We're just now starting to venture into the BSDM. But this has been a fantasy of mine for a very long time. I just never felt comfortable enough with any one else to do it with any one else. I guess b/c I've never let anyone control me before like I let my husband. I'm loving this so far though... it's awesome.
I'm not sure what constitutes being "in the lifestyle." My girlfriend give me a collar when we were about sixteen (I'm 22 now) but she rolled her eyes whenever I wore it. She seemed t hate my submissiveness most of the time. Can that ever count? ...Or else my current boyfriend and I have symbolically collared one another and do some D/s and petplay, and at any given moment one of us is clearly more dominant than the other (though being both switches, which one of us is dominant does vary from situation to situation, it's always clear who it is). And I'm pretty sure that counts...
I was kinky before I was 18 but sort of inconsistently, I mean my being kinky was consistent but I didn't engage in kink regularly before the age of 18.
My b/f and I have been swingers for about 2 years, but I have been using toys for about 12, and i just joined this community a few weeks ago.... not sure which time frame you would like?
I haven't really started other than some very basic play worked into normal playtime. I have read a couple of Jay Wiseman's books and the Knottyboys website. I have actually made some toys and a lot of my erotica that I have written incorporates BDSM, but I have discovered through some light play that I really don't have the attitude to be a good dom (I'm not a dom, but I can play one on the Internet lol), and I don't know that I would be a good sub either. But for mutual play where it is more for the sensations and no real loss-of-control play, I am really looking forward to some BDSM play.
Heh I need the ubiquitous other category. I have been involved in the lifestyle for well over 20 years, Sigel was abused with sadistic practices disguised as BDSM and Arch is learning from me. Well, I suppose both of them are learning from me actually.
So I have been in the 'game' for many years and yet I am also just starting out!
I've been talking to a guy for a while about it now. We are finally venturing into the realm of bdsm. It's hard to find a guy who is willing to take on a dominant role. In my experience, guys think blindfolds and fuzzy handcuffs are extreme. Ladies, when you find that special guy who will oblige your fantasies, never let him go.
My guy recently told me he planned on putting me in some fuzzy handcuffs. We're working our way up. I've always liked looking at bondage stuff; some of it can be cute, which makes me glad. Sometimes all that black leather and chains can be intimidating. The more I think about it though, the more I consider doing it.
I got my first real experience with it at 16. I had been into it and curious a few years before that. I really enjoy it and wonder how people who don't have exciting sex lives!