How do you usually go about telling new partners about your kinks?

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How do you usually go about telling new partners about your kinks?

SkinFlute SkinFlute
Assuming that you didn't meet up with the intent of exploring BDSM. How do you introduce that part of you?
05/28/2012
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Jewlickah Jewlickah
I just usually ask about what they're into, and start the topic that way.
05/29/2012
Pixel Pixel
I've been pretty much exclusively dating people from the kink scene the last few years, so it was something that came up early on in the relationship.
05/30/2012
Collogue Collogue
I'm not really sure how it came up with my current partner but luckily we both gradually found out we were into BDSM (rather quickly, too) and have been exploring since
05/31/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
After a few nights, I just directly asked and talked about kinks.
06/01/2012
GONE! GONE!
I'm really open about it. I just bring them up when sex comes up.
06/01/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by SkinFlute
Assuming that you didn't meet up with the intent of exploring BDSM. How do you introduce that part of you?
it would just come up in conversation in what we like
06/01/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
I avoided it for a while- even though I knew my lover is lifestyle; then I made a long awkward word document about it and sent it to her and we talked about it after that ha ha
06/01/2012
reinkaos reinkaos
Actually the last two women I've been with (one being my wife) were really inexperienced I guess as far as doing anything other than the VERY BASIC missionary position. Literally that was all they had done beforehand. So it ended up I was basically their teacher so to speak and it went from there.They love how I made them feel so they were open to try new things that I like
06/01/2012
hall5885 hall5885
I tend to not throw it all in their lap at once. Tell them a little something here, a little something there and see how they react to it. Then a little more of this and a little more of that.
06/01/2012
Envoutes Envoutes
I never really had to deal with that, since my current partner sort of brought it up jokingly-but-not-jokin gly one time because I was being ~bossy~ lol. But if I had to deal with something like this, it would probably depend on the partner and how well I knew them. Though I'm kind of shy about talking about sexual things, so I'm not sure how I'd handle it.
06/02/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
I usually just ask what they are into, if anything. It is hard to find someone who likes the same kinks as you do. Especially if it is "taboo" in anyway. Online dating FTW. It makes just everything easier.
06/02/2012
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