Are you involved in your local kink scene?

Zandrock Zandrock
Are you involved in your local kinky community?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
14  (15%)
No
50  (53%)
Thinking about it
22  (23%)
There are local communities?
8  (9%)
Total votes: 94
Poll is closed
07/21/2012
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mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
No. We thought about it back when we were dating but now that we're married, it hasnt came up
07/21/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
I used to be. I even taught classes at times, but I'm not heavily into bdsm anymore. It was fun.
07/21/2012
hall5885 hall5885
I'm just to anti-social and lazy. Those are the worst two traits to have together. haha!
07/21/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I want to be, I get alerts when they get together but I haven't gone yet.
07/21/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
I check the calendar regularly and always think of going, but we are both pretty anti-social so it never happens. My husband may attend one of the workshops on how to make things since he's wanting to build some equipment. I think if he goes to one of those and the people are friendly then maybe we would start going to munches or something. I dunno. I guess part of my thing is that we are younger (29 and 27) and might be one of the younger couples there. Not that young means anything, but being around people who have had my whole lifetime of experience is a bit intimidating. lol
07/21/2012
Sir Sir
Half in, half out.
07/21/2012
Vanille Vanille
Nah. I like to keep my kink within the confines of myself my girl. Sure it's probably fun and you learn a lot from others but meh, Don't feel like being 'public' so to speak, even if it is around other like-minded folk.
07/21/2012
ghent529 ghent529
nope. not for us
07/21/2012
MK434 MK434
No, I keep my kink to myself.
07/21/2012
Nora29714 Nora29714
no i'm a home body
07/21/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I am poly, so my kinky partner and I go to munches and the occasional party. My more vanilla partner is thinking about going to munches with us.
07/21/2012
Roz W Roz W
a little. there's a fair amount of overlap between kink stuff and the poly community where i am. but it's not my main way to socialize, and i'm not always sure how important it is to me.(i like nerdy queers and learning stuff, but i don't think i'll ever be heavy into masochism or lifestyle D/s.)the scene has its own issues, but my personal experiences have been positive.
07/21/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Not right now. I'd like to be someday, but I'm pretty shy around new people. Maybe once we've settled into our community more, my husband and I would be more interested in that kind of thing.
07/21/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'm fairly introverted, so not really. I only typically go to workshops.
07/21/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Nah, I'm not really open to people about my sex life.
07/21/2012
booboo111926 booboo111926
nopee
07/21/2012
LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Are you involved in your local kinky community?
is there one?
07/22/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by LunaLuthor
is there one?
Almost certainly, there is a kink community in your area. We kinky people are much more common than anyone realizes!

i have found a community where i live and i couldn't be happier. i didn't realize how much i was missing before i got involved. i went to a local MAsT (Masters And slaves Together) which is about Master/slave and Dominant/submissive relationships primarily but very open and welcoming to anyone interested in the kink/leather/BDSM world. i nearly cried when i heard people talking about things i had felt or thought. Since then, i have been to a few more MAsT meetings, joined my local club, attended an AMAZING, INTENSE women's only leather event with my Mistress that was truly life changing, and volunteered at the leather area of my local Pride festival. i've met some of the nicest, friendliest, most welcoming people i could ever imagine. The women's event W/we attended featured a few hundred leather women in a weekend of workshops and classes, discussion groups, demonstrations and intense, no-holds-barred play. The women at this event welcomed U/us as newcomers with open arms and embraced U/us and W/we never felt lonely or isolated or cast out. W/we had no problem making friends and connections, some of which we've stayed in touch with.

i'm not sure how much public play W/we'll get into, but the workshops have been incredible and getting to know people and being around kinky people has been such a great experience and the learning opportunities have been completely invaluable. There is something W/we both find comforting about being around kink-minded people. It's so freeing to have this part of you be accepted, embraced and appreciated. After O/our weekend at the event i mentioned, being completely immersed in kink for 3 whole days, going back home where not everyone was kinky was a little strange! To not be able to talk about kink and be that open all the time was a little bit of a culture shock! Anyway, i love being part of the community and i strongly recommend it.
07/23/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I check the calendar regularly and always think of going, but we are both pretty anti-social so it never happens. My husband may attend one of the workshops on how to make things since he's wanting to build some equipment. I think if he goes to ... More
W/we are 26 & 27 and while W/we are usually among the youngest, we aren't THE youngest and W/we've received such a warm reception from the older crowd. It's been wonderful. Most people have commended U/us for getting involved so young, said it's nice to see young couples going about kink in a safe, healthy way, or said they were jealous because they didn't get involved until much later in life. They seem to really love the opportunity to pass on their legacy of knowledge and wisdom and everyone has just been amazing. But W/we've also met a lot of younger folks. Try looking to see if there is a "Next Generation" (sometimes called TNG or NextGen) group in your area. Most groups cap attendance at 30 or 35, so you'll be kind of at the top of that, but my local group just keeps their events and workshops to a more 101 or 102 level and limits play at their parties to a tamer level instead of capping age. That generally keeps out the super experienced or edge players while allowing those who are over 30 in age but "young" in leather.
07/23/2012
RadRach RadRach
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Are you involved in your local kinky community?
SO someone really needs to clue me in on how to find this kinky local community! =]
07/23/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by RadRach
SO someone really needs to clue me in on how to find this kinky local community! =]
I sent you a private EF message. Let me know if you need any more advice. Good luck!
07/23/2012
WildeKnight WildeKnight
No, but wife has mentioned it to me.
07/23/2012
geliebt geliebt
Somewhat. I joined Fetlife and saw there was a decent kink community here, and I've only been to a couple meetups but I'd like to go to more! Especially now that I'd love to find a sub
07/23/2012
Greenleaf Greenleaf
Not yet! My partner and I are rather shy, but we've been keeping an eye out for a munch to get to know people locally.
07/23/2012
Calypso05 Calypso05
I want to but I'm nervous!
07/24/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
We have thought about it, but haven't really had time to recently.
09/03/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Are you involved in your local kinky community?
No, and I don't wish to be.
09/04/2012
Billie Bones Billie Bones
I hang out on the fringe of the local community. A friend is trying to get me to a local happy hour meet up. Maybe that will happen...
09/04/2012
ilikepies2 ilikepies2
Yes, we frequently go to munches, classes, and play partiess
09/04/2012
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