Subs, does it bother you when someone doms your dom/me?

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Subs, does it bother you when someone doms your dom/me?

Madeira Madeira
I'm wondering if any other subs get uncomfortable when someone dominates your dominant, or at the idea of someone dominating your dominant? My domme's not a switch, but the very idea of it freaks me out a little. Anyone else?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
It freaks me out a lot
Madeira , Darling Jen , guy4guyz420 , CanMan , dv8 , MaryExy , k3 , Diabolical Kitty , horngry , potstickers , Sir , Ava5 , DixieDoo , AvianMinded
14  (48%)
It freaks me out a little
mllebeauty , Trashley , null , Redboxbaby , TboyTy , hjtee , LavenderSkies
7  (24%)
I don't feel one way or the other
Tart , Sweet-Justice , Mistress Kitty , sexyk515 , padmeamidala , Kaltir
6  (21%)
I kinda like the idea
Mocha98
1  (3%)
I quite like the idea
Vanessa Weiss
1  (3%)
Total votes: 29
Poll is closed
09/20/2010
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P'Gell P'Gell
I've never seen it happen, sexually.

Although, he has a weird "fear" of authority (his father was a jerk, and a "First Responder" and in the Military, if that's any indication) I've seen him "cave" when someone in a position of authority tries to intimidate him in "outside the bedroom" situations. (Like school principals, cops etc.) I DON'T cave to these people, in fact, they make me more likely to get loud and obnoxious, despite being Sub to My Man.

When he occasionally "caves" to authority, it does piss me off, because I know he's better than that, and it's just his shitty upbringing coming out.

In social situations, if someone tries to "Top" him, they are left wishing they hadn't. In most situations he's a Heavy Alpha Male.
09/20/2010
mllebeauty mllebeauty
It's interesting. I've also never experienced it sexually, and that would really bother me. Outside the bedroom, there are appropriate situations for him to bow to a "higher authority". I'd rather see him handle a situation gracefully than throw his weight around just because he can't admit someone might have more power. At the same time, I would not like to see him "submit" to someone who is simply trying to intimidate and be a jerk. So it really depends on the situation, social vs. professional.
09/20/2010
Trashley Trashley
I'm teetering between not caring and freaking out a little. I think if that happened, I'd view him as less powerful and therefore less inclined to follow his orders or be turned on by him..
09/21/2010
Tart Tart
This is an interesting question. I have never experienced this because those who dominate me are not switches, or would not allow themselves to be dominated. I think I may feel a twinge of jealously, or laugh my ass off, I can't decide which. I can think of a few dominants I know and play with who could use a good beating.
10/21/2010
CanMan CanMan
I don't think its possible
11/20/2010
Mocha98 Mocha98
I am answering for my slave. It gets him off...
11/30/2010
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
This has never happened sexually because the only person who has ever attempted to dom him in the bedroom is me. I really suck at it too, but I keep trying.

In daily life, I get off on watching people attempt to dominate him or act like they know more than he does when clearly they do not have a clue what they are talking about or with whom they are dealing with. My husband has a very calm, cool, and collected manner about him at all times, even when he is pissed off (can be a bit unnerving, really). He is able to articulate his opinion and opposition clearly and dominates right back, only more so. I have never witnessed him being dominated by anyone. He is always in control. The idea of someone (other than me) attempting to dominate him and succeeding does make me feel a bit uncomfortable.
01/20/2011
TboyTy TboyTy
I wouldn't quite say "freaks me out" is the right word but it does make me on edge. I have an Alpha, and a Head of the Family, I'm not collared to Her but She is my Dominant. I don't mind at all when my Alpha is bottoming for others but on the rare occasion She does I find I feel very protective. Something akin to a guard dog chained back from doing something about the situation. Which is so close to true it's ridiculous since I am also a pup.
02/03/2011
hjtee hjtee
It make me uncomfortable to see him submit to someone else.
Afterwards he would certainly loose a little control over me.
03/24/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
I understand having a boss at work and other similar situations. If anyone tried to assert any direct control (not just a hierarchy at work) over my guy, though, I'd be very upset.

Sexually I don't picture him ever being in a situation where someone would even TRY do dom him.
03/24/2011
VanillaCupcake VanillaCupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I've never seen it happen, sexually.

Although, he has a weird "fear" of authority (his father was a jerk, and a "First Responder" and in the Military, if that's any indication) I've seen him "cave" ...
I'm kind of the same way, I'm submissive in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom I can dominant in most situations. And my boyfriend is dominant in the bedroom, but almost kind of submissive outside of the bedroom.
Is that weird? lol
04/07/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I've never seen it happen, sexually.

Although, he has a weird "fear" of authority (his father was a jerk, and a "First Responder" and in the Military, if that's any indication) I've seen him "cave" ...
Same for my guy.
04/13/2011
sexyk515 sexyk515
never happen to me
04/13/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaCupcake
I'm kind of the same way, I'm submissive in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom I can dominant in most situations. And my boyfriend is dominant in the bedroom, but almost kind of submissive outside of the bedroom.

Is that weird? lol
Weird indeed. He isn't submissive unless an "Authority Figure" is involved though. He's usually Domming the entire room (sometimes to the point where it gets irritating to me, and I will nicely take him aside and say something.) It was the way he was raised. In his household everybody was "better than" (a term they use a lot) and more important than My Man and his mother, his father made that quite clear. I really wish he could overcome this bullshit his father drilled into him.

I was raised by a near Anarchist college professor father, (although my mother was the Martyr of the Year, every year) so my feelings about "Authority Figures" are very different than My Man's. I don't think someone is more important because they wear a uniform or have a small modicum of "authority." I also am quick to anger and will not take shit from most people. I cool down quickly as well. But, he doesn't understand my absolute rage at people (including he or I or one of our kids) being treated with disrespect or with the intent to humiliate.

Injustice is a huge deal for me. My Man tends to not understand why. "What are you going to do?" I don't know, but usually something. It must be the Mediterranean blood in me.
04/28/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
I'm wondering if any other subs get uncomfortable when someone dominates your dominant, or at the idea of someone dominating your dominant? My domme's not a switch, but the very idea of it freaks me out a little. Anyone else?
There have been people who have tried to Dom my Master but he's naturally Dominant and will not put up with it. I voted that I don't feel one way or the other.
04/28/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I don't like it because if she allows it to happen, then it puts doubt in my mind about her ability to be Dominant.
04/28/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaCupcake
I'm kind of the same way, I'm submissive in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom I can dominant in most situations. And my boyfriend is dominant in the bedroom, but almost kind of submissive outside of the bedroom.

Is that weird? lol
I don't think it's weird. My husband is pretty much the same way. Though he's not really submissive outside the bedroom, he's not really a dom either. He's in the middle. In the bedroom though, he is very much the dom.
04/28/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaCupcake
I'm kind of the same way, I'm submissive in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom I can dominant in most situations. And my boyfriend is dominant in the bedroom, but almost kind of submissive outside of the bedroom.

Is that weird? lol
I don't think it's weird. My husband is pretty much the same way. Though he's not really submissive outside the bedroom, he's not really a dom either. He's in the middle. In the bedroom though, he is very much the dom.
04/28/2011
Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
I'm wondering if any other subs get uncomfortable when someone dominates your dominant, or at the idea of someone dominating your dominant? My domme's not a switch, but the very idea of it freaks me out a little. Anyone else?
My partner is firmly dominant (I don't even know if he has a submissive bone in his whole body) but the idea of watching someone top him is really hot to me — but only if it's a non-sexual (pure D/s or BDSM, no "happy ending" for either party so to speak) scene.
07/15/2011
briluminary briluminary
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I don't like it because if she allows it to happen, then it puts doubt in my mind about her ability to be Dominant.
Agreed!
08/12/2011
Sir Sir
I answered opposite, since I am a Dominant. It doesn't "freak me out," per se, if my submissive/slave were to have a submissive. But it would piss me off and make me question whether they're submissive or not.

I understand switching, and it's fine. But no one, and I mean no one, who is my slave or submissive will switch. No fucking way. If they have the nerve to be dominant over someone else, and manage someone else, then how in the hell can they properly serve and properly submit to me? They can't. And no, I am not saying that this is how it is for other people. For other people, it works out great, to which I can see the allure and pleasure in it. But this is my opinion for me and my life.
08/12/2011
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Unique posters: 20