Safe word / Action

Yes, I think safewords are great things and should be used 99% of the time at least. I have always let my partners pick their safe words because I think it is easier for them to remember them that way.

Most of what happens in my scenes are negotiated before hand, and I usually talk rather openly with the Dom I play with. If I have a problem I am very expressive about it. Example: I say something like "That is too hard on my back" instead of waiting for the "Red" bomb to fall (my safeword). I like preventing using my safeword so if there is something I can speak up about before it gets to that point I will say it. If I am going to be gagged then some kind of "action" needs to be specified. It depends on the situation.

(Reminds me of the old BDSN joke: 'STOP! is not a safe word) Our word is rigatoni. Just a word that would never, ever come up during a session. Frantic tapping is what is used if talking is not an option.

I would never, ever play with anyone without a good safe word in place. I am a firm believer in safe, sane and consensual.