Tips on how to be dom?

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Tips on how to be dom?

libbyv libbyv
hubby is interested in my dominating him. any suggestions for beginners? he likes anal play. but not sure what else to do
11/25/2012
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charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by libbyv
hubby is interested in my dominating him. any suggestions for beginners? he likes anal play. but not sure what else to do
Read, read, read, read. Try SM 101 and The New Topping Book and it's companion The New Bottoming Book. You can also try Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns. There's tons of others too. Avoid the pitfall of using cheap, fictional crap (*cough*50 shades*cough) as a learning experience. Read good quality, non-fiction written by people who live the life.
Communicate, communicate, communicate, communicate! Talk to him, get him to open up to things he'd like to experience and encourage him to read The New Bottoming Book.
Also, if you can, look into connecting with your local kink community and attending munches and workshops and other events. There are usually plenty of non-play, discussion, socializing type events to attend that could help you.
Good luck in your journey! Let me know if i can give any other advice.
11/25/2012
kdlt kdlt
There are so many great online and published resources (like Charletnarouh mentioned above.) Definitely read up a bit before you try anything involving toys or potentially dangerous kinks. A good first step to dominating him, if you need something to think on immediately, is being able to openly tell him exactly what you want him to do. Don't hesitate to talk to him about what ways HE would like you to take control, especially if he brought this up to you. Hopefully he'll know to ease you into it and not drop a laundry list of kinks on you. Find a good middle ground where everyone involved is comfortable and have fun!
11/25/2012
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