How hard do you play?

Contributor: TboyTy TboyTy
For a good while I thought I was a lighter bottom, especially since I play with and around those far more experienced than myself. Recently though, I have learned that not to be the case. I was approached to be a demo bottom in the opening show of a larger event for a well respected and very heavy player in the community. After discussing with him that I felt his confidence in my threshold may be misplaced we negotiated the scene in such a manner that it would appear as heavy as he wanted while he gradually increased the intensity without crossing my threshold. After the scene and aftercare was completed he informed me that he was giving me every thing he had with his giant bull hide mop and took me to another player that is a medical professional to have my back looked at. I actually had a bruised rib on my backside... endorphins are fun, and I now know that I can take more than I should.. at least on any regular basis

In summary, bruises and scratch marks are fine, outside of entry and exit points for needles I'm not ok with permanent marks.
02/03/2011
Contributor: Josh aka FootMan Josh aka FootMan
One time, we were pretty heavy hitters. Lol, we had an argument followed by some very angry sex.

It was kind of hott, but I don't really want to hurt my plaything, that's not nice. She did deserve it that time though.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Not here Not here
Quote:
Originally posted by Josh aka FootMan
One time, we were pretty heavy hitters. Lol, we had an argument followed by some very angry sex.

It was kind of hott, but I don't really want to hurt my plaything, that's not nice. She did deserve it that time though.
How soon we forget! It wasn't an argument, silly. We were drunk! In the car.. weird, I know.

The belt came off and I knew I was doomed. It was fun at the time, but the mark on my face wasn't
02/13/2011
Contributor: CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
i've had to dial things back a lot because of a back injury but normally i like a good heavy hitter!
02/13/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I really like the heavy hitters...
02/13/2011
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
a little bit of biting, spanking and stuff wouldn't be so bad. i wouldn't really want to hurt my partner though.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
So I voted the Chain me up and beat me bloody but maybe not so bloody hehe I love it hard and I like to be bruised afterward. I don't mind a bit of blood if there is some tearing or slight cutting from a flogging.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Haiku Haiku
It entirely depends on my partner and our dynamic. I find that with some it is all mental with almost no physical play, with others it is shibari and sexual torment, and with some our last question is "what sort of clothing are you wearing at this time of year" so they know where they can leave the cuts and bruises that will last for weeks.

Trying to do a kind of play that doesn't fit our dynamic turns me off, even if with another partner it would be sexy as anything.
02/25/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
Pain is needed in intimancy, but no need to be sooo pain or soo hard. A patner may feels a pain in gentle way (Waxxing)..
We don't use slapping any way it is soo hard for feeling rather than skin.
02/25/2011
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
I don't like pain.
03/01/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I would never want to be actually hurt, but I certainly don't mind being tossed around and handled firmly.
03/01/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I would you say that we are more like moderate to hard play. Nothing that is going to draw blood or cause bodily harm. I do have a few bruises on my tush.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I've gone home with knots on the back of my head and bruises. Good times.
It gets emotionally draining pretty quickly, though.
04/07/2011
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Ummm... all of the above??? It all depends on my mood. But generally speaking, I fall into the middle.
04/07/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
we dont get rough with each other. but we do go at it pretty hard some nights.
04/07/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
depends on the mood no serious damage tho
04/10/2011
Contributor: babypinecone babypinecone
I am not into being beaten bloody but a bit of pain is always a good thing!!!
05/14/2011
Contributor: It's a Hooker! It's a Hooker!
"I like heavy hitters. Chain me up and beat me bloody! Please?" LOL
05/14/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Some people play hard. Some barely graze the skin. And still others fall somewhere in between. So what about you?
I like it rough but not to the point that I'm bleeding.
05/17/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Ugh, no I would not be happy if my partner hit me, EVER!
I've been abused my males in the past and my partner wouldn't ever do that to me! I like it rough sometimes, but there's a serious line between rough and beating the hell out of someone and I don't see how beating someone could ever involve love of any sort. Spanking, etc is fine, but when you actually hurt someone or cause them wounds/bleeding I think that's taking it way, way WAY too far!
06/03/2011
Contributor: soyandapplecrisp soyandapplecrisp
Usually I'm sub and my partner can hit pretty hard, but not as hard as he thinks. For some reason he's constantly thinking he's being too rough with me, kinda cute that he's afraid.

As for me, one time I accidentally, temporarily, dislocated his jab a bit. He liked it, but he likes it more when the results aren't so... you know.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i like to spanked and throttled but nothing like being flogged or caned. getting badly hurt isn't my thing. and i'm not aggressive enough to leave a mark on anyone else lol
07/11/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I like it rough but not to the point where im crying in pain or bleeding.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Some people play hard. Some barely graze the skin. And still others fall somewhere in between. So what about you?
Sometimes I want to push my SO past his comfort level because it excites me, but I don't like the thought of putting him in unpleasurable pain. I think we're softer than most kinksters, but that's just fine with me.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I'm so middle of the road you'd swear I had blinders on.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I get handcuffed, and spanked. And he's slapped my face. But we don't get very rough. There's never any blood, or really bad bruises. We're probably somewhere in the middle.
08/31/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Some people play hard. Some barely graze the skin. And still others fall somewhere in between. So what about you?
the roygher the better i like when i bleed
09/01/2011
Contributor: Jimmy Stevenson Jimmy Stevenson
Little bit of heavy hitter...
09/03/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I like being spanked but nothing crazy!
09/04/2011
Contributor: Chaotic Rantings Chaotic Rantings
I am just learning
09/06/2011