Experience poll

Contributor: Tart Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Just starting
Taylor , Crash , Totogrl , Joie de Cherresse , Solar Ray , Elbert's Angel , Hadespark , charip , Epicurean , NaturalWoman , Lady Marmelade , bashfulhedonist , PunkyB , ac0313 , MaryExy , Cedarlooman , SaucyMan , zracer , hiroshiro , REDRUM , Adam02viper , null , VanillaCupcake , grace , Sohotdinosaur , Cream in the Cupcake , newfoundlust , cujo467 , newlady , The Curious Couple , Willis2011 , Judas Iscars , daniel and frances , k3 , artbabe33445 , secretside , NarcissisticLust , Lolla Munz , mandiegk , Lio , Officer Oddy , Pnutbuttatoast , np702 , cobiffle , lovemuscle n cookie , zeebot , XPS , RoseDream , Jackol , Gigi128 , [Red] , Errant Venture , Ivy Wilde , celibacysucks , ms.anon , serenadinginsanity , haley730 , csdx , potstickers , K101 , joja , ColorMeCute , Twisted Angel , systematicweasel , fred86 , Miss Anonymous , Princess-Kayla ♥ , Collogue , LadyDarknezz , unfulfilled , Freya , jessi2 , ss143 , -BillD , hyacinthgirl , sweetie40 , TheSlyFox , 7Miles , Cherry21 , Lindsey123 , Kendrir , planetrees , deletedacct , Mellifer , Theaadrian , Flfun11 , switzerland , MR Chickhabit , GirlyGirlRed , giftdgecko , woodsdragon , Apirka , Jacobbbsmommy , Willow Wand , Allstars316 , GONE! , Harpina is gone , LinToxic , cheesewizz , eroticmutt , pinkpottergirl , corsetsaurus rex , Loriandhubby , purple579 , tern , sapphyre.wings , pokefan15 , TheGreat , toocool114 , Bullfroggy and Rose , Kiwi Green , Amahetsy , Stagger13 , hall5885 , Emerlyn , USJT130119200518 , All His , Bex1331 , cryinglightning86 , little miss kinky , puddi , SkinFlute , KinkyKatiya , CinLuvsBre , authorzero , subtyrant , AshMegYo , Boyqueen , booyahshaka91 , SadoMas , Missmarc , MrPink , Heatherbipoly , clockwork451 , Do emu , SMichelle , BG529 , Kitten has left the site , wes , kims89 , PeachCandy , Anna Nymph , pfp , Flan-Flan Shazam , Incendiaire , Nymeria , mmmmm , DirtyAngel7 , Rescuer136 , RyRy326 , AliMc , Sexy Desire , Mikemanz , Grellopop , Desirae Alisia Weatherby , fizzygato , Robespierrethecat , Lildrummrgurl7 , chicmichiw , marriedlady123 , caseyb , burtnuh , PieC , Andrey2052 , Genderfree , ladydominate , gwenevieve , Falsepast , karenm , Ayogirl230 , jennifur77 , AmethystQueen , Tigerlily808 , BlueVelvet , dancingduo , LittleBun91 , tami , lilswitch , M's boy , harvest
180
1-3 years
Happy Camper , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , pinkcupcakes , Serenesub , Dusk , Sebmissive , LavenderSkies , iLashe , Ajax , jaybaybay79 , StrawberryEve , Miss T , tickle me pink , bluekaren , ~LaUr3n~ , extrafun , hjtee , miss-miss , blah :) , Adam02viper , toxie m , LittleBird , Lilgirlsunshine , LennaKieran , oopsy , Howells , ichigostrawberry , Spoken Pandora , Kdlips , meesh1973 , anonomous , ibgnome , Rub My Ducky , Nigglemagic , dezzydezire , qqqqqqqqqqqq , KinkyDesire , mistressg , averageguyextrodinarypleasure , Lorien239 , KinkBiLove , Booktease , carenautilus , HouseWench , skunked , Jon S , LilLostLenore , submissive.sweetheart , Kitka , Kilot , Masokisti , mlgrant , Snozzberries , wizzler , solita , Love Perpetua , queenofsiam , Entropy , SexyRayne , elli , dks210 , chort , xGOLDx , finnimbrun , SubmissiveFeminist , Mwar , SexysaurousRex , Mia.The.Wonder.Slut , bratofthekitties , gsfanatic , blackadeezee , Catch Star , Geogeo , thekindthorn , Vegan Silk , glassdoll , Fawkes , solitudinarian , Mitzuki , Chami , Nacht Stern , Greenleaf , MissLoren , Zandrock , SadoMas , laroc nite (Tina) , RomanticGoth , digit88 , TheirPet , BloodHound , inkky , Twiz , smlove , ginnyluvspotter , BrittaniMaree , Innocent Mathias , kdlt , tunacan75 , FrustratedFemme , Strider , chicagobearsfan , indiebutt , Cowgirl-Cutie , Miss L , SelectZen , plaidvulva , captainsgirl , twelve13 , lolisadist , LittleMissy , sarahinthecity , Ava , angel42539
113
3-9 years
MeliPixie , Pixel , Haiku , Miss Madeline , jaybaybay79 , RosesThorns , chidoll , sekmetrn , KatPawz2003 , Dawn (Lilac Distraction) , stlouisxxx , Kitty Grub , Sir , CylonSexFiend , slynch , SiNn , strawberrystwstd , Miss Morphine , Vanessa Weiss , FleurDevereux , CreamySweet , arewehavingfun? , ToyingCouple , Seventeen , zeb , Defiledpixxy , Jammin14580 , dcooper , (k)InkyIvy , thecorsetkitty , Destri , GoneBabyGone , Enchantedkitty , SmutGeek , pootpootpoot , sparksrebbecca , Izzaba , keka3 , squire , ILikeShinyThings , boobaloo , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Nora29714 , xcapricax , Billie Bones , KyotoAngel , pink chains , KiraCat , novanilla , kinksters , bog , LoneOokami , His scarlett , Mont , llellsee
55
9-15 years
Red Vinyl Kitty , TheSinDoll , padmeamidala , melissa1973 , reysgirl83 , CoffeeCup , SiNn , Chaotic Rantings , dcooper , NightKat , (Re)tired Stripper , Diabolical Kitty , Andre SanThomas , MistressDandelion , SubmissiveMommy , momma22js , MissMori , itismedi , RavenInChains , Gracefire
20
15-30 years
P'Gell , G.L. Morrison , CuteDee , Inwitari , JewelsAndB , Sharpsgirl1 , Midnightsun327 , nikki0668
8
30+
Mr.Skillfu , G.L. Morrison
2
50+
Total votes: 378 (372 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
We're just now starting to venture into the BSDM. But this has been a fantasy of mine for a very long time. I just never felt comfortable enough with any one else to do it with any one else. I guess b/c I've never let anyone control me before like I let my husband. I'm loving this so far though... it's awesome.
03/06/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I'm only 32, but this site and this poll makes me feel old.
03/06/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Around 2 years.
03/08/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I'm not sure what constitutes being "in the lifestyle." My girlfriend give me a collar when we were about sixteen (I'm 22 now) but she rolled her eyes whenever I wore it. She seemed t hate my submissiveness most of the time. Can that ever count? ...Or else my current boyfriend and I have symbolically collared one another and do some D/s and petplay, and at any given moment one of us is clearly more dominant than the other (though being both switches, which one of us is dominant does vary from situation to situation, it's always clear who it is). And I'm pretty sure that counts...

So I chose the shallow end of the 3-9 years.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I first started going to munches and classes waaay back when I was 19, so it's been almost 6 years of being in the lifestyle now.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Haiku Haiku
I became kink identified in 2007, and have been in power exchange relationships, or active in the community ever since. What a wild ride it has been!
03/08/2011
Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
I was kinky before I was 18 but sort of inconsistently, I mean my being kinky was consistent but I didn't engage in kink regularly before the age of 18.

so about 7 years for me.
03/09/2011
Contributor: StrawberryEve StrawberryEve
I've been openly experimenting with it regularly for about a year and a half now. Mentally? For much longer.
03/10/2011
Contributor: charip charip
I've been mentally experimenting for about 6 months, and just this past month started more seriously experimenting.
03/10/2011
Contributor: Epicurean Epicurean
Just starting to really explore it with partners and get into the community in a public way, but I've explored it privately for well over 10 years.
03/10/2011
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
about 7 years here...
03/10/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
My b/f and I have been swingers for about 2 years, but I have been using toys for about 12, and i just joined this community a few weeks ago.... not sure which time frame you would like?
03/20/2011
Contributor: PunkyB PunkyB
Im interested, but unsure of how to venture into the lifestyle. I have been doing research and looking into groups, but I dont know where to start.
03/23/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
To a certain extent when we first started having sex, having ramped up, back and forth, depending on mood ever since.

That was (mumbles......)20....e r...something....years ago......
03/23/2011
Contributor: hjtee hjtee
I was into the lifestyle with my ex a number of years ago, but only as of recently got into it with my husband.
03/23/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
I haven't really started other than some very basic play worked into normal playtime. I have read a couple of Jay Wiseman's books and the Knottyboys website. I have actually made some toys and a lot of my erotica that I have written incorporates BDSM, but I have discovered through some light play that I really don't have the attitude to be a good dom (I'm not a dom, but I can play one on the Internet lol), and I don't know that I would be a good sub either. But for mutual play where it is more for the sensations and no real loss-of-control play, I am really looking forward to some BDSM play.
03/31/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
Been working the hubby into it slowly (COME ON ALREADY! LOL) Took forever to get him to try, now we have to move slowly forward. But it IS forward
04/10/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Heh I need the ubiquitous other category. I have been involved in the lifestyle for well over 20 years, Sigel was abused with sadistic practices disguised as BDSM and Arch is learning from me. Well, I suppose both of them are learning from me actually.
So I have been in the 'game' for many years and yet I am also just starting out!
04/12/2011
Contributor: newlady newlady
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
I'm only 32, but this site and this poll makes me feel old.
Oh but you're not!!

Myself, I am a beginner.
04/22/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
We're just starting.
04/23/2011
Contributor: Willis2011 Willis2011
just starting
04/23/2011
Contributor: mariedoll mariedoll
I've been talking to a guy for a while about it now. We are finally venturing into the realm of bdsm. It's hard to find a guy who is willing to take on a dominant role. In my experience, guys think blindfolds and fuzzy handcuffs are extreme. Ladies, when you find that special guy who will oblige your fantasies, never let him go.
04/25/2011
Contributor: oopsy oopsy
I'm only 21, and still entering in the community and the culture!
05/10/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
14 years so far. It's been an amazing journey for me.
05/16/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
Wow!! I didnt realize Ive been having sex for over half my life!! And I started kind of late... Was good til I was 18!!
05/16/2011
Contributor: Officer Oddy Officer Oddy
My guy recently told me he planned on putting me in some fuzzy handcuffs. We're working our way up. I've always liked looking at bondage stuff; some of it can be cute, which makes me glad. Sometimes all that black leather and chains can be intimidating. The more I think about it though, the more I consider doing it.
05/16/2011
Contributor: np702 np702
just bought my first whip the other day!
05/16/2011
Contributor: Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
I got my first real experience with it at 16. I had been into it and curious a few years before that. I really enjoy it and wonder how people who don't have exciting sex lives!
05/16/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
just got first cuffs a little while ago
05/16/2011