their sex games
05/21/2013
requiem dreams requiem dreams
I feel silly and awkward very often
06/04/2013
Gdom Gdom
Sure, sometimes. But trying to squash or get rid of those feelings of silliness is difficult and not really worth it anyway; much better to just accept that sex (even/especially rough sex) can be funny and silly sometimes and that's alright!
06/04/2013
married with children married with children
I dont think I have every felt awkward or silly in the bedroom, even when we are being silly.
06/04/2013
Rarity Rarity
Sex is supposed to be fun! When we're doing our D/s thing I rarely feel weird about it. Sometimes something will be said that sounds totally wrong for the person saying it and I can't help myself! I'm usually put it my place pretty quickly.
06/10/2013
GingerSpice GingerSpice
it happens sometimes, but when we laugh and feel silly, it's kinda of turn on cuz we know what's about to go down in the long run
06/10/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
It can feel a little silly. But that's the fun. Role playing is the same way!
06/10/2013
marshmallow marshmallow
rarely, thankfully
06/13/2013
Velocity Velocity
i have confidence issues. so during any type of sex, play or not, sometimes i'll just get really self conscious.
06/22/2013
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