How to talk to partner about trying BDSM?

CarmenCaligula CarmenCaligula
I'm curious about doing some things that would fall under this category. Perhaps light bondage/having my partner dominate me more. What I'd like to know is if anyone has some tips about how to talk to my partner about such things. I'm pretty sure she'd be a dom if she was interested and that's perfect since I'd definitely want to be a sub.

Any thoughts?
04/19/2013
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Bme Bme
My wife brought it up by bringing up the topic of each of us sharing a fantasy. In the fantasy she shared it involved light bondage and spanking. A while later she showed me some items here on EF and asked my opinion. That was a good non-threatening way of bringing it up.
04/20/2013
CarmenCaligula CarmenCaligula
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Originally posted by Bme
My wife brought it up by bringing up the topic of each of us sharing a fantasy. In the fantasy she shared it involved light bondage and spanking. A while later she showed me some items here on EF and asked my opinion. That was a good ... More
Cool, thanks! Perhaps that'll work for me.
04/25/2013
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Usually honest communication is the best policy, in my opinion. Or gather some resources that you can give her to help her learn how to safely and competently do the things you're hoping to do. You can also look into a book called When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt available on Amazon Here.
i introduced my Mistress to BDSM and Wwe now happily embrace Oour BDSM lifestyle and play. Good luck and feel free to private message me if you have any questions or just want some support from someone who has been there.
04/29/2013
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I test waters first. Usually I will discuss a certain aspect of BDSM be it either bondage, flogging etc and try to take notice of their reaction. If the reaction is a positive one then I will approach the topic of playing.

I try to keep the conversation as comfortable and honest as possible.
Mar 7, 1:09 pm
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Maybe watch a video like "Pretty Tied Up" together. Sometimes we try things we saw. Or maybe tied yourself up partially and wait for her to walk into the bedroom.
Mar 9, 2:46 pm
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
Try something nonthreatening at first. Maybe handcuffs or blindfolds, if he enjoys the idea, go from there.
Mar 21, 1:10 am
PadoruLover PadoruLover
I am very direct person so just sit down and talk about it with her and set boundaries. That's what me and my partner did.
Mar 21, 11:07 am
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