How did you meet your current dominant / submissive?

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How did you meet your current dominant / submissive?

Entropy Entropy
The only BDSM relationship I've ever had is my current one. The first sexual experience between my girlfriend and I was a BDSM scene. We didn't know what to call it at the time, but we were both immediately drawn into the roles of her being dominant and me being submissive. So this has me wondering how other people find their dom/sub. Did you seek them out for that purpose? Were you already together and then your roles developed? Did the two of you go straight to your roles like we did?
12/27/2011
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Chilipepper Chilipepper
I already had an idea I was a sub, and it was sort of serendipity that I met Master the way I did. We met at a dating site that catered to a British man fetish (which the creators won't admit to doing on purpose), and I had an idea that he was a Dom by his screen name of 'knotty_or_nice'. We jokingly brought up the issue in our early e-mails, where we discovered that we both fit the dynamic we each wanted. We both want complete equality in the relationship and in the day-to-day running of things, but I sexually surrender to him and his demands in the bedroom. Although we're long distance right now, so that makes the D/s thing a little more difficult at the moment.

You and your girlfriend falling into the roles is so neat. I'm glad you two found your dynamic so naturally.
12/27/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
I met my lover in college. He knew from the beginning that I was kinky, but it took a while for roles to develop. We're both switches, so we take turns being dominant and submissive.
12/27/2011
Taylor Taylor
I met my Dom on Fetlife. I was curious about the lifestyle and he had been in it for a long time. So he's sort of a mentor/lover/boyfriend for me. It's really been a unique relationship for me.
12/27/2011
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
My sub is an old friend of mine - we were on the same message board for years, and kept up with each other. My ex was also on that board, so we all knew each other. After my ex blindsided me by leaving and cutting off all contact, my sub and I got to talking, and he admitted he had always had a thing for me, but never acted on it because I was so devoted to my ex.

It started out just as cybering, until we really started talking fantasies. I have very few myself, but he said he had always had a submission fantasy, and would I be interested in experimenting? I didn't even know I was a dom until that session, but we're both really happy with how it worked out.
12/28/2011
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
I met my Dom on FetLife but I met my submissive boyfriend through a mutual female friend.
I'm not exactly into the whole poly life but my boyfriend agreed that it would be a good idea for me to have a Master until I can train him to be more comfortable switching.
12/29/2011
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
My Dom and I were high school sweethearts. When we started dating, he was a virgin, and even though I was not, I was rather inexperienced myself (my previous partners got themselves off, but never even tried to make me climax). After we began having sex, I started making suggestions about cuffs and other mild bondage, which I was already into. He discovered he had a taste for it, and now... Well, he's slipped into the role of Dominant rather well, and really enjoys it. I guess you could say I've corrupted him, but he (and I) loves every minute of it.
12/29/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
We went to high school together. Then after he graduated, we reconnected on facebook. He's my first boyfriend, and not too long after we started dating, I said something about handcuffs, and from there it just expanded and we started looking up some things about BDSM.
12/29/2011
Pixel Pixel
I actually met all three of my current lovers through the local kink scene. We met at munches or parties.
01/09/2012
mrs poop. mrs poop.
At church
01/10/2012
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