Which one are you?

NuMe NuMe
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Dominant
50  (10%)
Submissive
170  (35%)
Switch
259  (54%)
Total votes: 479
Poll is closed
08/14/2010
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NuMe NuMe
Well I'll answer first since I started this and I'm perfectly comfortable sharing.

Both hubby and I are switches. It just depends on our moods who decides to be the more dominant one. Then there also are times we're neither/equals.
08/14/2010
Blinker Blinker
I'm a sub, all the way. My partner's always the dominant one. Out of the bedroom, sometimes I can be the bossy one and he caves easily to what I want, but in bed, he's always in control.
08/14/2010
Not here Not here
I voted Switch, although usually I'm submissive and my boyfriend is dominant. It does change from time to time, depending on my mood. He definitely doesn't mind the change of pace and gladly accepts it when I'm feeling particularly bossy.
08/14/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
My partner and I both generally fall into the swtich category. He is a true switch that can naturally and happily go either way. I, however, am very naturally dominant, but happier and generally better pleasured in a submissive role.
08/14/2010
Andromeda Andromeda
In my mind I'm dominant, but in reality I'm switchy. And more because he indulges me and doesn't mind playing the sub role sometimes, though he's starting to like it more, I think.
08/14/2010
Envy Envy
I am the more dominant one and my bf prefers and wants me to be that. He loves being sub.
08/14/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I am a switch though I don't accept the sub role easily. I have major trust issues that prevent me from truly submitting. Sigel and Arch I trust enough to submit too but anyone else I am dominant all the way, especially with women. I'm very territorial I have learned.
08/14/2010
NuMe NuMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I am a switch though I don't accept the sub role easily. I have major trust issues that prevent me from truly submitting. Sigel and Arch I trust enough to submit too but anyone else I am dominant all the way, especially with women. I'm very ... More
Well in real life I am 100% dominant. I'm a very A type personality especially being 1/2 Irish, 1/2 Italian and 100% Leo.

But in bed with my husband I'm a switch.
08/14/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
I like to have my cake and eat it too I switch depending on the mood and my partner too.
08/14/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
My partner and I both generally fall into the swtich category. He is a true switch that can naturally and happily go either way. I, however, am very naturally dominant, but happier and generally better pleasured in a submissive role.
Interesting observation - naturally dominant - but 'better pleasured' as a sub?

Have any idea why that would be true? How does letting someone else control the action give you more pleasure?
08/14/2010
Sir Sir
Dominant both in the bedroom and outside. Fully, everywhere.
08/14/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
In the outside world, I'm pretty overbearing, a "leader" type (not bragging, just going on everything from old report cards to every day confirmations from others) and a strong woman.

In bed, I'm subby. My Man is a natural Dom, and sometimes we clash. I Top from the Bottom a LOT. He takes it in good humor (a few weeks ago, I simply told him to take off his shirt, while we were having sex, (I was wearing NOTHING) and he said, "It's all about you. Isn't it?" I fretted about it for the rest of the session and afterward he told me he was kidding around.)

I'd like him to often be even more Dommy (is that a word) but I think he has a fear of hurting me. Although, if other people could see (and they aren't going to) I think it would look pretty cut and dried D/S. (And I capitalize the S because IMO, it's just as important as D. In most scenes, the Bottom allows and even controls, even if the Top is seemingly controlling the scene and making the main moves and decisions. I love when he chooses the toys and the scene and it works most of the time, nearly all of the time!)

I have no desire to be more Dominant in bed, with the exception of often asking him (or telling him) exactly what I want. There's nothing wrong with asking for what you want. A lot of time, he seems to KNOW what I want BEFORE I DO. Weird, some of the stuff we do, if I were to think about it before hand, I would probably say, "Wait, let me think about that first." My Man just DOES things, without much conversation and a most times it's exactly what I want. He often KNOWS before I do.

That's one of the good things about both being together a long time and being on the same vibe. (I don't mean the toy, I mean on the same vibrations. Thinking and feeling the same and KNOWING each other.)
08/14/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
I'm submissive, and love to be told what to do! Though hubby would love it if we switched roles every once and a while! I've tried but I'm not good at it!
08/15/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
I like having some one tell me what to do
However, I am not a fan of rougher play... just like to take instructions
08/15/2010
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
It all depends on who I am with and what kind of a mood I am in. I tend to be submissive 95% of the time, but there is that 5% in which I like to be on top and in charge.

Like I said, it all depends
08/15/2010
JPito JPito
In bed, I am completely, 100% submissive. I get off on being dominated. Always have, always will, I knew I'd be submissive long before I ever even started having sex.

I'm kind of submissive outside of the bedroom as well. I'm a very private, introverted person, especially with people I don't know well (and it literally takes me years to feel totally comfortable with someone). However, with people I'm comfortable with, like family and friends, I'm quite open and assertive. My boyfriend always tells me that though I'm so shy and quiet, I really do have a lot of "attitude." I'd say he's right.
08/15/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I voted submissive, even though I'm often forced to act as a switch because Mr. Sauce doesn't think it's fair for me to get to be the sub all the time. I don't enjoy being in a dominant role--it just isn't me--but it's not physically painful and doesn't cause any huge problems, so I go along with it to make him happy I know he doesn't enjoy being the dominant all the time, either. It helps that we don't do any "serious" BDSM stuff and our sessions usually don't last longer than an hour.
08/15/2010
Liz2 Liz2
In reality, I am more dominant but I enjoy being submissive and the struggle I give my partner.
08/15/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Interesting observation - naturally dominant - but 'better pleasured' as a sub?

Have any idea why that would be true? How does letting someone else control the action give you more pleasure?
I think it does. I think it's because not only am I naturally dominant in the bedroom but in most other areas of my life, it's refreshing when I find someone that I trust enough and can just let go and relinquish control. It doesn't happen often but I definitely enjoy it more than dominance although it's harder for me to get to that place.
08/16/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I think it does. I think it's because not only am I naturally dominant in the bedroom but in most other areas of my life, it's refreshing when I find someone that I trust enough and can just let go and relinquish control. It doesn't ... More
ToriRebel - thanks for the feedback - I think I get it now
08/16/2010
joja joja
I'm a switch. My preferences tend to fluctuate from dom/sub over long periods of time, often depending on my partner. As my current partner is almost exclusively submissive, I've been on a huge dominance kick for over a year now.
08/16/2010
Sammi Sammi
A lot of the time, we're equal in the bedroom, but the other times I'm the submissive one. I just don't like being the dominant.
08/16/2010
RosesThorns RosesThorns
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
I am a switch who prefers subbing. Although I do enjoy topping from time to time.
08/17/2010
gone77 gone77
I'm mostly submissive, but I do have some dominant tendencies. I've even played them out a few times, but I can never seem to keep the momentum going; I fall back into submissive ways.
08/17/2010
NightNight NightNight
Frequently we are equal or 60/40 either way but my husband likes me to be his dom sometimes. I always feel like I need more practice! Which isn't to say I don't enjoy it and have fun -- I just don't quite "convince" myself of the roles we're playing, since it is something I have to adopt. Although I've always, always, always admired strong, sexy, dominant women (especially when holding a leather whip!!) it's exactly the opposite of the personality I've projected in all facets of my life for several years. I definitely have an image in my mind I am trying to work up to.

I voted that I'm a switch because I also very much enjoy being guided during play. Relinquishing control is relaxing. I am not the kind of sub that will endure physical pain, though. My threshold is very small. Thank god my husband isn't like that because hitting him hard is so fun!!!
08/17/2010
Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
im a total sub, but tieing up my wife for a good romp is great fun, so i guess switch, hmmmm?
08/17/2010
Destri Destri
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
I am a Domme. Have played around with my submissive side, but it just doesn't work for me.
08/23/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Switch, heavier on the dim side, but so is my partner lol. It makes for some interesting sex sessions.
08/23/2010
FrenchKisser FrenchKisser
i like to tell my husband what to do and then a submissive LOL!!

switch based on the mood really!
08/23/2010
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Unique posters: 225