Does your partner play?

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Does your partner play?

Sparowfang Sparowfang 11/03/2012

I'm currently unable to convince hubby to play with me although I have a strong desire to be dominated. I've tried talking and showing videos, books, toys, blah blah blah you name it. He's not interested. So I'm curious, does your partner live your lifestyle as well?

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Sparowfang Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
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sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Someetimes, though not often.
11/03/2012
S&Gangel S&Gangel
on a scale of 1-10 being 10 she gets into it... i would say 8

We had a good talk about it
11/03/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'm not sure that I'd call it a lifestyle, but we do regularly engage in kinky play.
11/03/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
I have convinced my girlfriend. Most of the things she is hesitant about are loud playing (like spanking, paddles, etc.) because we both live at home. But once we move out I think almost everything will be fair game.
11/03/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
Sometimes, but he is very limited in what he will do to me.
11/03/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
We are on the same exact page. I'm very lucky.
11/03/2012
Gracefire Gracefire
I met my one partner in the BDSM scene.
11/03/2012
Beck Beck
Yes, when he wants to.
11/03/2012
Moniqua Moniqua
Yes.
11/03/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
Nope because I don't have a partner right now
11/03/2012
Taylor Taylor
Yes, in fact he tends to like things rougher than me so I am usually the one who limits what we do.
11/03/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
yes
11/03/2012
Feisty Feisty
Yes, we communicate a lot about what we want and what we want to explore.
11/03/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, I talked her into it and she fell in love with it
11/03/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
my partner is my Mistress. Wwe are actively involved in the lifestyle and the BDSM community and Wwe maintain a (basically) 24/7 D/s relationship.
11/03/2012
skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Yeah
11/03/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
My partner is my dominant.
11/03/2012
Xarien Xarien
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Originally posted by Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
My partner is into everything that I'm into so it works out great.
11/04/2012
Terri69 Terri69
most of the time
11/04/2012
inkky inkky
My Master And I Met Through The Lifestyle. :3
11/04/2012
ScarletFox ScarletFox
While we didn't start out on the same page after a lot of talks we are both part of the lifestyle.
11/07/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
we play together
11/08/2012
cj89 cj89
yes!
11/08/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
yes, he does.
11/08/2012
EverlastingPandora EverlastingPandora
I guess that I can consider myself fortunate, but I'm currently in a relationship where on of our bases is sexual exploration. Although I'm not the most experienced in play, I have a bit more than my partner and we continue to explore it.
11/28/2012
Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Yes, He is definitely in the lifestyle
12/03/2012
RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I've decided that all my partners have to be kinky... it's just something that I can't live without. For me, it's better than sex.
12/04/2012
phoenixfire phoenixfire
My husband prefers that I be the Domme because he likes not having to do all the work, and I think he does enjoy being restrained. That said, he's not into impact play, (and I very much am), so that limits my options somewhat. I identify as a switch, and hubby will let me be the sub at times, but seems to expect an even trade in the number of Domme/sub sessions whenever possible. He doesn't self-identify as BDSM, as I do, but he seems to really enjoy playing with the toys to a certain limited degree.
12/28/2012
atryonix atryonix
havent tried with anyone yet
12/28/2012
Miss Chemical Miss Chemical
Occasionally when the mood strikes him I can get him to join in with the more "extreme" stuff. Generally, he's fine with normal toys/play, but sometimes a girl just needs to be submissive in the bedroom.
12/28/2012
xcapricax xcapricax
yes
12/29/2012
higs higs
Yep, I'm a lucky man
12/31/2012
Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
My boyfriend and I are both really up for trying things that the other wants. We usually switch around being dom/sub and it's good for everyone.
01/01/2013
spiced spiced
My wife and I are also both switches. She's not into playing quite as much as I am, but I enjoy it (and HER) so much that even if we only play once or twice a month, it's enough to be satisfying.
01/01/2013
chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
It started out as something he would do for me, because I liked it, and now he's just as into it!
01/02/2013
novanilla novanilla
I don't date people who aren't into bdsm because I need it to be happy. I just am not sexually satisfied without it.
01/02/2013
IvyFayette IvyFayette
He is interested but we choose to only do bsdm on occasion so we don't upset the balance of our relationship.
01/02/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We both LOVE to play!
01/05/2013
llellsee llellsee
My husband is sub and we met through the lifestyle so yep he likes to play
01/05/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
We enjoy lots of activities together.
01/08/2013
karenm karenm
Only sometimes, which is okay. I appreciate that he does it for me, since I am more into it than he is (he is vanilla).
02/17/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
Both of my guys play with me but in opposite directions. Sigel is usually dominant and Arch is usually submissive though he is a switch like me.
02/23/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by phoenixfire
My husband prefers that I be the Domme because he likes not having to do all the work, and I think he does enjoy being restrained. That said, he's not into impact play, (and I very much am), so that limits my options somewhat. I identify as a ...
HA! Your relationship reminds me of the relationship between Arch and myself. It's like, "Swat, swat, bad girl! Now do me..."
02/23/2013
souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by Sparowfang
Just curious to see who's in the same boat as I am.
yes.
02/23/2013
bratcat bratcat
Quote:
Originally posted by Feisty
Yes, we communicate a lot about what we want and what we want to explore.
exactly this. my partner always talk about what we like or dont like, even in the heat of passion. it's been very awesome for our sexual relationship.
02/23/2013
Carlie2010 Carlie2010
I get just about anything I ask for as long as I actually ask lol
02/23/2013
His scarlett His scarlett
We live D/s 24/7 so, yes. He is my Master and my Husband. It makes us both happy, so it is the perfect way for us to be.
03/09/2013
lolisadist lolisadist
Yes it's a 24/7 d/s relationship
03/09/2013
Total posts: 49
Unique posters: 48