The only BDSM relationship I've ever had is my current one. The first sexual experience between my girlfriend and I was a BDSM scene. We didn't know what to call it at the time, but we were both immediately drawn into the roles of her being dominant and me being submissive. So this has me wondering how other people find their dom/sub. Did you seek them out for that purpose? Were you already together and then your roles developed? Did the two of you go straight to your roles like we did?