Would you end your relationship if no BDSM was invovled?

Zandrock Zandrock
Would you stay in a relationship if your partner refused to partake in any BDSM related activities?
08/09/2012
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- Kira - - Kira -
I'm married, so I wouldn't up and walk out. That said, we'd be having a LOT of serious talks. I'd be left frustrated without it and no one likes a frustrated Kira.
08/09/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
No, I would miss it, but there is way more to our relationship.
08/09/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Nope, but I'd miss it. There's more than sex, but that's a nice part of a relationship.
08/10/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Hmm. Interesting. I am new to a relationship. We both have our kinky sides, but I think I might end it because of sexual incompatibilities. I mean all things would be weighed, but it would be frustrating to never fully explore my sexuality.
08/10/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I think so. I'd get too frustrated.
08/10/2012
Beck Beck
If having serious talks don't help then yes, I would have to. I would be too frustrated.
08/10/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
...probably not?
It's hard to say really but when you find the right one sometimes you have to compromise a little.
I'd rather have someone I'm happy with as far as life in general goes (the sort of person I'd be compatible with long term) than someone that understands and participates in all my little kinks.
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08/10/2012
snarknemesis snarknemesis
I think I would have a hard time without some BDSM in my relationship. I also think, though, that even if my partner didn't want BDSM involved in our relationship I would still be able to find some kind of outlet for myself that didn't involve my partner like reading BDSM erotica or something.
08/10/2012
Mitzuki Mitzuki
I wouldn't leave my partner, but I would definitely be really frustrated.
08/10/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by Zandrock
Would you stay in a relationship if your partner refused to partake in any BDSM related activities?
It would depend on how the rest of the relationship was.
08/10/2012
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
I'm thinking about it. I've been in this very boring vanilla relationship for too long. I think I want out.
08/10/2012
bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
I met my Partner on a fetish dating site so if he refused to partake in any BDSM activities well, i'd be at a loss.
08/10/2012
Layenna Layenna
being extremely masochistic, i'd probably end up hurting myself to find joy. If they didn't know me very well, they'd probably take it the wrong way and end up leaving me. If they knew me well enough and actually cared about me, I'd never reach that point. So no, I could not be in a relationship without S&M.
08/11/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
I wouldn't leave him for that reason only, but I would do my best to convince him otherwise. I would not be completely happy without it.
09/27/2012
Castielskitten Castielskitten
There's more than bondage to a relationship, so no, I wouldn't up and leave my husband just because he wouldn't want bondage.
09/27/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
No, of course not.
10/01/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I don't think I would - there's other higher priorities for me in a relationship (trust, safety, etc) that him being Dom is just a bonus thing.
10/01/2012
Vanille Vanille
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Originally posted by Zandrock
Would you stay in a relationship if your partner refused to partake in any BDSM related activities?
I wouldn't be dating 'nillas to begin with. I make it particularly clear in the beginning of the relationship that I'm kinky and thus gives time for the baited 'nilla to get the fuck out of there.
10/01/2012
smlove smlove
No. We're married, so as long as love and sex still happened in some form, it doesn't matter what form it happens in.
10/01/2012
Tianna Silver Tianna Silver
Nope. I've been married for almost 17 years, and I've put way to much effort into him to start over with another one lol
10/01/2012
wetone123 wetone123
No, I think there would have to be bigger issues as well for me to just up and leave for that reason alone.
10/01/2012
Subska Subska
no, that's not a very good reason. but i do love it.
10/01/2012
mastersonv mastersonv
Being that when I started my relationship I'm currently in there was no BDSM of any sort I'd say no. After much talking about it he has come around to it and actually found he truly enjoys it. If he were to turn around one day and say that he wants it to go back to the way it was before I would respect him and do just that. I would still have several conversations with him about what would make him more comfortable with it and how we can both come to a place where we are both satisfied. Being that we have both agreed to be in an open relationship it wouldn't be that hard for me to go outside our relationship and get my fix for the rough and then go back home to him and have the vanilla.
10/23/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Zandrock
Would you stay in a relationship if your partner refused to partake in any BDSM related activities?
Yes, I have and would again. If we're incompatible in the sack, it won't work for me
10/23/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
No! of course not! i love him for him not just for how kinky he is! i've been in 'nilla relationships before, it's doable ..... His kinky side is just a huge perk lol
10/23/2012
Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
that would suck a lot but love is more imp than sex in my opinion. alwyas.
02/16/2013
Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
Depends on the relationship. Probably not, but I would ask some serious questions about why it was being taken off the menu.
02/19/2013
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Unique posters: 27