I've been trying to think of new little things to try with my sweetie and since joining EF and being exposed to all of this information, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Please keep in mind that neither I nor he are heavily into the dom/sub fantasy or roles. We have on occasion played with tieing up, he likes a little biting, I like having my hair pulled a little. What would be an easy, not terribly intimidating thing to explore? I'm looking more for teasing and sensory deprivation/new sensations than pain or dominance.
How to introduce myself and my partner to light BDSM?
My wife was not into it at all when we first got together. We started with the under the bed restrain system that we bought from here and it works great. We also use a blindfold with it. But to be on the safe side we use a safe word just in case. my wife has more about it on her blog link you can read about it there. But that is a good place to start
08/12/2011
Quote:
Yes! I was just about to recommend this, too.
Originally posted by
sugar and spice
I would say use a blindfold and try things that your partner would not expect and won't be able to see. Run an ice cube down his body. A very light whip alternated with a feather to keep him on edge, not knowing what he will feel next. Maybe use
...
I would say use a blindfold and try things that your partner would not expect and won't be able to see. Run an ice cube down his body. A very light whip alternated with a feather to keep him on edge, not knowing what he will feel next. Maybe use some warming lube. Have fun!
08/14/2011
One time my boyfriend asked if I had any fetishes, and I said handcuffs. And it just went off from there. He started spanking me. And he just recently discovered that I like choking.
But I think you should just start it off slow. A little spanking maybe. Some handcuffs. Harder biting maybe.
But I think you should just start it off slow. A little spanking maybe. Some handcuffs. Harder biting maybe.
08/15/2011
Quote:
Tying each other up is a good start. You might try watching some porn together, or try writing him a sexy story from one of your own fantasies. Ask him what he liked or disliked about it and work from there. (If you don't watch porn together you may want to ease into this conversation as well)
Originally posted by
LaLaLouise
I've been trying to think of new little things to try with my sweetie and since joining EF and being exposed to all of this information, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Please keep in mind that neither I nor he are heavily into the dom/sub fantasy or roles.
...
I've been trying to think of new little things to try with my sweetie and since joining EF and being exposed to all of this information, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Please keep in mind that neither I nor he are heavily into the dom/sub fantasy or roles. We have on occasion played with tieing up, he likes a little biting, I like having my hair pulled a little. What would be an easy, not terribly intimidating thing to explore? I'm looking more for teasing and sensory deprivation/new sensations than pain or dominance.
With sensory deprivation you might try using music. Have him make a playlist of his top 10 favorite songs right now. Gently tie him down, place headphones over his ears and blind fold him. Oral is especially great this way, so be sure to ask him to return the favor.
08/15/2011
Quote:
Ok, so I officially LOVE this idea! Thanks everyone for your suggestions!!
Originally posted by
AvianMinded
Tying each other up is a good start. You might try watching some porn together, or try writing him a sexy story from one of your own fantasies. Ask him what he liked or disliked about it and work from there. (If you don't watch porn together you may
...
Tying each other up is a good start. You might try watching some porn together, or try writing him a sexy story from one of your own fantasies. Ask him what he liked or disliked about it and work from there. (If you don't watch porn together you may want to ease into this conversation as well)
With sensory deprivation you might try using music. Have him make a playlist of his top 10 favorite songs right now. Gently tie him down, place headphones over his ears and blind fold him. Oral is especially great this way, so be sure to ask him to return the favor.
With sensory deprivation you might try using music. Have him make a playlist of his top 10 favorite songs right now. Gently tie him down, place headphones over his ears and blind fold him. Oral is especially great this way, so be sure to ask him to return the favor.
08/16/2011
Quote:
you can also try dirty talk, blindfolds with light bondage (think silk ties, scarves, and handkerchiefs rather than handcuffs). a wartenberg pinwheel might be fun, a feather tickler, or something soft and suede for sensory play
Originally posted by
LaLaLouise
I've been trying to think of new little things to try with my sweetie and since joining EF and being exposed to all of this information, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Please keep in mind that neither I nor he are heavily into the dom/sub fantasy or roles.
...
I've been trying to think of new little things to try with my sweetie and since joining EF and being exposed to all of this information, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Please keep in mind that neither I nor he are heavily into the dom/sub fantasy or roles. We have on occasion played with tieing up, he likes a little biting, I like having my hair pulled a little. What would be an easy, not terribly intimidating thing to explore? I'm looking more for teasing and sensory deprivation/new sensations than pain or dominance.
Jan 8, 11:59 pm
Total posts:
13
Unique posters: 12
Unique posters: 12