I cant tell am I dom sub or a switch and which do you think I lean more towards?

ss143 ss143
There are sometimes where I love to be in control it gives me a sense of power and I love doing things to him but not allow him to do things to me even tho eventually he will regain control lol. However there are other times when bf controls me wont let me move or do anything and I get so turned on/happy/excited. We haven't done true bdsm he will only retrain me with his hands or pull my hair spank me so its hard for me I guess to tell which and or how to deal with it. Do I chose sides or is switching really an option/ easier to do? I am naturally a pleaser in day to day life but don't know if that plays a part in bdsm/sex. I think he is a dom by nature. Any help and advice is appreciated. Thanks
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newlady newlady
There are some interesting quizzes at quizfarm.com
Type in bdsm in the search area. #2 is a good one.
06/07/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by newlady
There are some interesting quizzes at quizfarm.com
Type in bdsm in the search area. #2 is a good one.
thank you
06/07/2011
newlady newlady
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Originally posted by ss143
thank you
You are most welcome!
Did you do it? What were the results? Did it help?

Inquiring minds want to know! lol
06/10/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by newlady
You are most welcome!
Did you do it? What were the results? Did it help?

Inquiring minds want to know! lol
Lol I did two of the test one said I was a switch and the other said I was a sub. So after some talking with bf we came to the conclusion that I am a sub switch and he is a dom switch guess it works
06/11/2011
newlady newlady
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Originally posted by ss143
Lol I did two of the test one said I was a switch and the other said I was a sub. So after some talking with bf we came to the conclusion that I am a sub switch and he is a dom switch guess it works
The fact that it works for you is what really counts!
06/11/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by newlady
The fact that it works for you is what really counts!
thank you
06/11/2011
Linga Linga
I'd say a switch but don't feel like you have to pigeon hole yourself into a category. Do what feels right and what you like.
06/14/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
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Originally posted by Linga
I'd say a switch but don't feel like you have to pigeon hole yourself into a category. Do what feels right and what you like.
I agree with this. Pretty much said exactly what I was thinking.
06/14/2011
ss143 ss143
Quote:
Originally posted by Linga
I'd say a switch but don't feel like you have to pigeon hole yourself into a category. Do what feels right and what you like.
Thank you
06/14/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by That Man from Mars
I agree with this. Pretty much said exactly what I was thinking.
Thank you
06/14/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I'm reluctant to suggest that you are one thing over another as I've never experienced your sexual practices. I would say that it's all how you feel like you identify as. But labels are mostly for yourself. And you don't have to label yourself as anything to enjoy and participate in BDSM fun.

But based on your little paragraph, I would say you're likely a submissive. At least, in this relationship... as your role can change from relationship to relationship.
06/16/2011
CandidKinkster CandidKinkster
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Originally posted by ss143
There are sometimes where I love to be in control it gives me a sense of power and I love doing things to him but not allow him to do things to me even tho eventually he will regain control lol. However there are other times when bf controls me wont ... More
There are submissives with Dominant personalities, and possibly (although certainly more rare) Dominants with submissive personalities. There are also switches that lean one way or the other depending on the situation.

Regardless, they're all just labels. Explore, have fun, be safe. Remember, it's all about the journey, not the destination.
06/16/2011
ss143 ss143
Thanks everyone. I wasn't looking for a label exactly was just curious for generall purposes. For bf and I what we do works for us and I am by no means looking to change our dynamic
06/17/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
Switch
06/25/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I don't necessarily think you're any of the above, based on the information you have provided thus far. I don't think, to be a Dom or sub or switch, it's just the act of being in control or not during sex, but the more elective actions of a Dom/sub couple.

At the moment, based on what I perceive, you're more of a kinky-vanilla!
06/27/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by Errant Venture
I don't necessarily think you're any of the above, based on the information you have provided thus far. I don't think, to be a Dom or sub or switch, it's just the act of being in control or not during sex, but the more elective ... More
Thanks for your imput kinky vanilla I guess you could classify us as that from what we do for now. I have finally convinced bf to start restraints with me and the thought of having no control being restrained tied up excites me greatly so I guess we shall see what our vanilla flavor turns into as we delve more into it
06/27/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I can only approve of such things, 143! Good luck, and I hope you both have fun!
06/28/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by Errant Venture
I can only approve of such things, 143! Good luck, and I hope you both have fun!
Thank you
06/28/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by ss143
There are sometimes where I love to be in control it gives me a sense of power and I love doing things to him but not allow him to do things to me even tho eventually he will regain control lol. However there are other times when bf controls me wont ... More
You all sound similar to us. We are definitely both switches. I tend to be a bit more top, and my wife a bit more bottom, but it can change day by day depending on our moods.
06/28/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
Do you really need a label?
07/15/2011
ss143 ss143
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Originally posted by Elnoa
Do you really need a label?
No I don't it was just out of curiosity. I am who I am and what bf and I do works for us.
07/17/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
More or less you are a switch like me
07/17/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
You can be both, nowhere is it written in stone that you can only be one. We are hesitant about getting too into that kind of play, but we do light things. Just nothing serious or painful. I switch. I'm like you, a people pleaser in regular day to day life. (Badly!) but in bed, I like being the opposite. Lol. It's so weird! He likes me to demand and all, but then it's switched and he spanks me and says dirty stuff. Lol. I like that and sometimes I like being both in one session. It just depends on your mood. Just go with whatever you feel like at that moment and maybe the next time you'll be in the mood for being the other one. Or you could change positions in one session.
07/20/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by ss143
There are sometimes where I love to be in control it gives me a sense of power and I love doing things to him but not allow him to do things to me even tho eventually he will regain control lol. However there are other times when bf controls me wont ... More
Sounds like a "not too" BDSM relationship....but the kind everyone else has...sometimes one person is a bit more submissive. Other times not!!!
07/20/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
Switch
08/11/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Yupper you're a switch!
08/11/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Switch! Great fun
01/28/2012
ss143 ss143
Thanks everyone nuff said my curiosity has been met lol
08/06/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Glad you were helped. I've known a few switches, and a few people who wouldn't switch. It depends on what makes you happy
08/07/2012
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