How does one find a BDSM mentor?

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How does one find a BDSM mentor?

Miss Lissy Miss Lissy
Soooo....how does one find a mentor? I'm kinda new at the whole BDSM thing and I want to learn more. I've been hiding it for so long and I'm sick of it, so I've decided to embrace my odd sexual tendencies.
05/16/2012
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sktb0007 sktb0007
A mentor for reviews or a mentor for bdsm?
05/16/2012
Beck Beck
You can find the mentor program in your dashboard. You are going to want to check out the mentors to find one who has knowledge about BDSM. I can think of one off the top of my head. Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
05/16/2012
Miss Lissy Miss Lissy
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Originally posted by sktb0007
A mentor for reviews or a mentor for bdsm?
For BDSM, sorry, probably coulda specified haha
05/16/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Check your area for BDSM clubs and organizations. Many areas have a BDSM community. Munches are a good place to meet people, but they are not intended as a "hook-up" meet, and are pretty PG during (they are often held at public restaurants and stuff). But they are great for mentoring. Finally, some areas have classes! They're a great place to get started. There are even BDSM Conventions!
05/16/2012
BloodHound BloodHound
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Originally posted by VelvetDragon
Check your area for BDSM clubs and organizations. Many areas have a BDSM community. Munches are a good place to meet people, but they are not intended as a "hook-up" meet, and are pretty PG during (they are often held at public restaurants ...
Yes! Great post VelvetDragon. Also, try checking on fetlife for you local kinky/ BDSM community. Fetlife is a great way to get connected with not only people for your area but from all over the world.

Wishing you the best of luck!

BloodHound
05/16/2012
Miss Lissy Miss Lissy
Thanks everyone. I just made a profile on fetlife today. Awesome site, I found a couple of things in my area.
05/16/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Fetlife or like clubs
05/16/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
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Originally posted by Miss Lissy
Thanks everyone. I just made a profile on fetlife today. Awesome site, I found a couple of things in my area.
Just be careful, okay? There are some great people on Fet but I've also met a bunch of not-so-great ones. xx
05/22/2012
Miss Lissy Miss Lissy
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Just be careful, okay? There are some great people on Fet but I've also met a bunch of not-so-great ones. xx
Yeah I will, I know firsthand what kind of *ahem* interesting people the internet can cough up if you don't apply common sense.
05/28/2012
G.L. Morrison G.L. Morrison
I think that "mentor" or "protector" can sometimes be a confusing relationship for bdsm newbies. Don't underestimate the vulnerability and intimacy of revealing your true desires, asking questions you've been afraid to voice or even light scene-ing/learning what you like or a safe escort/guide to mind-boggling events.

It takes clear honest communication about your expectations and boundaries. Predators sometimes offer "education" as a shortcut, they can then bypass the interview questions/qualificatio ns you would demand from a lover or dominant.

When you go to a munch or public party, if an organizer says "Oh you're really into OTK (over the knee) spanking, you should meet Bob. He literally wrote the book."
05/28/2012
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