Safe words

AtlDom85 AtlDom85
What safe words do you like to use?
Feb 20, 2:51 pm
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SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
When I sit down with my partners I try to come up with a word that is easy to remember and weird enough that it wouldn't normally be uttered during sexual activity. My favorite is zebra..
Mar 7, 12:55 pm
Silkyhair4 Silkyhair4
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
When I sit down with my partners I try to come up with a word that is easy to remember and weird enough that it wouldn't normally be uttered during sexual activity. My favorite is zebra..
I am new to bdsm. What are safe words?
Mar 10, 3:33 am
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
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Originally posted by Silkyhair4
I am new to bdsm. What are safe words?
A safe word is a word that said to signal that physical, psychological etc limits are being crossed and the scene needs to end. I always establish a safe prior to engaging any BDSM activities and lay down the rule that when that word is spoken everything stops, the person is unbound (if tied up)etc..

If a sub is gagged and unable to speak something held in the hand that can be dropped is used in place of a safe word.

I always suggest that people research as much as possible about BDSM...and don't use fiction as research material. Sadly real BDSM is ever depicted correctly in fiction, this includes the BDSM contained in a certain famous set of novels.
Mar 10, 12:49 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by AtlDom85
What safe words do you like to use?
We are such simple folks. We like to keep things easy, so in the height of passion or in a moment of abandon, we don't need to remember any "safe" words. We use "stop". "Stop" to us means....no joke..."stop". The other person will immediately cease and desist whatever they are doing (like "freeze") and then either wait to find out what is going on, or will say "what's the matter"? We don't do BDSM per se, but we do indulge in anal play and some other things that can go wrong in a hurry if someone is hurting, so this way, we know a "stop" message is clear, does not take a lot of thought and is an absolute "hold up" message. It has worked well for us, and our friends, who are a bit into bondage play use it too. Amazing how some simple things can really work sometimes!
Mar 10, 4:27 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
We just keep with stop in order to make it simple and so it's not forgotten. I have a bad memory and have a bad habit of not thinking after a certain point so we just need to keep it simple and use something we would use normally.
Mar 16, 10:22 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by PadoruLover
We just keep with stop in order to make it simple and so it's not forgotten. I have a bad memory and have a bad habit of not thinking after a certain point so we just need to keep it simple and use something we would use normally.
Exactly...if you are hurting or excited, a "key" word might fail you. "STOP" will not.
Mar 17, 3:54 pm
Sir Sir
I don't "like" to use any safewords. I prefer communicating with language that isn't just a "stop everything now" catch-all.
Mar 19, 8:27 pm
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
We have one and haven't gotten to a point where we have had to use it yet. It is simple and easy to remember, but nothing that would come up in our bedroom vocabulary.
Mar 21, 1:01 am
emilymileena emilymileena
We keep it simple with the color system. "green"=safe, "yellow"= either slow down or I may need a second, "red"=STOP, no questions asked. Just stop. I have had to use yellow a few times, and red only twice because my headspace wasn't right and I was on the edge of a panic attack (which is not what I'm all about when I play.)
Mar 24, 12:25 pm
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