I think this is probably more nerves and being very new, but...I have a friend that I am interested in asking to play. I dont know my limits and I really have no clue what my boundaries are. We both attend a class and usually pair up for rope bondage, me as bottom. We do spankings and rough play in class, but its nothing serious. He is experienced and I think that intimidates me too, but his personality compliments mine and I think it would be a lot of fun. How should I go about asking and how do you get over the jitters?
How do I present myself?
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I don't have much experience in this (I was already dating my partner when I introduced the BDSM aspect) but I would suggest just...asking. You could let him know that you enjoy pairing up in class and you have a lot of fun with him -- then just ask if he would be interested in a play-date sometime. You could see his reaction and then go from there.
I'm not sure how to get over the jitters other than to just force yourself to say something. You could always do it while at a class so you're both concentrating on something else as well, just to make it a little less of a formal clearly-came-here-to-a sk-you-this type deal.
I'm not sure how to get over the jitters other than to just force yourself to say something. You could always do it while at a class so you're both concentrating on something else as well, just to make it a little less of a formal clearly-came-here-to-a sk-you-this type deal.
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Very nice advice, I completely agree. I'm kinda in the same boat as Dusk, I only really started exploring BDSM after I began dating my guy. Nothing else to really add...
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I don't have much experience in this (I was already dating my partner when I introduced the BDSM aspect) but I would suggest just...asking. You could let him know that you enjoy pairing up in class and you have a lot of fun with him -- then just
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I don't have much experience in this (I was already dating my partner when I introduced the BDSM aspect) but I would suggest just...asking. You could let him know that you enjoy pairing up in class and you have a lot of fun with him -- then just ask if he would be interested in a play-date sometime. You could see his reaction and then go from there.
I'm not sure how to get over the jitters other than to just force yourself to say something. You could always do it while at a class so you're both concentrating on something else as well, just to make it a little less of a formal clearly-came-here-to-a sk-you-this type deal. less
I'm not sure how to get over the jitters other than to just force yourself to say something. You could always do it while at a class so you're both concentrating on something else as well, just to make it a little less of a formal clearly-came-here-to-a sk-you-this type deal. less
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Thank you. I think my biggest thing is the jitters. I get the flushed face sweaty palms thing.
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