Safewords when gagged?

CuriousInCollege180 CuriousInCollege180
I'm still very new to this, but how do you come up with a safe word if you're gagged and tied? I am all about safety because you never know when/how circumstances might change. But I wanted to ask the more experienced members of the community how you usually go about tackling this little obstacle.
12/06/2013
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Originally posted by CuriousInCollege180
I'm still very new to this, but how do you come up with a safe word if you're gagged and tied? I am all about safety because you never know when/how circumstances might change. But I wanted to ask the more experienced members of the community ... More
Have the gagged person drop something like a rubber ball or small stuffed animal.
12/26/2013
MornaStar MornaStar
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Originally posted by CuriousInCollege180
I'm still very new to this, but how do you come up with a safe word if you're gagged and tied? I am all about safety because you never know when/how circumstances might change. But I wanted to ask the more experienced members of the community ... More
Always, Always, Always have signals. Your partner or even you might not be able to say anything when you are playing. If your in sub space sometimes words elude you. I know I've forgotten about our safe words a few times, but simply dropping a ball or a small stuffed animal is a great signal. Make sure your dom or you watch out for your sub or you. A dom should always provide a safe haven for the sub. Water afterwards, cuddling, keep them close. It saves the sub from sub drop which is a symptom of when the sub has a depressed feeling like one of a drop after being high. (bad description but that's what it is)
12/29/2013
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
A simple item such as a ball that is held in the hand. It can easily be dropped at a moments notice. Another factor is a very observant Dom. They should should be watching the sub at all times for any signs of distress.
Feb 26, 12:26 pm
TheKinks TheKinks
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Originally posted by CuriousInCollege180
I'm still very new to this, but how do you come up with a safe word if you're gagged and tied? I am all about safety because you never know when/how circumstances might change. But I wanted to ask the more experienced members of the community ... More
There's always the good old fashioned 'shave and a haircut' rhythm that you could do by using your voice.
Mar 5, 8:27 pm
emilymileena emilymileena
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Originally posted by CuriousInCollege180
I'm still very new to this, but how do you come up with a safe word if you're gagged and tied? I am all about safety because you never know when/how circumstances might change. But I wanted to ask the more experienced members of the community ... More
Typically in this situation, I have something in my hands instead. Usually a set of keys that jingle really loudly and distinctly when dropped. this also works for when you're tied and gagged. We play with music when I'm not gagged, but when I am gagged and have keys, we try to limit other sounds. A key drop is the equivelent of using a safeword.
Mar 24, 12:27 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
A ball or keys to drop or something that squeaks when you squeeze or drop it.
Mar 24, 9:12 pm
Glinteye Glinteye
Keys are always good. ANything that makes noise when dropped.
Mar 30, 1:55 pm
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
If I'm gagged, snapping my fingers is the equivalent of my safe word. Reading this thread, though, I might want to try something noisier! We typically play in quiet rooms, and my dom is really focused on my motions, but I will definitely keep keys in mind for the future. It can't hurt to have more than one option for this sort of thing.
May 15, 9:34 pm
lilswitch lilswitch
Gags aren't my thing but I've heard of people using/dropping bells.
Jun 20, 8:52 pm
subbieforHer subbieforHer
As others have mentioned, dropping a bell or a ball is a pretty common (and effective) method. After accidentally dropping the ball (pun intended) a few times, Mistress has incorporated a rule that I snap my fingers three times consecutively to indicate something's wrong.
Jun 30, 1:56 am
apodosis apodosis
We use a bell. I hold it so that even if I'm writhing it won't ring out unless I adjust my grip on it (it rattles dully sometimes but we've clarified that rattling isn't the safeword, since rattling is usually accidental). If something's wrong I ring it.

I'm afraid of the 'dropping something' method because I'm scared I'd drop it and somehow he wouldn't notice, and then there goes my ability to safeword! With the bell always in my hand, I can ring when I need to.
Aug 13, 7:22 pm
SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
gagged and no free hands, you still have the option of high pitched, unintelligable sounding. That is, if you don't do that normally, and you let the D know to listen for high pitched as the safe word equiv.
Aug 30, 8:49 pm
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