What aspect of BDSM would you like to learn more about?

Gdom Gdom
If you had to pick, what one aspect of BDSM play, toys, or safety would you really like to learn more about? It could be anything from "Is breath play safe?" to "What are the dangers involved in bruising and how can you best avoid them?" or anything else you can think of.
04/22/2013
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Originally posted by Gdom
If you had to pick, what one aspect of BDSM play, toys, or safety would you really like to learn more about? It could be anything from "Is breath play safe?" to "What are the dangers involved in bruising and how can you best avoid ... More
I'd love to learn more about whips. I've always been utterly fascinated by then, but until recently, I never actually owned one. So, if there is one aspect of BDSM that I'd greatly enjoy knowing more of, it's that.
04/22/2013
Eugler Eugler
I would love to learn more about altered states of consciousness during a BDSM session.
04/22/2013
BloodHound BloodHound
Quote:
Originally posted by Gdom
If you had to pick, what one aspect of BDSM play, toys, or safety would you really like to learn more about? It could be anything from "Is breath play safe?" to "What are the dangers involved in bruising and how can you best avoid ... More
Of all the things I would want to learn more about I would have to say that would be the Leather Culture. I have bits and pieces of knowledge regarding Leather but I would love to learn more about the history and roots of Leather.
04/22/2013
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Relationship, family and household dynamics have always been one of the most fascinating concepts of BDSM to me and it's what i tend to focus on the most in my study of BDSM. The long-term 24/7 relationships, the ones that last 10, 20, 30 years in a D/s or M/s dynamic and the larger families and households are of chief interest. i'm always most interested in learning about the aspects of emotional and mental safety in BDSM. In learning BDSM we tend to focus so much on physical safety and learning not to hurt someone physically is important, of course. But, in general, with obvious severe exceptions of permanent injury or death, physical wounds like cuts and bruises and burns will heal much more easily than emotional, mental, psychological ones and there are salves, creams, medicines, ice packs and heating pads and things we can do for the physical pain. If it's really serious, we can go to a doctor, but it's not as easy to treat the non-physical injuries. And a physical scar (at least an undesired, unintentional or non-consensual one) will often be accompanied by a non-physical scar that will probably be much more damaging in the long run. Hurt feelings, broken hearts, severed trust, bruised egos, insecurities, injured psyches. How do we avoid them and how to we treat them? Not even delving into the significant concern of abuse, but simply accidentally or incidentally hurting someone as humans are wont to do even in vanilla scenarios but to which we open ourselves even more fully in BDSM. These are the aspects of BDSM i'd like to learn the most about: successful long-term, serious relationships and how to play safely with hearts and minds and psyches as well as bodies.
For the more fun stuff, the next things on my list are cell popping and fire cupping and other forms of heat and fire play.
05/13/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
Ropes...knots bondage, suspension.
05/15/2013
xcapricax xcapricax
How to tie all those fancy knots
05/16/2013
emilymileena emilymileena
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Originally posted by xcapricax
How to tie all those fancy knots
I recommend looking up the "Knotty Boys" on youtube, or getting their books. I enjoy the way they explain things, and they go anywhere from beginner (just learning basic knots) to fancy (incorporating those knots into a harness.)

Hope that helped!
06/09/2013
Eugler Eugler
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Originally posted by emilymileena
I recommend looking up the "Knotty Boys" on youtube, or getting their books. I enjoy the way they explain things, and they go anywhere from beginner (just learning basic knots) to fancy (incorporating those knots into a harness.) ... More
Yes. The knotty boys are definitely worth while reading.
06/12/2013
Rarity Rarity
Impact play! I want to know how each device differs from others in sensation, intensity, etc.
06/12/2013
MornaStar MornaStar
The Japanese rope bondage. I think that would be great to actually learn how to make all those knots to use at my own leisure.
06/28/2013
lalalalove lalalalove
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Originally posted by Eugler
I would love to learn more about altered states of consciousness during a BDSM session.
This!
08/15/2013
Basalt Basalt
The custom furniture used for bondage--where to buy, build, how to use.
08/16/2013
kitkatliz1795 kitkatliz1795
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Originally posted by emilymileena
I recommend looking up the "Knotty Boys" on youtube, or getting their books. I enjoy the way they explain things, and they go anywhere from beginner (just learning basic knots) to fancy (incorporating those knots into a harness.) ... More
That was really useful, thanks!
09/12/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by Gdom
If you had to pick, what one aspect of BDSM play, toys, or safety would you really like to learn more about? It could be anything from "Is breath play safe?" to "What are the dangers involved in bruising and how can you best avoid ... More
I'd definitely like to know how to maybe increase my pain threshold by a bit.
09/12/2013
Voir Voir
Domination.
I want to dom someone so badly... at least try it out see how it goes ; or learn the ropes hardcore to see if it's something i'd really be interested in introducing to a relationship.
09/23/2013
emilymileena emilymileena
Long term orgasm denial, long term edging. Etc.
11/01/2013
CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
Quote:
Originally posted by Gdom
If you had to pick, what one aspect of BDSM play, toys, or safety would you really like to learn more about? It could be anything from "Is breath play safe?" to "What are the dangers involved in bruising and how can you best avoid ... More
I'd like to find out how ball gags work out (or if they're even in BDSM). I know about people having Safe Words, but I'm curious as to how they would communicate "STOP" if they're gagged.
11/01/2013
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