I need tips to be a Dom Woman

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I need tips to be a Dom Woman

Anne Anne
I struggle with being the dominant person in the bedroom. I'm more comfortable with being submissive and letting him beat, degrade, w/e to me, but when I try, I freeze. Anyone have any tips for me?
06/28/2012
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KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
I struggle with being the dominant person in the bedroom. I'm more comfortable with being submissive and letting him beat, degrade, w/e to me, but when I try, I freeze. Anyone have any tips for me?
I have the same problem really, there's a couple books on here about being a dominant. The one that seems to come the most highly recommended is this one but there's also this one.

There used to be several others but the wound up discontinued.
I haven't read either of those two yet myself though.
06/28/2012
Sir Sir
If you're more comfortable with being a bottom and submitting, perhaps that is the role you should stick to. Forcing yourself into a role is usually not a good thing.
06/29/2012
Sissy Sissy
If you're usually in the submissive position, just try doing a few fierce things and work your way up; like if he's on top and you two are going at it, try digging your nails into his back or biting his shoulder a little, get a little rougher but stay in your comfort zone so you don't freeze up.
If it's more of a deer in the headlights kind of thing, like you're self conscious of him looking at you, then try blindfolding him and having your way with him while he sits back and enjoys it. If you tell him that it's your turn to play with him, then I'm sure he won't argue

Something I do to switch roles between dominant and submissive with my boyfriend, is to pretend I'm in a different persona; like an entirely different person. Thinking differently and acting boldly based on a role model helped me.

Just experiment until you find something you're comfortable with
06/29/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
I struggle with being the dominant person in the bedroom. I'm more comfortable with being submissive and letting him beat, degrade, w/e to me, but when I try, I freeze. Anyone have any tips for me?
try getting yourself worked up a bit which should help.
06/29/2012
sumie sumie
Try being creative with the domination aspect. For example give him the instruction to stay in a position and not move. Also watch his reactions. If he is really enjoying the scene you made for him it can be an adrenaline boost for you. After all it feels good when your partner really enjoys what you have done for them.

Also choose role playing in which it is easy for you to be on top-like a teacher or a nurse or whatever strikes your fancy. Is there a movie or sci-fi series you enjoy together?

Getting costumes and props and decorating the room a certain way can help you get into character. Perhaps have him dress up a certain way for the scene. If you tap into your creative side this can be a lot of fun for the both of you.
07/10/2012
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