Subs! Do you ever intentionally do things to or around your Dom to "get in trouble?" (If you do, you know what I mean.) ;)

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Subs! Do you ever intentionally do things to or around your Dom to "get in trouble?" (If you do, you know what I mean.) ;)

P'Gell P'Gell
I think it's self explanatory.
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No, I would never do that to Master
Carrie Ann , Red Vinyl Kitty , Shh! , VieuxCarre , Madeira , Mistress , lunapixie , J's Alley , charip , Epicurean , Taylor , sexyk515 , SexyStuff , Sohotdinosaur , MaryExy
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Yeah, I do. I might leave things lying around
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Yes, I intentionally say things in public so he or she will take it up with me later
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Yeah, I run by and pop him or her on the ass, just for the fall out
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Other, what else do you do?
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Total votes: 134 (87 voters)
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08/28/2010
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Sir Sir
I hate it when submissives do this. It's called "topping from the bottom," because the submissive then has control over the situation.
08/28/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I always got into trouble with my mouth; Mulder would just whisper 'That got you another spanking.' or 'Do you really want me to use my ties on you tonight?' Sometimes he'd pinch me right there, depending on how thick/thin the crowd was around us.

I always thought it was part of the game.
08/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
LOL I am constantly getting firmly grabbed by the back of the head while one or the other of them will whisper something dire. I've also done the same to each of them. As a very dominant person I find it a challenge to allow someone to take charge...which is why I push that boundary. No Dom(mme) should ever ask a sub to do anything they cannot do themselves, at least that's how I feel about it. It tends to create an inflexible but completely trusting bond between my bottom and I if the bottom knows that I have endured what they are enduring...that it can be done! Since I rarely use corporal punishment it is an odd twist making it more mental...infact my subs understand that if I have to whip them to refocus their attention then I am severely disappointed. Still a good flogging for the thrill of it is a great release for pent up anxiety and desire...so it's a dynamic blend.
08/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I hate it when submissives do this. It's called "topping from the bottom," because the submissive then has control over the situation.
I'm terribly guilty of "Topping from the Bottom" Sir. I'm sure you've seen me say this before.

It's just the dynamic which works for My Man and I. It doesn't work for every pairing, by a long shot.



I think your personal dynamic with your SO is individual.

I like to trip My Man's wire....a Lot.
08/28/2010
00 00
We are a couple of unusual ones I guess because we do not use spankings, floggings, beatings as any form of punishment. For us, my husband (my Dom) and I, physical things such as spankings, floggings, ect are for fun, because he wants to do them, because I ask for them or feel the need for them. To us, punishments for wrong doings should be a real punishment, something you hate. A spanking would not fit there for us since I like spankings and floggings, therefore, not a good form of punishment. Do I do things to provoke him to action? Not usually since it would result in a real punishment, something I would detest, such as face in the corner time, a harsh stern face to face lecture (which would make be feel very bad). For us, good behavior results in what I do want....good attention. Bad behavior gets bad attention and makes us both unhappy. I opt for good behavior and good attention. But that is just the way we work best and always have for these many, many years.
08/28/2010
Sapphire Pet Sapphire Pet
I agree with MissPtunia... I will do little thing to get a reaction but very seldom anything that would get me in major trouble. With my first Dom I would do silly little things like wind the vacuum cord in the wrong direction just so I would get spanked but he did it because he knew my game. Now if I got to far out of line he would do the punishments I hated like making me sit on the floor in Wal-Mart so I would be embarrassed. But all in all it was more play. We had a great relationship and it worked very well for us. Yes maybe it was topping from the bottom but that's why I'm a Pet and not a standard sub... I can get away with more!!!
08/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sapphire Pet
I agree with MissPtunia... I will do little thing to get a reaction but very seldom anything that would get me in major trouble. With my first Dom I would do silly little things like wind the vacuum cord in the wrong direction just so I would get ...
LOL no doubt! My subs generally don't get away with much but my pets? They pee on the floor (metaphorically speaking ), chew the furniture and just give me cute faces when I catch them. Then again I prefer to be pet rather than true sub since the role is much more difficult for me.
08/29/2010
Envy Envy
Ooooooh yeah, my bf always does things to rile me up, knowing damn well he's going to get it later.
08/29/2010
Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I'm terribly guilty of "Topping from the Bottom" Sir. I'm sure you've seen me say this before.

It's just the dynamic which works for My Man and I. It doesn't work for every pairing, by a long shot.

...
Yeah, I definitely know what you mean. I mean, hey, it works out for some people, and it's good that it works for you and your partner. It used to work out for us until my partner took it too far. It poses a big problem when it doesn't, so when it does, more power to it.
08/30/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
My guy and I joke with each other -- our dynamic doesn't instantly mean I can't give him a playful whack on the shoulder or have a bad day and not get the laundry done. But intentionally get in trouble?

Not gonna happen.

Then again, we don't use play as punishment for actual trouble and if I DO get into trouble, I'm more likely to end up sleeping on a cot in the basement than getting a fun little spanking so...

Yanno...

I loathe spiders.

I behave.

If I want a nice spanking, I just ask nicely.
08/30/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I would never do that. I have a lot of friends into "bratty" play, but it's just not for me. I think that being good has its own rewards. As a masochist, yes, I enjoy pain - but here's the thing: Master does not give me pain if I am *bad*. I have to earn any kind of play by being good. Punishments, true ones, are not fun for me, and I do NOT enjoy them.
08/30/2010
clp clp
It depends my mood/role, but I love taunting and teasing when I'm too far away to be punished. Whether it is in public, or under my breath, I do. Of course, there are certain limits to it, and it is always within my part in the D/s play, but it is only in friendly and fun.
08/30/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
My guy and I joke with each other -- our dynamic doesn't instantly mean I can't give him a playful whack on the shoulder or have a bad day and not get the laundry done. But intentionally get in trouble?

Not gonna happen.

Then ...
LOL we used to have that dynamic as well till I got bit by a spider and nearly died from it...last night Sigel informed me that he had replaced the futon matress, put it in the room where my comp is and I could sleep there when I decide to stay up till all hours of the night. I have a feeling that's gonna be the "punishment" room now. He loves the whole get her worked up till near orgasm and then walk away punishment cause he knows that even if I get myself off it won't be the same and it'll drive me crazy. Worst part is my guys actually TALK to each other...so now Arch knows how effective that punishment is. >.<
08/30/2010
Calis666 Calis666
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I think it's self explanatory.
Always say thinks I shouldn't say, try to escape from the bondage so the dom has to lock it.
08/30/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Yeah, I definitely know what you mean. I mean, hey, it works out for some people, and it's good that it works for you and your partner. It used to work out for us until my partner took it too far. It poses a big problem when it doesn't, so ...
I can see where it wouldn't work. But, our relationship is playful/antagonistic/t easing so it works for us.

When there are real relationship issues, we try to take it up outside the domain of sex and things like that. He has a short fuse and so do I, so being playful and "bratty" is my best work.
08/31/2010
Maiden Maiden
Quote:
Originally posted by Red Vinyl Kitty
I would never do that. I have a lot of friends into "bratty" play, but it's just not for me. I think that being good has its own rewards. As a masochist, yes, I enjoy pain - but here's the thing: Master does not give me pain if ...
I agree with this... spankings and such are my rewards for being a "good girl". My punishments are akin to him fucking my mouth or teasing me with things that really turn me on like nipple play or spanking, but not letting me come to release. For a little while the torture of this is nice, but if I have been bad, I don't get to release at ALL! For DAYS. If he finds out I have touched myself or had any release behind his back, he finds ways to humiliate me, which is part of being a sub I HATE, so he only reserves this for EXTREME cases. I have only had him do to this once, and I learned my lesson!

So, no. I don't misbehave, because I know when I am a good girl, Daddy always makes sure I am well satisfied.
09/01/2010
silversnowleopardess silversnowleopardess
I'll misbehave on occasion. His nipples are very sensitive, so He hates to have them played with. I love male nipples, so it's very hard for me to resist at times, so I'll either tweak one, or latch on with my mouth...this always earns me a good swatting.
09/06/2010
Trashley Trashley
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I hate it when submissives do this. It's called "topping from the bottom," because the submissive then has control over the situation.
But the submissive always truly has control over the situation. They're the ones with the real ability to stop or start things.
09/07/2010
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Oh dear God, no. Granted, we joke a lot and we're not in a formal relationship (we're still in the talking stages), but he's put his foot down and punished me when I slip up. Punishment sucks. I wouldn't do anything to intentionally get punished :/
09/07/2010
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
My guy and I joke with each other -- our dynamic doesn't instantly mean I can't give him a playful whack on the shoulder or have a bad day and not get the laundry done. But intentionally get in trouble?

Not gonna happen.

Then ...
HAHA same here. Seriously. If I weren't terrified of spiders and snakes, I think he'd get a plexi-glass case and throw me in it before filling it with creepy crawlies
09/07/2010
Cherrylann Cherrylann
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I think it's self explanatory.
Well perhaps at times, depends on the mood Im in....
09/07/2010
Madeira Madeira
I NEVER disobey my domme if I can help it, sometimes I'll be a brat in bed to make her put me in my place, but in day to day life, she says "jump" and I say "how high?"
09/18/2010
DustBunny DustBunny
The occasional ass tap because I know that what I'll get in return is what I want. He's also not a total dom, so it doesn't work all the time.
10/06/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Trashley
But the submissive always truly has control over the situation. They're the ones with the real ability to stop or start things.
I agree, Crash. That's the way I see it. (Don't tell the Doms. Shhhh.)

I posted this and started to make dinner, and realized I wanted to clarify some things. Every one's relationship is different and everyone in a D/S, M/S, BD or other form or Power Dynamic relationship is different.

I don't at all think there is one "right way" to structure a relationship, and Power Dynamics play a part in ALL relationships, whether the people identify it (as many of us in D/s, M/s, BDSM structure may do) or not.

In the structure My Man and I have, it evolved gradually. 25 years ago, I NEVER would have thought of myself as "A Sub" if I even knew what it was. Ours is mostly D/S in the bedroom, but as My Man is a pretty heavy Alpha Male, it also appears in our financial life (he makes most of the money and also makes most of the financial decisions for us, for better or worse) as well as a lot of how we spend our time (I get excited when I get to pick a movie we are going to watch. He just sees things like this as being his prerogative. I see it as not worth messing with.) but there are areas I reserve as mine. Childcare being one of them. (Of course a lot of people would see the idea of ME being the Primary Caregiver to our children as a Subbie thing. I don't.) Not counting fun in the bedroom, any effort to "punish" me has pretty much failed. (He once unplugged all the TVs and computers in the house, and tied the cords in knots, because he didn't think the house was "clean enough" so I went on strike and sat on the couch all day and did absolutely NOTHING. Yeah, I'm a Brat.) He does resort to freezing me out sometimes, which I view as childish. I guess he's at a loss.

My Man and I also have a lot of playfulness in our relationship (I think we all have to, just to survive) and so I "get away" with a lot. I've also made it clear (and Sir's observation that I "Top from the Bottom" is completely accurate) there is simply no "right" way to do any relationship. But, I do think a lot of us who recognize the Power Structure in our relationships, as ALL relationships have them, even when the participants claim total "equality," may have it better off. We are recognizing and addressing something that has been a hidden and often ignored fact. A Kingdom cannot have two Kings. All couples (or triads or even quads) have a Power Structure, even if they don't admit to it. I think it is healthy to try to expound on this, so that one's relationship, defined, can flourish.

However, I know the way we do things is far from the only way. Our relationship changes over time, and I like it that way. Also, I understand that usually relationships evolve in a way that benefits both (or more) members, and that all people are different.

The thread was started in a lighthearted way, and I'm glad it has stayed this way, for the most part. But, evidently, I did touch on a nerve I didn't know I had, and am finding a lot of interesting variations on a theme. I find relationships fascinating (real ones, not the stuff of "Romantic Comedies" which I think give young women a really bad example of what NOT to do, and what WON'T ever happen in a real relationship.) and I like to learn as much as I can, not just from Academia, but from real people. Things like this also help us on the Eden site get to know each other better.

This thread is teaching me a lot. Thank you all for your honest replies.

Keep them coming, if you have stories or comments.
10/07/2010
Illusional Illusional
I do love this place.

My boyfriend is the dominant one in our relationship.

I do not however rile him up.
He gives me quite the attention I desire.
10/09/2010
Mistress Mistress
I'm totally new to this site and I'm loving it.
Anyway..

I would never do anything to intentionally get punished. I have beautiful reminders of my Dom painted in crimson streaks across my back.

He is the Master, after all.

=)
10/09/2010
GothlordsPet GothlordsPet
my Master knows when I'm doing something to be contrary (I try so hard not to be but sometimes I can't help it) or being mischievous. if I'm being contrary there's usually a lecture with the scary-calm voice that always makes me feel bad. if I'm being mischievous it's more like a request to play and sometimes he'll oblige with a spanking and sometimes he'll just say no.
10/16/2010
Shiloh Shiloh
The way it goes with us is he has to fight me to dominate me. Sometimes i'll try to push him off and he has to pin me down with cuffs to get me to cooperate. Then he'll whip me for not listening. ;-)
10/17/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
I don't do things to really push J's buttons, but I will argue or get ornery. In reality he knows I am playing, and treats it as such. But I don't do things that will disappoint him intentionally.
10/18/2010
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