Do you think it's safe to meet kinksters in real life that you encountered online?

Vanille

It's just like meeting anyone else off the internet, meet in a public place, have a safe call or two, use your gut feelings and you'll be fine.

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07/03/2012

SubmissiveFeminist

Yes and no. I'm on Fetlife and I had a few bad experiences on there before meeting a good partner. As Vanille said, meet in public and have safety back-ups such as a friend near by if you need them. Be sure to get to know the person before playing with them at all.

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07/04/2012

<3BF

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Originally posted by Vanille

It's just like meeting anyone else off the internet, meet in a public place, have a safe call or two, use your gut feelings and you'll be fine.

Agreed. Online dating has worked for people so why not try it?, Someone could be just as creepy, dangerous, and fake if you just met them somewhere else like in a bar. Just in general it's best to err on the side of caution.

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07/04/2012

gsfanatic

Yea, meet in a public place, and have backup plans to bail if things go bad. Almost every time, it's entirely fine and safe and fun, but better safe than sorry.

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07/04/2012

digit88

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Originally posted by little miss kinky

I haven't yet but I'm wondering if I'm just being paranoid. As a submissive, I feel more vulnerable...am I being silly??

nope

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07/04/2012

PeachPunch

I've had fantastic luck with the internet, and no problems.

Just follow the rules of typical online dating safety.

If you're looking for an experienced top, chances are there will be ways to see if they check out. When I met up with one, he gave me a whole document of personal info which I forwarded to a friend who I had made plans with to check in with. Had one of the more amazing times I've had with a top!

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07/04/2012

little miss kinky

Thanks, guys and gals

Will take all that into consideration.

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07/05/2012

LadyDarknezz

I had a similar question since I just got directed to Fetlife recently and I am chatting up with a possible Dom. Thanks for the advice and tips!

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07/05/2012

Beck

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Originally posted by PeachPunch

I've had fantastic luck with the internet, and no problems.

Just follow the rules of typical online dating safety.

If you're looking for an experienced top, chances are there will be ways to see if they check out. When I met up ... More

This is a very good idea! Whenever you meet anyone you don't know whether you met them on the internet or not. Give the personal information you have, whether it be their screen name and details onsite, their phone number, whatever you have; to someone you trust. If they don't hear from you, then at least their is some idea about who you are with. Be smart about who you meet up with and where you meet up at. You should meet them in a public setting before going straight to private. And if they have an issue with that, then they aren't the person you should be talking to because they clearly have no worries of their own personal safety.

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07/05/2012

Zandrock

It can be safe. If there is no BDSM play involved it is no different then a regular blind date.

If you are going to play there are typically a couple of good guidelines.

Firstly a buddy system. Before playing you tell your date you have a friend that if they dont hear from you every x hours (something like 3 hours would be good) will phone the police.

You also do not want to have stricter forms of bondage. So do not let them tie you to an object. If you hands are just tied to each other you still have a lot of mobility.

And then communication. Make sure they are educated, know what is safe and what is not safe, make sure they use and follow a safeword.

With those guidelines it is quite safe to have a kinky blind date

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07/08/2012