Do you like pain during sexual encounters and if yes, do you have a history of self injury?

Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
light to medium pain.
03/13/2012
Contributor: xxjoel xxjoel
Yeah, I used to cut a lot. Now, the boyfriend helps me deal with feelings of self harm by beating me up for me. If I'm alone, I use hot wax because it doesn't leave a mark and it's very calming, and that has obvious sexual connotations...
03/17/2012
Contributor: stars stars
Every so often it's a good addition.
03/17/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

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i like a little bit of pain. i've never self-injured, but i've come close to it
03/19/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
Not really into pain, but a little is fine once in awhile.
03/19/2012
Contributor: blixa blixa
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
I used to self injure, and under the right circumstances I adore pain mixed with sex. Masochistic tendencies, I haz them. However, I don't experience the same sort of release with kinky sex as I did with self injuring. With the SI stuff, I ... more
Seconding this. I'm a recovering self-harmer, and the concentration and the ritual of it helped me shut my feelings off; I guess the coping is similar when I top for someone, but it's not shutting off the bad feelings (in that case, usually shyness/nervousness rather than misery and anxiety). It's replacing them with something awesome and pleasurable, and I remain emotionally active throughout the whole scene. I wouldn't go into a scene or a sexual encounter in the state of mind I used to self-harm in.
03/19/2012
Contributor: blixa blixa
I consider myself a top/switch, and I enjoy the sight of my partner enjoying the sensations more than I enjoy inflicting or experiencing pain. Oddly, while I'm very sensitive to pain IRL and even as a self-harmer didn't find the pain pleasurable (just gratifying, as in, I'd done what I'd come to do, and the whole ritual and the violent gesture was the satisfying part) but when I'm in that kinky headspace, the pain's minimized and a lot more bearable.
03/19/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I self injure, but not for the pain aspect. It's not like it turns me on or anything, either.

I think there is a correlation, but I'm not sure what.
03/19/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
I do enjoy pain during play, but I feel it has nothing to do with my history of self harm. They evolved completely separate of each other at much different point in my life. In fact I didn't get into rougher sex into years after I stopped self harming.
03/20/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
I cant stand pain when I get hurt accidentally. I am a big sissy.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

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I like pain but I've never done anything to injury myself.
03/20/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I like pain, but I never intentionally inflicted myself with pain.
03/21/2012
Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
only if he doesnt leave marks. I LOVE PAIN
03/27/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
I used to cut my legs years ago. When it comes to sex, I do like a little bit of pain. Spanking, hair pulling, that sort of thing.
03/28/2012
Contributor: MrGoodTool MrGoodTool
I like a little bit of discomfort every now and then, but not full on pain.
03/28/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
Not into pain, but yet I live with it everyday and I just want it to go away.
04/29/2012
Contributor: ginas ginas
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I don't like pain.
04/29/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
I don't like pain and I don't self injure.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
I used to self injure, but pain in small 'doses' can be nice.
07/06/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
I like pain, but I only like it from another person and the setting has to be right. It is not an all the time thing, but when I do like it, it can be quite intense and me still enjoying it
07/10/2012
Contributor: Experiment Experiment
It's not so much the pain as the being dominated that I enjoy
07/13/2012
Contributor: Billie Bones Billie Bones
I think the motivations for self-injuring and for engaging in BDSM are very different. At least most of the time for most people.
07/13/2012
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
Yes and yes
07/27/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
I used to self injure, and under the right circumstances I adore pain mixed with sex. Masochistic tendencies, I haz them. However, I don't experience the same sort of release with kinky sex as I did with self injuring. With the SI stuff, I ... more
That is pretty much how I feel.
07/28/2012
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
I do like pain, and I am a recovering self-injurer.
07/28/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
There is a thin line between pleasurable and painful...I enjoy walking the line. Not into self injury.
07/28/2012
Contributor: princessss princessss
I'm not really into it and neither is my boyfriend.
07/28/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I like pain.
I used to self injure for the pain/pleasure. But it got outa' hand one night a really hurt myself.
Now if I want to enjoy pain/pleasure I have a partner do the act. (I am waaay to hard on myself)
07/29/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i don't like pain
07/29/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
I do not like pain of any kind.
09/15/2012