Looking for Dominatrix ideas

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Looking for Dominatrix ideas

scarlettbear scarlettbear
Here is the short version, for those of you who do not like to read long paragraphs:

Hi.

My husband loves to be tied up and used, and I am looking for ideas of creative and interesting ways to abuse him. The more creative and the more interesting the better!


Long version, with many more useful details:
Greetings, my fellows.

My husband and I have been experimenting with a variety of ways for me to dominate him, and we are both having a lot of fun. However, we are at a difficult point because there is a narrow gap between not stimulating enough to wildly excite him and too risque to implement. So, I was hoping to get ideas from an experienced BDSM community as to how we can introduce some new and surprising elements into our sessions. To give you an idea about what kinds of suggestions I am looking for, here are the things that are out-of-bounds for him:

Assured Exhibitionism: Being out in public with anything visibly kinky about him is no good. However, being in public wearing something kinky but hidden is an interesting possibility and it also might work to put him in a situation where he isn't sure if people can see him or not.
Partners: No other people can be directly involved.
Shaving: The way he puts it is that he is okay with having any hair shaved that is normally hidden while he is wearing a T-shirt and shorts.
Waste: Definitely nothing involving poop, but I think he is fine with pee as long as he isn't made to drink it.

Here are some of the things we have done to give you an idea of what is in-bounds:

Anal: We have done a lot with inserting butt plugs and vibrators and using a strap-on to screw him in several positions - some with him tied and some not.
Bondage: He loves being tied up in strict and interesting positions, especially if it is a position that is conducive to being abused somehow. He also likes to be made to do things like chores and eating meals while tied up, especially when it is inconvenient or difficult because of the bondage.
Cum: He is forced to eat his own cum, often sucking it out of panties.
Feminization: Making him wear women's underwear and sometimes bras (I even ordered him his own special panties, and those drive him nuts!) and calling him by girl's names, as well as names like slut and whore.
Gags: He gets off on being gagged - we have been using a smallish ball gag but have plans to get a more intense one. I also make him deep-throat my strap on before screwing him with it most days I get it out.
Games: He likes rules, even when they are not in his favor, so having games and scenarios where his performance somehow affects what will happen to him is great!
Humiliation: He enjoys being humiliated a lot, but this is the most difficult interest to satisfy because in order to humiliate him, he pretty much needs to be forced to do something that he doesn't want to do, but isn't completely out-of-bounds. This is a narrow range, because he enjoys just about everything I can think of, even when I think it is pretty humiliating!

Thanks in advance for the tips, I hope we can put them to good use!
06/05/2013
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Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
I have a book called the mistress manual.. it's great! Also short stories give me great ideas. Celis press has some great books..
06/06/2013
Fluke Fluke
Wow you are hardcore, that's so awesome! I'm nowhere near that, phew.

Here's some ideas from my sick mind (I never tried any of this!):

-Spitting in his face
-Slapping his face
-Spanking/whipping/bea ting
-Candlewax burning
-Knife play (be careful! you can buy a rubber knife like for halloween)
-Have him worship your feet/boots/hair/butt/I dunno
-Face sitting, smothering (again, be careful!)
-Lock him in a cage
-Use a collar, make him act like a dog/cat/horse/I dunno lol
-Yummy food for rewards and ice cubes for punishment
-Kick him in the nuts (not full power!)
-Bite him
-Get one of those dog shock collar things

You should try browsing some femdom sites to watch scenarios that they do and give you ideas for dirty things to say, a big part of domination is a hot scenario.
06/07/2013
kitkatliz1795 kitkatliz1795
link has some great tips
09/12/2013
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