Were you trained to be a slave?

lustylusty lustylusty
my master is trying to train me. just wondering if anybody else has been trained.
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Yes
13  (21%)
No
48  (79%)
Total votes: 61
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03/26/2012
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underHim underHim
It is an ongoing process, I tend to be a bit of a brat. Spare the rod, spoil the slave
03/26/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I'm a sub. A bratty, "topping from the bottom" sub. He did some training in certain areas, but the "Brat" and the bratty Topping is all mine!
03/26/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
A long time ago... not sure if it applies any more since I'm so out of practice ^_^
03/26/2012
lustylusty lustylusty
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Originally posted by corsetsaurus rex
A long time ago... not sure if it applies any more since I'm so out of practice ^_^
sure does!
03/27/2012
ellejay ellejay
No formally, no.
03/27/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
On occasion, but I like to struggle a lot. Makes it more fun. ;]
03/28/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I wish...I am not finding the right men out there that are interested in this. sigh.
03/28/2012
MrGoodTool MrGoodTool
No, but that sure sounds fun!
03/28/2012
dks210 dks210
No. Could you describe the process?
03/30/2012
underHim underHim
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Originally posted by FruityCloudPuff
On occasion, but I like to struggle a lot. Makes it more fun. ;]
Yes it does. Where is the fun if you are obedient all the time?
03/30/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
I was never trained. I have typically been more experienced than my partners ever have been. I wouldn't mind being trained though. I know I get away with a lot and I think that, again, is because I never had the most experienced top. He's gotten much better, much stricter and whatnot, but I still get away with stuff most slaves wouldn't.

So, no, I was never "trained," but I wouldn't mind being trained.
03/31/2012
Entropy Entropy
Training for me is a continuum, not an end to be completed. BTW, @ plaidvulva, is that a Robotech icon? If it is that's totally kickin'.
03/31/2012
Missy May Missy May
No, but we're working on it. He doesn't really know how to be dominate and I am slowly learning to be a sub.
03/31/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Yes
03/31/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by lustylusty
my master is trying to train me. just wondering if anybody else has been trained.
Yes. I've been trained. I am a slave.
03/31/2012
Kitka Kitka
Nope, I'm a submissive.
03/31/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Nope I am a Domina. I have slaves lol.
03/31/2012
humblepie humblepie
Yes. Unfortunately, that relationship did not last but the training did, and it tends to weird out guys who are looking for an equal. I also find that it is difficult for me to take initiative now, and as not all guys like to be in control of every situation, it can be frustrating for both of us, especially if they expect me to initiate things.

I don't regret it, because I absolutely wanted to be in that kind of relationship and get the training, but it did effect my life in more than just the bedroom. The breakup was really tough since my Master was such a big part of my life, and the training was strong enough to carry over into my professional life and friendships as well, which can be difficult at times. My next boyfriend will have a pre-trained sub though, so if I find a guy who's into it, it will be great!
03/31/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
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Originally posted by Entropy
Training for me is a continuum, not an end to be completed. BTW, @ plaidvulva, is that a Robotech icon? If it is that's totally kickin'.
Persona 4, actually. But, Robotech is totally bitchin'
04/01/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by humblepie
Yes. Unfortunately, that relationship did not last but the training did, and it tends to weird out guys who are looking for an equal. I also find that it is difficult for me to take initiative now, and as not all guys like to be in control of every ... More
Humblepie: could you explain how training carried over into your professional life and with friends? Just curious!
04/04/2012
humblepie humblepie
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Originally posted by Geogeo
Humblepie: could you explain how training carried over into your professional life and with friends? Just curious!
Sure! Part of my training was to ensure that I was to obey every order given to me, without questioning what I was told or giving my opinion on the matter at hand. This was probably the most difficult part to, hmm, get to "sink in". I was never really willful or stubborn, but I liked to know the "why" of things, so it took a lot of work to make my automatic response perfect obedience. At the time, I was going to school with my Master and we had all the same classes, so we were constantly together and I was used to having orders given for absolutely everything.

Once we split, I felt really abandoned not having someone to tell me what to do all the time, and I turned to my friends to offer me that feeling of security. They were pretty weirded out - they wanted a friend, not a slave or a pet! They found it kind of creepy and a bit boring, but do appreciate how loyal I've become, which was nice. Now they are pretty much used to it.

Also, I did not begin working until after we broke up, and I had trouble finding a job that wouldn't expect too much autonomy from me. I was constantly worried that, without detailed instruction, I would do something wrong or ruin something. Since then I've found that it's not usually an issue. Most jobs looking for someone with my level of experience, even if they say they want you to be able to work without direction, are actually pretty structured and repetitive! Thank goodness. So I guess that only affected which jobs I felt would be appropriate for me while I was unemployed, not actually in the workplace.

Another issue is that I strongly associate men with my training, in terms of both what was expected of me and the punishment I would receive if I disobeyed. This led to me feeling extremely uncomfortable when in the company of my males, especially if they were interested in me and I did not return their feelings, because turning them down just felt wrong, even dangerous. I was really bad at handling that kind of situation, and it took a while to get to the point where I wouldn't panic at the thought of having to tell a guy "no". I still have some trouble with this, but I've gotten good at just avoiding those situations before they have a chance to develop.

Not sure if that was helpful or not, sorry! If there was something you were wondering about specifically, don't hesitate to ask!
04/05/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Not formally. Through punishment, though.
04/06/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by humblepie
Sure! Part of my training was to ensure that I was to obey every order given to me, without questioning what I was told or giving my opinion on the matter at hand. This was probably the most difficult part to, hmm, get to "sink in". I was ... More
Thanks! Your story reminded me of the movie "Secretary" all about a girl who's lost after her boss/master doesn't want to do the slave thing anymore.
04/09/2012
humblepie humblepie
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Originally posted by Geogeo
Thanks! Your story reminded me of the movie "Secretary" all about a girl who's lost after her boss/master doesn't want to do the slave thing anymore.
No problem! I've never heard of that movie, might have to check it out!
04/09/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by humblepie
No problem! I've never heard of that movie, might have to check it out!
I would definitely recommend it for anyone interested in the master/slave dynamic.
04/11/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
No. Although, I guess I'm not technically a slave.
04/11/2012
tA tA
Not formally. It's kind of ongoing.
04/15/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
Yes. I really love it. I wouldn't go back to anything else. It makes me the happiest to be a "slave" and "submissive" to the one I love. It feels like my life is complete. It was rocky at first since I am super bratty, but it wouldn't be fun if there wasn't a little resistance, right? We are doing incredibly and I cannot wait to learn even more from him. He really takes his time with me and pushes those limits in a really nice way. I love that he actually knows what he is doing. I seriously couldn't be happier.
04/15/2012
CandE CandE
I am not necessarily being trained, no contract yet, but I am sure my Husband will probably want one soon. We do have a 'domestic discipline', 'traditional' relationship. Its pretty much, whatever he says goes. I enjoy the whole sub aspect about it, training usually consists of listening to what he says, and being disciplined for doing something not related to it.
04/17/2012
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