Need Some Help Getting Back Into BDSM

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Need Some Help Getting Back Into BDSM

Errant Venture Errant Venture
Howdy,

My girl and I are in a long distance BDSM relationship. For the last few months (year-ish) there have been quite a few problems thrown our way. Not so much relationship problems - more along the lines of illness, deaths, depressions, and all manner of pressures. I feel that, because of these, we've neglected our BDSM relationship. I've neglected it. But I want to get back into it. The trouble is, I can't remember what sort of things we'd do. I remember having her play at parties, in public, at work, but nothing beyond that. (I should point out, this type of forgetfulness is normal for me. That doesn't stop it being irritating, though). I was hoping if you could help me with some tips, some ideas to help me get the ball rolling again, please?

Thanks for your time.
07/13/2012
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Zandrock Zandrock
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Originally posted by Errant Venture
Howdy,

My girl and I are in a long distance BDSM relationship. For the last few months (year-ish) there have been quite a few problems thrown our way. Not so much relationship problems - more along the lines of illness, deaths, depressions, ...
I think start with something you remember being fun. What was your favourite BDSM activity. Start there and I imagine the rest will come back. BDSM is a HUGE collection of sexual preferences. To me if I wanted to get back into it, it would mean bondage. Bondage, then teasing and denial and then sex. And then from there I would go to floggers, anal toys, nipple clamps, etc.

It is personal though. So like I said, start with an old favourite to rekindle the flame.
07/14/2012
Roz W Roz W
I know more than one person who gets off on talking about play -- could you try that? Find out what she's interested in, or if it's changed, and that you want to hear about it from her.
07/14/2012
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