First time owning an Internet slave! Help me A.S.A.P., please!

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First time owning an Internet slave! Help me A.S.A.P., please!

Nazaress Nazaress
I recently started a job as an cam model and I was approached by a gentleman last night about becoming the key-holder to his chastity belt. This may turn into a long-term (possibly even life-long) relationship because if he were to have his wishes, he would wear it for the rest of his life. I agreed to give it a try and so I need help because I am completely new to the subject. I'd never even heard of a male chastity belt before and when it comes to a dom/sub relationship, I'm usually the sub (and even then, it's just light stuff - we don't even have equipment). So not only is that new to me but even the whole owning a slave dynamic is new to me. I was hoping someone who had experience with the topic could give me some pointers on how to act in the situation, what to do, etc. Also and in particular, I need some information on what kind of stuff would go into a slave's contract because that is going to be part of it. While we're on the subject, I have another client who likes to be insulted and I'm a pretty nice person so this is hard for me. Pointers on that would be appreciated, as well. Thank you!
04/01/2012
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Ms. N Ms. N
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Originally posted by Nazaress
I recently started a job as an cam model and I was approached by a gentleman last night about becoming the key-holder to his chastity belt. This may turn into a long-term (possibly even life-long) relationship because if he were to have his wishes, ...
How awesome for you! I am sure you will have a good time with it. I suggest you do some reading up online. There are many, many websites where you can find examples of contracts. Just google "bdsm slave contracts."

You might want to consider looking into local resources. You can find area organizations here, if this list is not out of date. Or if you are not interested in looking into things IRL, there is always Fetlife

Have fun!
04/01/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by Ms. N
How awesome for you! I am sure you will have a good time with it. I suggest you do some reading up online. There are many, many websites where you can find examples of contracts. Just google "bdsm slave contracts."

You might want ...
Thank you! I'm definitely going to do some online research and learn more about it (assuming he visits me again like he promised). I'm really interested in the concept now that I've been exposed to it. No one has ever called me Mistress before or been under MY control. I'm usually the one listening to others! This should be fun.
04/01/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
Anytime you're in the Top position, you need to make sure that the bottom is very explicit about what their wants and needs are.

A few tips?

-Have them fill out a BDSM checklist.
-Make sure they stay in communication with you, even if through a journal.
-Giving them tasks, even simple ones, and exploring how they react to them.
-Baby steps. Get to know the person and on what level of domination the like/require.

Just a few things to get started with.

Good luck and have hella fun with it!
04/01/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
Anytime you're in the Top position, you need to make sure that the bottom is very explicit about what their wants and needs are.

A few tips?

-Have them fill out a BDSM checklist.
-Make sure they stay in communication with you, ...
That's a great idea and thank you for the suggestion. I was actually thinking of sitting down and having a casual, person-to-person chat with him about what his limits are, what he's looking for, etc. because I've never done this before and especially not with someone with whom sex (masturbation and what have you) is the only thing NOT on the table. He is/was very much into the role already as this is obviously something he lives with daily (what with his chastity belt) so it was a bit hard to get a straightforward answer out of him i.e. sometimes he would say "no" but he really meant that he would do it if I demanded it of him.

Your other suggestions are also really great. Considering this is an Internet relationship, we may not always be on at the same time (though obviously this would be preferable since this IS my job, though I'm willing to overlook that if it's a long-term relationship) so a journal or the like is a great way to make sure he's doing what he is supposed to and just to keep tabs on him. I've already started on little tasks for him to do and this is also a great idea. And as stated, I'm definitely going to get to know him more and see exactly what he is looking for and what he is willing to do/not do. Thank you and I'll try to have fun! I was a little worried at first and even a little weirded out (this is mostly due to my wariness of men) but now the whole idea seems like it could be a good time.
04/02/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
In regards to the journal - He can set up a website in wordpress, make it totally private and only give you access to it. He can post to it as often as he likes.

(or as often as you'd like for him to - daily thoughts and whatnot)

and you can reply.

One of his tasks might be to check it every morning for tasks to be completed that day...

-an essay on ____
-your feelings on____
-your top three______

etc...

Just thoughts...

Let us know how it's going (if you don't mind). This sounds really interesting!
04/02/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
In regards to the journal - He can set up a website in wordpress, make it totally private and only give you access to it. He can post to it as often as he likes.

(or as often as you'd like for him to - daily thoughts and ...
Will do! Just as soon as he comes back. Part of me wonders if he wasn't as serious as he seemed. Part of me wonders if he's going to have to be severely punished for leaving me that night and not messaging me or anything since. He seemed incredibly serious so I really don't know what's keeping him. In the meantime, I've been researching online and forming ideas which considering my occupation, will likely be useful whether he becomes my particular slave or not. Even in a tame, non-fetish category, I've been getting fetish-type requests so it's only a matter of time until another slave approaches me (though, actually, one already did but said he would come back later when I had sound).

That's a good idea about the wordpress thing. I was wondering exactly how we would do the journals. E-mails seemed too messy. I'll definitely look into that option.
04/02/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
@Naz - I just emailed you.
04/02/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
@Naz - I just emailed you.
Got it and replied. Thank you.
04/02/2012
Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
In regards to the journal - He can set up a website in wordpress, make it totally private and only give you access to it. He can post to it as often as he likes.

(or as often as you'd like for him to - daily thoughts and ...
Dang, SinDoll, this is neat! I would totally be your wordpress slave.
04/04/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
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Originally posted by Antipova
Dang, SinDoll, this is neat! I would totally be your wordpress slave.
LMAO at "Wordpress slave"!
04/04/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by Antipova
Dang, SinDoll, this is neat! I would totally be your wordpress slave.
Right? She has fantastic ideas. That's why I'm so disappointed that he hasn't contacted me again yet. Some slave!
04/04/2012
Antipova Antipova
Well if you want to have a practice slave, I'm more than down! (Only the journaling bit, though, a chastity belt would cramp my style in ways I don't want it cramped )
04/04/2012
Illusional Illusional
I'm up to help you practice too
04/04/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
Ha ha. Wow! Such generous offers. You guys are making me revert to my shy self now.

If I ever need practice, I know who to go to now! And I'll keep in mind that a chastity belt for Antipova is strictly off-limits.
04/04/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
We're going to have to have our own 'Task Market'... and it's gonna have nothing to do with editing.
04/04/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
We're going to have to have our own 'Task Market'... and it's gonna have nothing to do with editing.
Ha ha. Oh, you.
04/05/2012
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