Flogging as a form of stress relief?

(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I know, that sounds strange. Let me explain-
I've had issues with self-harming for most of my life, so pain has always been a form of stress relief for me... When I'm feeling particularly stressed-out or frustrated, I crave pain, whether it's from cutting or a good solid flogging.
Have you ever asked to be flogged/whipped/etc. when you're feeling overwhelmed with the stresses of life?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
- Kira - , ellieprobable , SaiDiscordia , charletnarouh , KrissyNovacaine , Rey , ScarletFox , solitudinarian , Geogeo , SilverMinxxx , padmeamidala , anonkitty , oopsy , AlleyKitten , Vanille , Phoenix77 , volpe bianca , violets , Billie Bones , MrsHouseWife , A Good Girl , Kirill1171 , hall5885 , samanthas , gwenevieve , Thumper Logic , Collogue , ginnyluvspotter , tami , ArcaneBlast
30  (46%)
No
PeaceToTheMiddleEast , lacybutton , *Camoprincess* , Gunsmoke , joolie , AmethystSmoke , TiffyPixie , XxFallenAngelxX , Leather & Lace , Pudyqat , MidnightStorm , hhh , Loriandhubby , Zandrock , LavenderSkies , panthercat23 , AliMc , johnnylove , sweetpea12 , llellsee , QP , ohsnaprawr , nosrslylol , Flower1 , pokefan15
25  (38%)
Other
pirata , Sir , comatose-kitty , NarcissisticLust , amazon , Pixel , justme23 , glasskitten , KyotoAngel , tortilla
10  (15%)
Total votes: 65
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09/19/2012
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PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have never done this.
09/19/2012
Pixel Pixel
My pet definitely uses kink as a form of stress relief. The serotonin and dopamine release helps her feel better.
09/19/2012
pirata pirata
i haven't, but it's proven that it works.
09/19/2012
ellieprobable ellieprobable
I have certainly done cathartic scenes in the past. I don't have a history of self-harm personally. However, it is important that you tell the top that you have a history of self-harm so they can be sure they want to be involved with doing those scenes with you
09/19/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
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Originally posted by Pixel
My pet definitely uses kink as a form of stress relief. The serotonin and dopamine release helps her feel better.
Exactly!
09/19/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
I admit, I will play up my brat tendencies to earn a spanking during especially stressful times. I don't have a history of self harm, but do appreciate the euphoria that a good spanking can bring. Granted this is not all the time. Many a time it helps just as well for me to be held. I have discovered though that if the hubby and I shower together and he does all my washing for me, especially on my backside, I do feel way calmer than a regular solo hot shower. That has been great, but then it usually leads to us playing, so it is win-win.
09/19/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
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Originally posted by ellieprobable
I have certainly done cathartic scenes in the past. I don't have a history of self-harm personally. However, it is important that you tell the top that you have a history of self-harm so they can be sure they want to be involved with doing those ... More
Very, VERY good point to bring up. Communication is the key to all scenes and any BDSM relationship.
09/19/2012
lacybutton lacybutton
I've never been flogged.
09/19/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
ABSO-FREAKIN-LUTELY! Cathartic release is one of the biggest reasons i play. When my life feels like it's coming apart at the seams and i'm plagued with stress, anxiety, anger, guilt, all those negative emotions, or when i'm so sad or angry that i really need to release it all with a good cry but i can't seem to make the tears happen, being beaten until i cry into a blindfold is one of the most sublime feelings in the world. No outburst, no screaming fit, no orgasm, no joyous celebration can bring about quite that level of release. The combination of the surrender, relinquishing control, the pain, the crying, it's magic. Then i need lots of comforting aftercare and, after that, i'm relaxed and happy and ready to take on the world. When i was in my first D/s relationship, i had a period of a couple months where it seemed like everything that could go wrong in my life went wrong, my dog died, my sister moved out of state with two of my best friends. i totalled my car, my grandmother went into the hospital with heart failure, my condo went into foreclosure, all within about 2 months. That took 3 good flogging/paddling/belt ing/caning sessions and LOTS of bruises and welts to get me through, but without my Domme and those sessions, i'm not sure how i would have made it through that patch. It's also, in part, a way for me to let go of guilt. i can tell my D that i am feeling guilty about something and let Her determine an appropriate punishment. Once She has administered it and declared me absolved or forgiven, i have to forgive myself because i have submitted to Her and given her the permission to punish me and she has deemed the punishment sufficient. Then i stop beating myself up over it and feeling miserable and guilty and i move on with my life. Now, i do also enjoy a good beating even without the stress but it's totally different.
09/19/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
ABSO-FREAKIN-LUTELY! Cathartic release is one of the biggest reasons i play. When my life feels like it's coming apart at the seams and i'm plagued with stress, anxiety, anger, guilt, all those negative emotions, or when i'm so sad or ... More
Oh, but yes, communication is vital. Make sure the Top knows the release is what you are going for and why and that They know about your past. Done appropriately, i think BDSM can be a healthy way to deal with things but you have to be safe and communicate with your Top so They know what's going on. i always tell my Mistress when negotiating the session if i'm looking for a release, absolution, crying, etc. or if i'm just in it for fun this time.
09/19/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I love it... all the chemicals in the brain that get released feel awesome.
09/20/2012
Sir Sir
It's a form of stress relief to flog someone. I do not enjoy the physical sensation of it, I enjoy the physical sensation and exhaustion from flogging or whipping someone. Even just beating into a person with my bare hands is good.
09/20/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
I have no clue since i don't flog or anything
09/20/2012
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
Not familiar with this.
09/20/2012
Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I don't flog
09/20/2012
Rey Rey
i can relate to the receiving of pain for stress relief
09/20/2012
ScarletFox ScarletFox
For me its the same thing, having the pain or just focusing on it is something that really helps just make the stress melt away for a little while.
09/20/2012
Pudyqat Pudyqat
Never had the desire to try it.
09/20/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I'm actually the exact opposite, but I've never had an interest in self-harm either. I get really horny when I'm stressed out, but I don't crave pain: usually slower, more affectionate vanilla sex. I just want to know someone cares about me and get the pleasure of endorphins out of the deal.
09/20/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
I know, that sounds strange. Let me explain-
I've had issues with self-harming for most of my life, so pain has always been a form of stress relief for me... When I'm feeling particularly stressed-out or frustrated, I crave pain, whether ... More
i always want rough sex when im angry or stressed.
09/20/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
Yes, it can be stress relieving.
09/20/2012
Scott McFadden Scott McFadden
Quote:
Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
I know, that sounds strange. Let me explain-
I've had issues with self-harming for most of my life, so pain has always been a form of stress relief for me... When I'm feeling particularly stressed-out or frustrated, I crave pain, whether ... More
I myself in the past have like a good rough sex release, sometimes it he only thing that can get me past a stressful day. No inhibitions and war emotion.
09/20/2012
amazon amazon
Can't say one way or another.
09/20/2012
anonkitty anonkitty
Yup. No self-harm history, but it's cathartic. And it gets me to cry and snap out of a funk.
09/20/2012
oopsy oopsy
I love it. It's a release of power and responsibility, and that's why I find it to release my stress.
09/21/2012
AlleyKitten AlleyKitten
It definitely helps me relieve stress.
09/22/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Never done it, but I can understand why it would help
09/22/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
Never done so myself but I can understand.
10/01/2012
Billie Bones Billie Bones
Definitely one the perks of bottoming for me.
10/01/2012
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