Should Tops experience a sensation, toy, act, etc. from the bottom before they apply it from the Top?

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Should Tops experience a sensation, toy, act, etc. from the bottom before they apply it from the Top?

charletnarouh charletnarouh
It's an adage in the community that "the best bottoms make the best tops."
my Mistress has bottomed at some point, sometimes even just in a very minimal way, to ever sensation She delivers to me, every toy She uses on me. She has been caned, flogged, whipped, spanked, etc. She has worn presstacks before She placed them on me. She has felt the skin of my collar against her neck and cuffs against Her wrists. She doesn't love receiving caning or flogging like i do, but She wanted to understand what She would be delivering when She did those things and what a cane stroke or a lash with a whip felt like. i've known and talked to tops who did needles or pin branding or fire or wax on their own skin, on their legs, etc. before trying it on a bottom for the first time.

How important do you think it is for a Top to personally have experienced something on their own flesh before administering it to a bottom?
11/12/2012
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Taylor Taylor
I think it is important. it helps the top know what they are doing to their bottom if they experience it themselves.
11/12/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Not necessarily from a full bottom position, but they should definitely test it out on themselves to make sure it's safe and how much pain is involved
11/12/2012
Kilot Kilot
I would agree with gsfanatic - a top doesn't need to bottom in order to get the sensation but they need to know and be aware what exactly every tool they use does. Its like driving a car without knowing which is the gas and which is the break, case in point, you have a double-sided paddle with a nice soft rabbit fur and the other side is a deerskin, you think the rabbit fur would be nice but you didn't try it out before hand and now you see hundreds of pinpricks on your bottom because there were tacks in the fur to add to the sensation where as the deerskin was soft as a bottom's bottom. Its just good form to know what your toys feel like before you use them.
11/12/2012
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