What do you do if your partner does something your not sure about

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What do you do if your partner does something your not sure about

HisOneAndOnly HisOneAndOnly
Today my partner and I were having intercourse and out of the blue he tried to choke me and I wasn't sure what he was doing. Should I just go with the flow when he tries to be kinky? I mean I kind of liked it but didn't like how he just tried to do it. Any suggestions?
07/01/2012
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Peggi Peggi
Well, if it makes you uncomfortable you should definitely talk to your partner about it, or set some limits. If he is into things like choking and such, you may want to talk to him about a "safe signal" just in case you can't speak and it becomes painful or you are concerned about being hurt.

My partner randomly throws things in once in a while, and at first I was a bit unsure about it, because he did it the same way without discussing it with me, but turns out he was just in the moment and wanted to try and make it more fun for BOTH of us.
07/01/2012
northstar northstar
I agree with Peggi. Definitely talk to him about it as it's safer for the both of you. You may find yourself going along with something you weren't sure about and regretting it later (perhaps him too), so it's usually better to discuss these things, or if you want to maintain spontaneity, come up with a safe word, for sure.
07/01/2012
HisOneAndOnly HisOneAndOnly
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
Well, if it makes you uncomfortable you should definitely talk to your partner about it, or set some limits. If he is into things like choking and such, you may want to talk to him about a "safe signal" just in case you can't speak and ...
I will def talk to him, its not that I was concerned about it, it just threw me off. He already grabs my neck like that with his hand when we are having sex, but the belt just threw me off way to fast. I love it when he does it any other time, just this time I was a little leary about it. Thanks for your advice though!
07/01/2012
HisOneAndOnly HisOneAndOnly
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Originally posted by northstar
I agree with Peggi. Definitely talk to him about it as it's safer for the both of you. You may find yourself going along with something you weren't sure about and regretting it later (perhaps him too), so it's usually better to discuss ...
Thank you northstar, I will be talking to him about it later. I really appreciate the input of the two of you!
07/01/2012
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