Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Sometimes, we break out the flogger, and handcuffs, and have crazy wild sex. But we also have the normal vanilla sex.
Even when it's vanilla sex though, it's still pretty rough. And he sometimes still chokes me during normal sex. Yum.
We're a pretty kinky couple, but not in the way of BDSM play. That's never interested either of us, but there are other things we do that would make a 'vanilla' couple blush and hide under the table.
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
It realy depends on our moods...given that there are three of us the kink times tend to be rather frequent....
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Most of my sex is kinky but sometimes it's romantic and a way to connect with my Master. I love sex with him.
I don't really think of it as "vanilla", but sometimes it's just plain "stick it in and wiggle" as opposed the kind kind of sex that requires some clean up of toys and ourselves.
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
I'm kinky - Hubby is vanilla - we have been exploring my kink for awhile and with most things he's ok (a couple not so much) but since my accident it's all vanilla at best. Sooner or later I hope we reach the 50/50 mark but it'll be awhile.
I'm kinky - Hubby is vanilla - we have been exploring my kink for awhile and with most things he's ok (a couple not so much) but since my accident it's all vanilla at best. Sooner or later I hope we reach the 50/50 mark but it'll be awhile.
It depends. Lately I've been feeling totally vanilla. For some reason, kinky sex has just been making my hackles go up and I get prickly and defensive instead of relaxing into submission. I'd rather just be loved all sensually and nice right now, I'm not completely sure what it's about. In the past, when I've been in the mood, I'd say it was about 50/50 for kinky/vanilla sex.
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
With my man I am with now it is never kinky unless I convince him otherwise, its always pretty much straight sometimes he likes to get me doggy style. Its ok I dont mind especially after nine years with my ex who would do anything but he never ever seemed to be able to make me cum at all. My man now shit he makes me come just sliding it in so ill keep his boring normal sex..
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time.
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if
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I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time.
My thoughts almost exactly!!! I rarely have sex w/o a butt plug in place which I just consider normal for me.
I also know time restraints keep us from more BDSM play.
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if
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I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time.
I wouldn't include anal sex. I think I would define it as sex with distinct power dynamics in play.
I wouldn't include anal sex. I think I would define it as sex with distinct power dynamics in play.
I think we'll have to agree to disagree. People can play with BDSM without distinct "power dynamics" at all. As for anal sex, I think there is little more Dominant than fucking someone up the ass, and little more submissive than taking it.
It's half and half. All depends really on how much time we have if its just a quicky or do we have some time to play around . But i love the kinky sex.