How far into your sex life did you realize you were into BDSM?

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How far into your sex life did you realize you were into BDSM?

charip charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were missing. Feel free to respond.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Before ever having sex
StrawberryEve , Lio , Sweet-Justice , Dusk , joja , null , Miss Madeline , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , LavenderSkies , Koscheta , Tart , RammaJamma , Happy Camper , Epicurean , Airplane , MaryExy , Sohotdinosaur , The Curious Couple , mariedoll , k3 , softcoeur , Persephone Nightmare , cburger , Naughty Student , Shorty32 , Errant Venture , Sabrinna , RainbowOokami , Vanessa Weiss , CoffeeCup , potstickers , EvilHomer , Kkay , Ava5 , csdx , Sir , KaraSutra , ily , SomeGirl , systematicweasel , Dawn (Lilac Distraction) , briluminary , DixieDoo , AvianMinded , Alyxx , Princess-Kayla ♥ , Ninja Wolf , Isreah , Strider , butts , geekchic , Tangles , hall5885 , xcapricax , ashields027 , Miss L , bronzelotus , Vanille , ChubbyNerd , jennifur77 , Tigerlily808
61  (55%)
I figured out pretty quickly how I liked it
Lucidity , IrishLassie , RosesThorns , DJBounder , LennaKieran , ID42 , zracer , salaciousrex , toxie m , TameTemptress , DeliciousSurprise , LostBoy988 , wetone123 , Jimmy Stevenson , novanilla , SaucyxGirl , HisLittleFiend
17  (15%)
A couple months to a year
hjtee , Lady Marmelade , JessCee , Bittenflame , EmuLove
5  (5%)
1-5 years
Taylor , PunkyB , padmeamidala , Alyjazz , xoflxokcxo , MissAnna , kvisnirskitten , mistressg , MilyxXxD , chicagobearsfan
10  (9%)
5-10 years
Shellz31 , sugar and spice , Miss Nessa
3  (3%)
10+ years
Destri , Armsjlove , SexyTabby , Elbert's Angel , Redboxbaby , ac0313 , Brandi Rouxxx , strawberrystwstd , Ivy Wilde , domsub1993 , tami
11  (10%)
Other, you missed me! (Please comment)
Miss Voluptuous , Bignuf , chicmichiw
3  (3%)
Total votes: 110
Poll is closed
03/13/2011
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StrawberryEve StrawberryEve
Oh I've known for a long, long time. Ever since my first fantasy.
03/13/2011
Destri Destri
I had 'leanings' I just never knew that a thing called BDSM existed until I was in my late 30s... late bloomer I guess.
03/13/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
When I had wonderful fantasy's about being tied up and covered in hot food perhaps?
03/13/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
It started pretty much right after I started having sex. I really liked being dominated in bed or tied down.
03/13/2011
RosesThorns RosesThorns
Same as Miss Anne, it was pretty shortly after I started having sex that I figured out what I like. It has evolved a lot since then also.
03/13/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I was about 8-9 years old.
03/14/2011
Armsjlove Armsjlove
I had plenty of submissive fantasies and desires, I just never put two and two together until much later. Late bloomer. ~ Arms
03/14/2011
Koscheta Koscheta
I was the girl who was a little too eager to play pirates so I could tie the neighborhood boys to the mast...
03/14/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I honestly didn't have time for me and what I wanted so I didn't really develop a desire for anything more then I had until recently when my hormones kicked into overdrive. Just really focused on me and what I need and want. But I'm still limited as the Hubby is only so tolerant in that department. I have a pretty fair range of what he'll let me do to him but he won't do the same to me.
03/14/2011
RammaJamma RammaJamma
I've been having submission fantasies since I first started exploring my sexuality
03/14/2011
Elbert's Angel Elbert's Angel
Not until this year when I turned 39, my husband is loving it (he is much older than I), he says my body is changing and he needs to perform.
03/15/2011
Dusk Dusk
I've consciously known I was into BDSM since I was about 13 or 15 (way before my sex life) but looking back, the signs were there since I was very young (5?).
03/16/2011
ac0313 ac0313
I just started really exploring this with my current SO. She has been into bdsm for a couple of years and is much younger than I. She says I am a natural Dom and I feel very comfortable doing so for her. I am not sure if I would feel the same with someone else or if it is just the chemistry that she and I have that makes is feel natural and so satisfying.
03/30/2011
VanillaCupcake VanillaCupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ...
I only just this year started very small acts of BDSM, however, that is partly because I cant figure out how to ask my boyfriend to go farther.
But I had an idea that I would be into it way before I ever started having a sex life as well. I just cant manage the courage to ask permission to go farther with it.
04/05/2011
CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ...
With my boyfriend now, he actually loves to spank my ass and I had never had anyone try it how he does and it really turned me on. Once he realized that I really like it, it got to a point that I' tell him SPANK ME :p from there, things have taken off and we have adventured much
04/24/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
I kinda always had a fantasy about it, but never really did it until now. I couldn't be happier now!
04/24/2011
mariedoll mariedoll
Quote:
Originally posted by Brandi Rouxxx
I kinda always had a fantasy about it, but never really did it until now. I couldn't be happier now!
I'm with you. I knew I liked it, but I was too young to put a name to it. It's great when you find someone who fantasizes about the same things as you. And will live them out with you.
04/27/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I had read the Anne Rice Beauty Trilogy when I just turned 18, I bought it an had no idea that it was erotica, lol.

It turnded me on so much and I knew that I liked bdsm after having gotten wet off reading these books (on must keep in mind that the bdsm in these are a little extreme and not realistic)
05/03/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
It was about 10 years in that I started liking light BDSM.
07/06/2011
RainbowOokami RainbowOokami
Honestly my sex life started off as BDSM and only recently has reverting into a more romantic setting with a bit of BDSM on the side.
07/11/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I was very dominant in my last relationship (though, I sure had my moments of being dominated, just by the wrong type of person) & didn't realize how much I need to be sexually dominated to be truly sexually satisfied until my early-mid twenties. I'm a Virgo, so I always have to be in control, grew up hating feeling vulnerable, and it hasn't been so easy fully giving into this need. Someone has to be GOOD at it, and extremely adventurous in bed!

Now that I've learned so much more through here & growing up, I can't way to explore every extreme side of it a whole lot more.
07/12/2011
Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ...
No doubt about it, I've always known. Some of my earliest sexual fantasies — before even realizing what they were! — involved bondage, D/s overtones, and the like. I didn't even realize that it was "kinky" or even "abnormal" until I learned what "kinky" meant.

That said, I am still discovering in new ways in which I am kinky, even now!
07/12/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ...
I dated a girl who was seriously into this. Wanted to be tied up, blindfolded, and abused in a lot more ways then that. Honestly, however, it did not do anything for me. I know she has probably made some guy insanely happy out there, but if that chemistry ain't there, it ain't there. I honesty don't get the BDSM thing at all...and neither does my wife. If it is something you enjoy, however...may the force be with you. "Different strokes"..as they say.
07/17/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Well... it depends on how you cut it with me. I was playing games as a child that had kinky elements in them. Some of those were sexual but not all... But then there was a more conscious realization that I had a couple years ago about how I desire kinky sex. Even that though didn't start out with words or directly identifying my desires as "BDSM". It's just mysteries that continue to come out the further you unpack the box.
07/17/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanessa Weiss
No doubt about it, I've always known. Some of my earliest sexual fantasies — before even realizing what they were! — involved bondage, D/s overtones, and the like. I didn't even realize that it was "kinky" or even ...
Cool. I'm not the only one with this kind of experience!
07/17/2011
mistressg mistressg
Didn't actually start practicing until a few years in. But in retrospect, it makes sense that I would have liked it the entire time.
07/17/2011
Kkay Kkay
I always knew that it was what I wanted.
07/24/2011
Sir Sir
It was definitely way before I ever had sex.
08/04/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
I just tried things I had seen only online and found communities who were safe, educated, and joined similar fetishes.
08/04/2011
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