Sometimes we do, sometimes we do not.
Negotiation before play.. do you always do it?
02/11/2013
Sometimes we negotiate. Not always,though.
02/11/2013
We talk about our kinks and new ones we would like to try but we don't really plan everything ahead of time. We have our safe words for when we push limits but we know each other very well and keep communication open during all scenes. My boyfriend and I are monogamous so we don't have to worry too much about forgetting the other's limits or confusing their limits with someone else's. I like the sense of not knowing what we are going to do next until we do it.
02/11/2013
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Yes to this. It really is safer.
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I negotiate before sex, way before sex. When I begin hanging out with the person we discuss bedroom things and the BDSM scene. What the limitations are, what limits can be pushed, etc. After that, it's all play and I don't negotiate. But I am
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I negotiate before sex, way before sex. When I begin hanging out with the person we discuss bedroom things and the BDSM scene. What the limitations are, what limits can be pushed, etc. After that, it's all play and I don't negotiate. But I am typically with the same handful of partners, so I know the limits of each of them. There is still a safeword in use, always, but I don't discuss what I'm going to do, that ruins it for me.
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02/11/2013
Sometimes yes sometimes no. If it's the same partner and they want the same thing, then no need really.
02/11/2013
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This is exactly what we do. If it is something new we always discuss it beforehand.
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Kkay
My partner knows my hard limits. If we're trying something new, we'll negotiate beforehand. He checks in with colors if he thinks he's pushing boundaries.
If it is something we have done before and both enjoyed then I am fine without negotiations. The negotiations have already been made and have always continued to stay true.
That being said even without negotiations we still check in on each other with the green,yellow, and red system. Just to make sure.
Also negotiations are always being made through body language. The moment I push a bit too hard I can tell by the look on my partner's face. I know to back off.
I think you can compare it to "vanilla" sex. You have to obtain consent before each and every sexual act. Yet no one "verbally" does so. I think they still obtain consent it is just implied through body language and actions. I think its the same for a BDSM scene.
02/11/2013
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No, I rarely negotiate with my partner.
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Breas
Again, I'm reading this book and it's talking about the importance of negotiation before getting into a scene in bdsm. I'm wondering if this is a rule that everyone follows, every time... The author says it is dangerous not to, but if you
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Again, I'm reading this book and it's talking about the importance of negotiation before getting into a scene in bdsm. I'm wondering if this is a rule that everyone follows, every time... The author says it is dangerous not to, but if you are with the same partner every time, do you still do the negotiations before you play?
After reading about this, it seems though the negotiation and discussion is important, I feel that if the two people discuss every little detail, wouldn't it ruin a bit of the excitement?
Then again, I don't know since I haven't done this yet. I'm just curious. less
After reading about this, it seems though the negotiation and discussion is important, I feel that if the two people discuss every little detail, wouldn't it ruin a bit of the excitement?
Then again, I don't know since I haven't done this yet. I'm just curious. less
03/20/2013
Negotiations are pretty much a must for me when it comes to first time play with a person and when ever something new is about to be explored.
I think that if either you or your partner are not comfortable talking about things then you might want to rethink the whole exploring them. Trust and communication are very important things when it comes to BDSM with me.
I think that if either you or your partner are not comfortable talking about things then you might want to rethink the whole exploring them. Trust and communication are very important things when it comes to BDSM with me.
03/21/2013